How descriptive do you like the sex scenes?

[sr71plt]

Well, can you site sources experienced in writing erotica who agree with you? You have a lot of experience writing erotica yourself? (Trots off to look at your story list.)

 

[TxRad]

So sorry wrong again, I am a silly bunny

Not really, you're just over thinking it. Without a story, you have porn. with a story and sex you have erotica, in general. Romance is a slow buildup story that can go with full on over the top sex at some point or it can hang on the emotions of the ones involved.

Write what you want, the way you want to write it. Since no one here pays you anything, you only have yourself to please. Now when they start talking money, you write their way. Then you come back to Lit to have fun writing again.

 

[TxRad]

Well, can you site sources experienced in writing erotica who agree with you? You have a lot of experience writing erotica yourself? (Trots off to look at your story list.)

He was calling himself wrong.

 

[lovecraft68]

I equate the difference between erotica and porn the way I think about sex in general

Porn is the story version of when the wife and I are horny, but its been a long day or we don't have a lot of time and its no more then her bending over, lifting the skirt and a quick hard fuck. Quick, to the point, we go to bed happy.

Erotica is the full show. Intimacy, kissing, oral, a lot of foreplay, positions, making a night of it. Generally the climax tends to be a lot more intense after a night like that because it was not a wham bam fulfilling of primal need, but a long sensuous experience that really builds up to the finish.

Story, conflict, well developed characters are foreplay in my eyes. The sex in an erotic story means more because the reader now knows the characters, their motivations and that makes the sex hotter because they are invested.

Porn is the one handed Jack/jill off story featuring just sex for pretty much sex sake, but it can do the trick when that's all one wants.

 

[GoldenCojones]

QUESTION 1: How descriptive do you like the sex?

QUESTION 2: Does anyone have good examples of well-written, paced, sex without being over the top?

Thanks for your thoughts.

1: I like GRAPHIC sex and lots of it. I write porn. Not by some of the definitions in this post, but by my definition. The stories I write are stories and there is a plot and I try to build my characters, but the sex is explicit with no hedging at all. I like it that way.

2: Nope, mine are definitely and intentionally over the top

 

[JackLuis]

I kind of agree with Tex, Porn, Erotica, Romance, all have different priorities.
I started at Lit writing what I termed Fuck Books, graphic greasy pussy fuck books. I tried to tempered them with characters and situations to make them plausible but they were graphic, but I hoped not pornographic.

I have lightened up a good bit but still have the tendency to be graphic, but hopefully not perverted.

 

[sr71plt]

He was calling himself wrong.

I took it as sarcasm. It's sort of the Internet syndrome. People think posting to the Internet represents equal knowledge or value of opinion. It doesn't; it means equal access to post. Giving definitions should still come with some experience in what you're giving definitions for--or a citation or two of the source you got that from.

 

[EmpressJosephine]

QUESTION 1: How descriptive do you like the sex?

I like them descriptive, but not dirty. I like the words to be proper, not vulgar. I also like realism.

QUESTION 2: Does anyone have good examples of well-written, paced, sex without being over the top?

I, not surprisingly, like the way sex is described in the role-plays I created and direct listed in my signature below.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

People like what they like, and what they like varies from one time to the next. Like hunger or thirst. Sometimes you feel like a nut, sometimes you don't. And all the above banter is whatever but mostly irrelevant because sexual appetite isn't static.

 

[TxRad]

People like what they like, and what they like varies from one time to the next. Like hunger or thirst. Sometimes you feel like a nut, sometimes you don't. And all the above banter is whatever but mostly irrelevant because sexual appetite isn't static.

Sexual appetite isn't the discussion. Please keep up.

 

[Hypoxia]

At the risk of being trite, descriptions should be as explicit as necessary to elicit desired reactions from readers. You want them weeping? Write sadly romantic, maybe tragic and unfulfilled. You want them fingering themselves? Write juicily explicit pr0n. You want angry comments? Write snarky.

How juicy do I like my sex scenes? Depends on the story -- anywhere from chaste to fuck-a-thon.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

Sexual appetite isn't the discussion. Please keep up.

TEX played "my other brother Daryl on the old Bob Newhart Show."

 

[Desperado1775]

I physically and mentally describe the characters. Through their relationship I set up the scenario where they will have sex. With as much detail as I can, with still making the story flow, I describe the sex. The situation or scenario where the sex occurs should influence how much detail is written. I hope that makes sense.

 

[SusanJillParker]

I am kicking around a few stories right now and here's where I stand:

I write the intro, I bring characters to life (kinda, I'm no professional) and the story develops, it starts getting good and juicy and .... well.... I get stuck on actual sex.

I feel like it's about driving imagination and letting the reader picture the events without zooming in on every drop of cum with 16 megapixels. But then the scenes seem kind of flat compared to what everyone else writes. But, how many ways can you really describe a blowjob before you just let a reader take control in their mind's eye?

QUESTION 1: How descriptive do you like the sex?

QUESTION 2: Does anyone have good examples of well-written, paced, sex without being over the top?

Thanks for your thoughts.

When it comes to writing a sex scene, description takes a backseat to imagery.

Don't tell the reader about the scene, show the reader the sex scene. They want to see what you see.

They want to feel it, taste it, hear it, smell it, and see it.

Close your eyes. Now picture the man and woman who are about to have sex. Envision it until you are with them in the room. Get closer to the woman. Touch her. How does she feel?

Taste her. Go ahead, give her a kiss before giving her a lick. What does her lips taste like? What does her pussy taste like?

Is she making noises? What does she sound like when you're giving her pleasure? What does she sound like when she has an orgasm?

Smell her hair. What does her shampoo smell like? Is she wearing perfume? What kind of perfume. Does her pussy have a pleasant or an unpleasant odor?

Now, you can weave her description in the story. Don't just dump it in a sentence but make us see her.

That's how you write a sex scene. You don't just describe it. You are there so that we can be there too.

 

[PervOtaku]

I think the newness of something is key. Whatever the sex is, it's going to be more vivid for the participant if it's a new partner, a new fetish acted out, a new roleplay, etc.

I tend to find myself escalating the level of fetish acts as a story continues, because I need something new to describe. If the scene only involves acts that have occurred before in that story, I gloss over the details and the scene ends up rather short.