It takes a long time for me to cum. 4 hours usually. 2-4 hours. Usually I give up after 4 if it hasn't happened. I have faked it a lot too and it's hard when you are with someone for a long time and pulling out for no reason but making one up. Anyway, I have always been upfront and honest about it but women seem to think I am making it up and then it happens and I have had more than one cry and at least one trying everything she could think of and others thought prostate but no and doctors too have been no help. What can speed it up? I have tried kegal exercises (i can move it up and down with my pelvic muscle) but nothing has made it faster and I am getting older (37) and can't spend 4+ hours having sex without cuming and then having someone feel like its their fault.