How can I kill my sex drive ?

[TimTim50]

I am married man in early 50's
My wife has zero interest in sex. The sexual frustration is driving me crazy. Is there a way to eliminate my sex drive? I don't want to take anything that would slow me down other ways.

 

[Rachel_X]

I am married man in early 50's
My wife has zero interest in sex. The sexual frustration is driving me crazy. Is there a way to eliminate my sex drive? I don't want to take anything that would slow me down other ways.

Chemical castration.
But that might be a bit extreme.

 

[monanympho]

meditate a lot...

 

[Hypoxia]

Chemical castration.
But that might be a bit extreme.

"I'd rather have a full bottle in front of me
than a pre-frontal lobotomy"​

You could smash your testicles with a hammer but that's a bit extreme too. You could try counseling. You could follow a traditional path: hookers, fuck-buddies, etc. You could read the many Living Wives stories here on non-responsiveness, take some hints. You could throw yourself into an obsessed frenzy leaving no room for thoughts of sex. You could enter a monastery. I won't suggest sheep.

 

[tnhardon]

I'll give you a serious suggestion instead: I would try masturbating to release your sex drive. I've found that if you have a way to release your sexual energy that it makes it easier to deal with lulls in sex.

If your sex drive is 24/7, you may want to go to the doctor and ask for help. You may have some sort of hormonal issue that could be controlled through medicine to reduce your sex drive.

 

[Zeb_Carter]

One of the side effects of Prozac is supposed to be a reduction in libido and that might be true for you. Unfortunately for me it only increased it. But a lot of drugs have the opposite effect on me than everyone else.

You might see if Prozac works for you. Ask your doctor.

There is one other side effect you might not want though...you don't care about anything. Now that one worked for me. I didn't give a shit about anything except getting off.

 

[JaxRhapsody]

Well it is an anti-depressant.

 

[HellBenttoo]

Chemo therapy worked pretty well for me.

 

[loverofintersex1]

I am married man in early 50's
My wife has zero interest in sex. The sexual frustration is driving me crazy. Is there a way to eliminate my sex drive? I don't want to take anything that would slow me down other ways.

Don't try. Relax, and go with the flow. You have a big long cock that likes to be played with? Play with it until it gets stiff, then play with it some more. Eventually you'll just lose it and come, and then you can relax for a while, and then clean yourself up. OK? You're a normal guy. Eventually, jerking off won't do it, and then it's up to you. A gal or a guy? Flirt within either one, get both of you a bit undressed, and see how far you feel like taking it. Sex is normal. Yours is hyper. So what? You're gonna find like-minded people out thee, and be thankful when you do. It's all good, honey. And it only gets better when you find yourself in bed with a very willing partner who wants to cone every bit as much as you do, and with won you can enjoy your mutual orgasms. Try it. You'll see. This is a place for hints, at the very least!

 

[Cumference]

As others have said:"if it kills your sex drive, the side effects are probably unpleasant"

How is your marriage apart from that?
Is it worth working for, or should you just divorce?

What does she say?



If the rest is great: Blow off the steam yourself or with someone else.

 

[TimTim50]

Thanks for the suggestions. I don't know if I am technically oversized. I just feel I need it more than 4 or 5 times a year.

Besides sex things are ok.

Guess I need to try to find some no strings attached fuck buddy.


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As others have said:"if it kills your sex drive, the side effects are probably unpleasant"

How is your marriage apart from that?
Is it worth working for, or should you just divorce?

What does she say?



If the rest is great: Blow off the steam yourself or with someone else.

 

[Giggolo_Joe]

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[MichaelinChina]

with a 44 Magnum!

 

[LadyVer]

I am married man in early 50's
My wife has zero interest in sex. The sexual frustration is driving me crazy. Is there a way to eliminate my sex drive? I don't want to take anything that would slow me down other ways.

I don't know what's worse, being single or in a relationship where the other partner has no interest in sex, which means no fucking intimacy.

 

[akatrex]

My ex had Zero Sex drive and she divorced me.

Best thing that ever happened to me ! ! !

After we split and within 90 days I discovered that there were women out there the wanted and enjoyed Sex!

She had the the audacity to call me and complain that I could not wait for the Divorce to be Final before have SEX! LOL!

 

[Giggolo_Joe]

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[LadyVer]

My ex had Zero Sex drive and she divorced me.

Best thing that ever happened to me ! ! !

After we split and within 90 days I discovered that there were women out there the wanted and enjoyed Sex!

She had the the audacity to call me and complain that I could not wait for the Divorce to be Final before have SEX! LOL!

Congrats!

 

[TimTim50]

Could try some Sexaholics Anonymous meetings (not saying you are one) but sit in, listen to some ., get some answers on how the longtime members have been able to pump the breaks on their urges. This method is solely for personal thought and reflection.

Meditation, prayer, talk to yourself about the pros and cons of this thinks, layoff all things sexual for a month at least or 90 days, until it becomes a habit or at least, habitual.

Or ... romance the hell out of your wife. Constantly ... the little things, like opening doors, buying a flower, cooking breakfast, talking ... whatever romantic people do. Or what you used to do and then, maybe, get laid all the time without the need to kill the sex drive.

Edit: 'Guess I need to try to find some no strings attached fuck buddy.' ... was this post a personal ad?

No it is not an ad. Lol


I do try the romance aspect. Dinners, breakfasts and I don't think I ever let a lady open a door,unless my hands were full from carrying their bags. I will cook most of the time and usually do the dishes.

I her a sexaholics meeting could be a good spot to pick up a one night stand.

 

[wdbtchr]

Not what it's cracked up to be.

No it is not an ad. Lol


I do try the romance aspect. Dinners, breakfasts and I don't think I ever let a lady open a door,unless my hands were full from carrying their bags. I will cook most of the time and usually do the dishes.

I her a sexaholics meeting could be a good spot to pick up a one night stand.

Just a word of advice, sexaholics is not a good choice mostly an urban myth, not sexaholics but the concept of easy sex. Never boink someone of either sex that's crazier than you are. Trust me on this!

 

[amofiga]

While it may not be an answer that everyone wants to hear or agree with, rather than killing your own sex drive, why not find a woman who is facing the same sort of issue with a husband that no longer has interest in sex. Perhaps the two of you can find some ways of mutually satisfying your frustrations. Basically, that's what I did. Before I get slammed by the morals police here, let me just say that probably about 40-50% of married people in the world are in the same boat and have found similar solutions. If you haven't walked in their shoes, please don't judge.

 

[Pink_Milkmaid]

I'm in a marriage with vastly different sex drives. Mastubation is my salvation. I try to make my private time as satisfying as I possibly can. This helps because I'm much less bitter. Buy yourself toys, take time for a long session, etc. I also try hard to remember the lovable parts of him and really try to appreciate them. I've tried other things to reduce my sex drive, but none outside of exercise and masturbation really seem to make much difference in my drive. An affair as many are suggesting may not be the answer for you, so be cautious there. You can't put the genie back in the bottle once you go that route.

 

[phelon]

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I am married man in early 50's
My wife has zero interest in sex. The sexual frustration is driving me crazy. Is there a way to eliminate my sex drive? I don't want to take anything that would slow me down other ways.

I'd try to give you advice, but the lack of details in this OP leaves so many possibilities.

Has it always been this way for you both?
did something happen that changed her sex drive?
does she regularly see a doctor and get full check ups?
have you checked with your doctor?


Most medical treatments would have side effects, but knowing your hormones are normal would be a first step. A good second step would be finding out if hers are normal. then you get into the belief issue.. Does she have some moral belief preventing her from wanting sex? Has she overfilled her time so she is too tired to want any? all of these are things to take to couples therapy.

If the therapy and medical side does not find you a solution, that's when you should weigh the issue of an outside partner. At the least if it does blow up in your face you can honestly say you did what you could before trying the option.


good luck

 

[malefica]

Have you actually tried talking to her about it?

 

[Ewobbit]

I am married man in early 50's
My wife has zero interest in sex. The sexual frustration is driving me crazy. Is there a way to eliminate my sex drive? I don't want to take anything that would slow me down other ways.

Heyla TimTim,

I feel your pain.

My wife and I met in her thirties. Literally, it was not unheard of for us to have sex seven times per day. And some days, even that wasn't enough for one or the other of us and the one who was still wanting would masturbate in the other's arms.

Enter ovarian cysts and then ruptured ovarian cysts. The spirit was willing but the flesh was "get that thing the fuck away from me". Bless her, she tried to do things for me during that time, but giving me a blowjob or handjob would stir up her desires and result in ache.

Then a full hysterectomy (and an embarrassing as hell conversation with the gyno about uterine bruising) and we were one of the lucky couples in that her sex drive did not drop off. And with the lack of pain, we were back to "bow-chicka-bow-bow" and "make me write bad checks and call me your cheap slut sex-poodle".

Unfortunately, health problems kicked in once more with a mass in her brain and her vertebrae wearing through her spinal cord resulting in a loss of feeling (Docs aren't sure which is more to blame) and eventually desire.

I have occasionally had short term affairs. But, frankly, they usually ended badly. That is, my sex partner overlooked my clear statement that we were fuck buddies and I would NOT leave my wife and wanted something more permanent with me. And I ended up telling them that that if they couldn't take the sex without something more, then they couldn't have the sex either. (While a couple did turn a bit stalkerish, at least none of them killed my cat.)

Woody Allen said "Don't knock masturbation. It's sex with someone I love."

And frankly, it works out better for all concerned on this end. She's not worried about me leaving her. Nobody else is hoping I will. Not to mention jealous boyfriends/husbands/girlfriends/stalkers coming at me with orders to stay away from their "property".

Other than that, I would just reiterate what others have said... Talk. AND listen.

 

[HairyBag]

All i can say is that least few gave some sensible advise
Best would be talk and go for a counselling... Meditation works if you are committed...

Fuck buddies / Medicine should be kinda ladt resort if you are really in Love with your partner... But then if nothing works... I did saw a lots of other advises too