How best to address your master and how best to submit with power?

[samsdolly]

I'm entering a new relationship and address now as sir and master, but there must be other ways to please him.
Ideas would be well-received.

Also, what signs does a dom see from his sub that really show the sub's power at her station? What makes him feel his power to the fullest?

 

[center_stage]

You might want to try posting this question in the BDSM forum. Might have better luck.

 

[samsdolly]

I am entering a new relationship and address now as sir and master, but there must be other ways to please him.
Ideas would be well-received.

Also, what signs does a dom see from his sub that really show the sub's power at her station? What makes him feel his power to the fullest?

 

[callinectes]

These are questions you should be asking the other person in your relationship.

 

[SweetErika]

I'm entering a new relationship and address now as sir and master, but there must be other ways to please him.
Ideas would be well-received.

The best way to address your Dominant is in the manner he wishes to be addressed and has instructed you to do so. If yours wants you to call him Sir/Master, Grand Poobah of the Poop Chute, Fucking Bastard! or Mistress, then those are proper for you and him.

You'll likely want to talk about how he'd like to be addressed in a variety of social and professional situations, e.g. with different friends, family, in public, at community events, with coworkers, etc., if you haven't done so already. (Hopefully you have if you have an M/s relationship.)

Also, what signs does a dom see from his sub that really show the sub's power at her station? What makes him feel his power to the fullest?

You've more or less lost me with these, but I'll give them a shot. When my sub submits to difficult and/or unpleasant tasks, I'm reminded even more of his strength and power (it takes a lot of both to endure and give what he does to me). For example, seeing him taking a particularly hard caning, accept a punishment or do something he fears are very powerful acts in my eyes. Similarly, him giving me the power to enact those things, in addition to everything else, makes me feel the power even more. However, him coming to me for affection, comfort, care, etc., often evokes just as much emotion and power in me.

In short, it's his dependence on me for need fulfillment and to do what's best for him that makes me feel powerful. I depend on him in many of the same ways, so he's in a very powerful position in that respect as well.

C_S is right, though; the BDSM forums are the best for discussions like this. You might ask LadyG, our moderator, to move this thread over there, but at the very least, go check them out and be sure to read the BDSM Library sticky at the top of BDSM Talk because it's full of useful information and resources for newbies and veterans of the lifestyle alike.

 

[myinnerslut]

callinectes is right. some people feel power when they see thier pyl kneel in front of them. some people feel power when they make thier pyl cry. or when they hear Sir or Master. there is no way to tell how someone feels power without knowing them or asking them.

*pyl= pick your label (slave, submissive, etc)
PYL- Pick Your Label (Sir, Master, Mistress, etc)

 

[samsdolly]

All good, thank you. We've discussed titles, and are comfortable with them, but sometimes it just seems insufficient. Fucking bastard is a good one, but out of my reach at this time.

As for my other question, your answers were perfect. Exactly how I felt about it. Thank you again.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I'm entering a new relationship and address now as sir and master, but there must be other ways to please him.
Ideas would be well-received.

As others have said, ask _him_. Since we don't know him, we would have absolutely no clue what would please him.

Also, what signs does a dom see from his sub that really show the sub's power at her station? What makes him feel his power to the fullest?

Her obedience to my comands. Her initiative to do things to make my life easier. Her kindness and generosity and compassion for others. She is mine and a reflection of me. When she does things that _I_ would be proud of if I did them, I am proud of her.

 

[liberatedslave]

Her obedience to my comands. Her initiative to do things to make my life easier. Her kindness and generosity and compassion for others. She is mine and a reflection of me. When she does things that _I_ would be proud of if I did them, I am proud of her.

This is a good post, anticipating your partner's needs and doing your best to learn him as a person and how best he'd like to be served is a good place to start. Act always as though he can see you, whether he can or not and try to be always someone he'd be proud of. I must confess I do do that, imagine Sir is always watching me. We're still LDR so it makes me feel less alone when I go two weeks or more without seeing him.

*wistful, lonesome sigh*

On a basic level, you should submit to your partner in whatever way they praise and reward you for. Can't go wrong there

 

[MasterPhoenix]

I definately cosign with those who have said to ask your PYL, because they know what pleases them.

Basically by being the best sub you can be, you will make your PYL proud.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

So wise...

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As others have said, ask _him_. Since we don't know him, we would have absolutely no clue what would please him.


Her obedience to my comands. Her initiative to do things to make my life easier. Her kindness and generosity and compassion for others. She is mine and a reflection of me. When she does things that _I_ would be proud of if I did them, I am proud of her.

 

[ladyscottishwhore]

ask him that is your best bet