how are you sure?

[milmayes]

My wife has brought up the idea of finding a girl to bring home and for me to have sex with this girl while she watches.

How do I make sure this isn't just bedroom talk? We have talked about it more than once before, usually in the context of a threesome not just her watching.Though lately it has been mostly her saying she wanted to see me said girl foggy style while she watched

Second how do I go about finding this other girl? Would she have as good a chance of picking another girl up solo or is it best as a pair to pick up the girl?

She has said that if she were to try being with another girl itd have to be a hot one.

 

[MisterSir]

How do I make sure this isn't just bedroom talk?

For this iteration of the third-most common answer to a How To topic, I'm going to speak in haiku.

Here is an idea.
Why not ask her about it?
We don't know, do we?

For reference, the second most common answer to a How To topic is "No, other people like that as well" and the most common answer is "Yes, I really am that gorgeous in person. The camera actually makes me look less attractive, that's why I don't take pictures."

 

[VelvetDarkness]

He's not the fluffiest agony uncle here but MS has a point. You don't want to get into anything like this without a lot of frank discussion beforehand. Will this be just a one-off or a casual play-partner? Where will your boundaries be regarding play? What about contraception and avoiding STDs? What do you both really want to gain from an encounter like this and what can you offer some random chick beyond a couple of warm bodies? How you prevent jealousy and deal with the potential emotional fall out from something like this?

There are plenty of sites where you can seek a bi-curious girl online or you could also try a bar, but good luck with that. Wanting to just watch you fuck her sounds like your girl has a submissive streak perhaps, in which case you need to discuss that and make sure any play partner knows exactly what she's getting into. Don't let booze fuel something like this, the consequences could be disastrous.

 

[Eilan]

Well played, MisterSir. I'm a bit partial to iambic pentameter, but haiku is more than sufficient.

As for the OP. . .

The best way to make sure this isn't bedroom talk is to talk about it outside of the bedroom. In addition to what's already been said, I'd just like to add that IMO, both of you should be involved in picking out the third person. Know that it's far more difficult to find a female for a threesome (or for your wife to watch you with) than it is to find a male. Chances are, you're not just going to be able to walk into a bar and come home with a threesome partner.

 

[Earl]

Go to the Bunny Ranch and take your pick. Safe, clean, and no strings attached.

 

[mark_j]

My wife has brought up the idea of finding a girl to bring home and for me to have sex with this girl while she watches.

How do I make sure this isn't just bedroom talk? We have talked about it more than once before, usually in the context of a threesome not just her watching.Though lately it has been mostly her saying she wanted to see me said girl foggy style while she watched

Second how do I go about finding this other girl? Would she have as good a chance of picking another girl up solo or is it best as a pair to pick up the girl?

She has said that if she were to try being with another girl itd have to be a hot one.

It is her idea. She'd have a better chance of finding the "right girl" a whole lot better than you would.

As for the first question, if she brings a woman home for you then you have your answer, if not then it was all fantasy.

 

[satindesire]

//hijack//

He's not the fluffiest agony uncle here but MS has a point.

What are you talking about, Velvet?! He's fluffier than a ragdoll kitten straight out a dryer set on fluff without a dryer sheet!




//endhijack//