Hot wife but not a hotwife

[MikeCeeBee3]

Hi all. New here. Signed up in part as outlet to vent and get feedback on some things. I am 49M, good shape, and my wife is same age, very beautiful bright eyes and smile, great figure and honestly aging very well, looks better than most 25-year-olds in jeans. She was the "it" girl in college. Every guy she met would've married her. Same type lady now. Former gymnast, and it shows. She's been compared by friends to Rebecca Ferguson, Heather Graham, Jennifer Garner, Dakota Fanning (older version). Nice looking lady. Her voice could be on aphone sex line. We have a basically happy marriage. I am also her first and only. She cums almost every last time we have sex. So why then do I have these intense fantasies of sharing her? I am not a cuck. I don't have a small dick. I am personally proud and not a wimp. When I ask her to think about it during sex, she does and really, genuinely enjoys it. Specific guys she picks. When I've raised the idea of the real thing, she laughs it off. No way. But she has this adventurous streak and I can't help but think that in the right situation, something could happen. I have not pressed. I respect her take. Wondering input from others in similar boat. Other safe and sensible outlets for this? Things to talk to her about? I don't want to sound like an ingrate. I am happy and grateful. But intense waves of wanting this.

 

[Swingcuriouscpl]

I am virtually in the same boat...cant explain it, probly wont ever happen, but its where were at

 

[Mittering]

Did not just stick to this fantasy when you share with her. Share different kinds of fantasies whether your into them or not. Let it be known what your favorite is tho. You might stumble on a fantasy she has and then the bargaining can begin. Or better yet, the combining both fantasies.

Tunnel vision on this will get old fast.

 

[MikeCeeBee3]

Thanks for feedback. Would love input on how to get toward my fantasy if not all the way to it. Something perhaps she'd like and which she'd try and would scratch the itch for me. She is not a bore but tends to be private (although certainly not a wallflower)

 

[Tina_LeVoiturier]

Hi all. New here. Signed up in part as outlet to vent and get feedback on some things. I am 49M, good shape, and my wife is same age, very beautiful bright eyes and smile, great figure and honestly aging very well, looks better than most 25-year-olds in jeans. She was the "it" girl in college. Every guy she met would've married her. Same type lady now. Former gymnast, and it shows. She's been compared by friends to Rebecca Ferguson, Heather Graham, Jennifer Garner, Dakota Fanning (older version). Nice looking lady. Her voice could be on aphone sex line. We have a basically happy marriage. I am also her first and only. She cums almost every last time we have sex. So why then do I have these intense fantasies of sharing her? I am not a cuck. I don't have a small dick. I am personally proud and not a wimp. When I ask her to think about it during sex, she does and really, genuinely enjoys it. Specific guys she picks. When I've raised the idea of the real thing, she laughs it off. No way. But she has this adventurous streak and I can't help but think that in the right situation, something could happen. I have not pressed. I respect her take. Wondering input from others in similar boat. Other safe and sensible outlets for this? Things to talk to her about? I don't want to sound like an ingrate. I am happy and grateful. But intense waves of wanting this.

It's not difficult, if you go in the right direction. every fantasy will come true.

 

[MikeCeeBee3]

I have to say, it's also funny that years ago I would talk to her about inviting a lady into our bed. She was not hostile to that idea but it was a bit of the same dynamic. I almost think I should go back to that! Would not be the worst thing(!)

 

[Tina_LeVoiturier]

I have to say, it's also funny that years ago I would talk to her about inviting a lady into our bed. She was not hostile to that idea but it was a bit of the same dynamic. I almost think I should go back to that! Would not be the worst thing(!)

Take action, start with mini games.

 

[MikeCeeBee3]

Take action, start with mini games.

like what

 

[Jay142]

You can start with some exhibitionism. That's how I got my wife started. It can be going without a bra or wearing a short skirt and giving some men an upskirt view of her panties and then her bare pussy. See-through dresses are nice too. My wife would do this when we were out of town where she felt more comfortable. Many room service waiters saw her in her sexy lingerie. We'd leave the hotel curtains open with the lights on. I'd undress her in front of the window and then we'd fuck. We had an audience a few times. She started modeling lingerie for me and a friend which eventually led to her fucking him. We felt more comfortable with someone we knew and trusted while other women might be more comfortable with a stranger. Alcohol always loosened her up too.

 

[Tina_LeVoiturier]

You can start with some exhibitionism. That's how I got my wife started. It can be going without a bra or wearing a short skirt and giving some men an upskirt view of her panties and then her bare pussy. See-through dresses are nice too. My wife would do this when we were out of town where she felt more comfortable. Many room service waiters saw her in her sexy lingerie. We'd leave the hotel curtains open with the lights on. I'd undress her in front of the window and then we'd fuck. We had an audience a few times. She started modeling lingerie for me and a friend which eventually led to her fucking him. We felt more comfortable with someone we knew and trusted while other women might be more comfortable with a stranger. Alcohol always loosened her up too.

Exactly

 

[FidelityBoss]

Hi all. New here. Signed up in part as outlet to vent and get feedback on some things. I am 49M, good shape, and my wife is same age, very beautiful bright eyes and smile, great figure and honestly aging very well, looks better than most 25-year-olds in jeans. She was the "it" girl in college. Every guy she met would've married her. Same type lady now. Former gymnast, and it shows. She's been compared by friends to Rebecca Ferguson, Heather Graham, Jennifer Garner, Dakota Fanning (older version). Nice looking lady. Her voice could be on aphone sex line. We have a basically happy marriage. I am also her first and only. She cums almost every last time we have sex. So why then do I have these intense fantasies of sharing her? I am not a cuck. I don't have a small dick. I am personally proud and not a wimp. When I ask her to think about it during sex, she does and really, genuinely enjoys it. Specific guys she picks. When I've raised the idea of the real thing, she laughs it off. No way. But she has this adventurous streak and I can't help but think that in the right situation, something could happen. I have not pressed. I respect her take. Wondering input from others in similar boat. Other safe and sensible outlets for this? Things to talk to her about? I don't want to sound like an ingrate. I am happy and grateful. But intense waves of wanting this.

It’s great that you’re open about your fantasies and that your wife is willing to engage with them during intimate moments. It sounds like you’re both in a healthy, communicative relationship, which is awesome. Since she’s not ready (or interested) in taking things further, maybe explore other ways to keep the fantasy alive, role-playing, dirty talk, or even writing out scenarios together. It’s all about finding a balance that works for both of you without pushing boundaries. Keep the communication open and enjoy the adventure within your comfort zones!

 

[FidelityBoss]

You can start with some exhibitionism. That's how I got my wife started. It can be going without a bra or wearing a short skirt and giving some men an upskirt view of her panties and then her bare pussy. See-through dresses are nice too. My wife would do this when we were out of town where she felt more comfortable. Many room service waiters saw her in her sexy lingerie. We'd leave the hotel curtains open with the lights on. I'd undress her in front of the window and then we'd fuck. We had an audience a few times. She started modeling lingerie for me and a friend which eventually led to her fucking him. We felt more comfortable with someone we knew and trusted while other women might be more comfortable with a stranger. Alcohol always loosened her up too.

Starting with exhibitionism is a great idea, it’s a low-pressure way to dip your toes into sharing fantasies without jumping straight into the deep end. Out-of-town adventures, like leaving curtains open or wearing risqué outfits, can add excitement while keeping things safe and controlled. It’s awesome that you’re taking it slow and respecting her comfort level. Just keep the communication open and have fun exploring together!

 

[kevinbrighton]

Starting with exhibitionism is a great idea, it’s a low-pressure way to dip your toes into sharing fantasies without jumping straight into the deep end. Out-of-town adventures, like leaving curtains open or wearing risqué outfits, can add excitement while keeping things safe and controlled. It’s awesome that you’re taking it slow and respecting her comfort level. Just keep the communication open and have fun exploring together!

Chardonnay is magic.

 

[Not Normal]

I feel like bringing up the fantasies when not in the throws of a sexual encounter would be a good idea. It sounds like you have both a healthy marriage and a healthy sex life, both of which mean good communication. So communicate. Be honest "I keep thinking about the fantasy of seeing/knowing about you with another man., have you thought about it outside of the bedroom?" Let the conversation flow. Follow up, see what happens.

 

[Walkabout33]

I married my first wife when we both 22. For the first few years all was normal but then I noticed her flirting allot when we were out or with friends. At first I found this difficult but eventually I found it a turn on, wandering about just how far she would really go.

Her first affair came about when she told me a couple weeks knew, husband had made a pass at her in his kitchen during a party. When I really pushed he it turned out they had snogged, when he groped her tits she felt his cock hard against her leg and her hand automatically went for it. Unfortunately they heard someone open a door and had to break away from each other.

As you can imagine my anticipation about what might of happened went wild and eventually we agreed that she should invite him round while I was away..

And that how it all began.

We split up 10 years later but still remained friends and for several years continued to have sex. Which led to me visiting her late one evening only to find to different men’s spunk in her. I certainly didn’t waste it.

 

[wouldloveto]

You can start with some exhibitionism. That's how I got my wife started. It can be going without a bra or wearing a short skirt and giving some men an upskirt view of her panties and then her bare pussy. See-through dresses are nice too. My wife would do this when we were out of town where she felt more comfortable. Many room service waiters saw her in her sexy lingerie. We'd leave the hotel curtains open with the lights on. I'd undress her in front of the window and then we'd fuck. We had an audience a few times. She started modeling lingerie for me and a friend which eventually led to her fucking him. We felt more comfortable with someone we knew and trusted while other women might be more comfortable with a stranger. Alcohol always loosened her up too.

Oh my, You are THE Jay 142, I have been reading your stuff for years! Thanks! Oh, and I agree with this take.

 

[YJJeepguy]

My wife and I also share the fantasy of her being fucked by another guy with me there too for a MFM threesome. We’ve never gone any further than our own bedroom with this. I don’t think she will ever actually cross that line. We do have many dildos to act out the fantasy. Larger than my cock for excitement and strangeness for her. When we do get to play this out it is some of the hottest sex I’ve ever had.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Perhaps write about it but keep it to yourself.

I've heard of too many people who just wanted their hot wife or husband pleasured by someone else and it didn't work out at all. The actual act of another cock entering her pussy or asshole shattered the fantasy to pieces.

 

[SusanHoward]

Aww!

 

[Lifestyle66]

Hi all. New here. Signed up in part as outlet to vent and get feedback on some things. I am 49M, good shape, and my wife is same age, very beautiful bright eyes and smile, great figure and honestly aging very well, looks better than most 25-year-olds in jeans. She was the "it" girl in college. Every guy she met would've married her. Same type lady now. Former gymnast, and it shows. She's been compared by friends to Rebecca Ferguson, Heather Graham, Jennifer Garner, Dakota Fanning (older version). Nice looking lady. Her voice could be on aphone sex line. We have a basically happy marriage. I am also her first and only. She cums almost every last time we have sex. So why then do I have these intense fantasies of sharing her? I am not a cuck. I don't have a small dick. I am personally proud and not a wimp. When I ask her to think about it during sex, she does and really, genuinely enjoys it. Specific guys she picks. When I've raised the idea of the real thing, she laughs it off. No way. But she has this adventurous streak and I can't help but think that in the right situation, something could happen. I have not pressed. I respect her take. Wondering input from others in similar boat. Other safe and sensible outlets for this? Things to talk to her about? I don't want to sound like an ingrate. I am happy and grateful. But intense waves of wanting this.

First: Be careful what you wish for. Once you start down that rabbit hole and do it, there's no undoing it! Forever after, she will have been fucked by another guy! And any guy she gets with will be different, maybe worse than you or better, but definitely different for her and she might hate it. YOU will always remember that she did it, and that could change the way you react later during any arguments over anything.

I have two stories related to "first time" like this. "Lifestyle Ch. o5: Newbies" where the couple evolved into inviting a swinger couple to their house for the first time swap.

The second is a little closer to your situation with "Hot Wife-ing Gone Wrong" where the husband wanted his wife to go out and fuck another guy, then come home to tell him about it, but she's reluctant.

In that second story, the couple tries getting started via a swinger house party. So, there's one way to try fulfilling your wish ... IF ... you still want to go through with it.

Search online for "swinger lifestyle", set up an account on a free website for swingers, and try finding local meet ups via that website where others get together in public places and JUST TALK with each other. You'll find people you both like and dislike! But if you can find such meetups, it's on neutral ground just like any other party. I recommend starting in such "no pressure, public group" because you can both talk freely to others about it and in that group setting, walk away anytime either of you feels uncomfortable.

But I would recommend you think through all scenarios, be discreet, and BE CAREFUL with her safety. As the old maps used to warn beyond the known seas: "Here there be dragons!"

 

[MikeCeeBee3]

All good input, thanks everyone. I think caution is the best advice and sincerely appreciate this. I appreciate your not judging. She is shy, very shy, so even a few things of exhibitionism are a non-starter. She's hard to figure out but I've been at this a while and am pretty sure with the right (maybe unicorn) situation this could really be something, quite something. I don't want to provoke and be disrespectful to her, which leaves out the hail mary options. It's all good input tho so again thank you.

 

[Live4themoments]

If possible and you both are in agreement, try to find in a different state/city an adult club open to the public (for a fee). There used to be (a few years ago) a couple in Las Vegas. Both were clean, reasonable, and you could go if single or couple. There you both can enjoy voyeurism, just watching others having sex, some 3somes, 4somes, couples, even orgies. No pressure to participate, many just watch. This may peak her interest and want to take the next steps. Just be upfront with her since she has to be 100% onboard to enjoy the experience. Best of luck.

 

[MikeCeeBee3]

You know, after I posted I was just coming back to ask any thoughts on first steps toward this direction. The sex club came to mind assuming we could find one that seemed safe and not scuzzy. I think she'd go if we could find this although I don't know. Open to all suggestions that are safe and respectful for her. And @Live4themoments thank you!

 

[Live4themoments]

All you Vegas peeps, is Red Rooster and Green Door still around? Any other new ones not mentioned? I am in Vegas several times a year.

 

[MikeCeeBee3]

Welcome input about Philadelphia, NYC, Boston locations too?