Honesty

[TheReverand2014]

I would like to be completely honest with who I am and what I am doing here. I am just trying it out to see how it goes.
Facts about me that I am willing to share in the Thread.
1. I am in a sexless marriage. I mean that literally. My wife has some physical issues that make her completely asexual. (Not the case when me married, but transpired later)While I am extremely sexual. So I am looking for ways to alleviate my desires.
2. I have had two incredible relationships from here. Both flamed out because I was not honest from the get go. I am looking for a third, and going to try to be honest from the start.
3. I am 35, I am in the best shape of my life, (I weigh less and have more muscles than I did when I was 18) I spent the better part of my life learning so I am able to hold intelligent conversations.
4. Here is the deal breaker for some. I am a Pastor.
5. If I am on here I am extremely horny.
I honestly don’t know what I am going to receive or how this little experiment is going to turn out. So that’s it for an intro I welcome any new friends I might make. Feel free to PM me or send me a YIM and see where things go.

 

[TwelveIsOdd]

Hmmm, this is very interesting! I'm not interested (And I'm a guy, anyways), but I was wondering if you've ever read Sex and God? ( http://www.amazon.com/Sex-God-Religion-Distorts-Sexuality/dp/0970950543 ) If not, I'd recommend you do so!

It sounds like both you and your wife's lives could be improved(Especially your wife, if her issues have anything to do with shame/guilt) by it.

At any rate, best of luck to you!

 

[sexualman123]

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[TheReverand2014]

I have read it and you are right it is a good read. Her issues are not shame guilt though, they are purely physical.

 

[TheReverand2014]

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not really sure what you meant by that one?

 

[lonely_niceboy]

Well getting back to the thread title--honesty is what it important here.

Have you and your wife agreed that due to sexual difficulties/incompatibilities that it is ok for you seek relief online? If the answer is yes then it's a marital decision. But if you're sneaking around and doing it behind her back it will only introduce a further layer of problems into the marriage.

There is also the possibility that with extended contact and chats you may start to develop some very real feelings for your online partner over time--especially if you're presently feeling estranged from your wife. That could make things rather thorny to say the least...

Also you always run the risk, however small, of someone finding out and then trying to blackmail you. As a congregational leader you could be risking your livelihood.

I'm not trying to be a downer here. All I'm saying with this post is that there are several factors to consider before making any decision on this issue. I will readily agree that it is a complex and problematic situation.