Honesty in moderation

[cymbidia]

Honesty is essential, don't you think--especially as it concerns mods?

24 hours, B.
That's all.
barb

Last three posts to the thread: https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?threadid=172517&pagenumber=2

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Isn't this sort of stalking, harrassment, and snippiness usually reserved for the General Board?

 

[Netzach]

Hate to take the wind out of your sails, but I don't come here thinking everyone is who and what they say they are. If you're not who you say you are, I still get up, go to work tomorrow, come here briefly to ponder Pure and continue to needle rosco rathbone some more, who may well be a 70 yo Iowa farm wife. I could be a trucker in Berlin, who cares?

Even when I'm honest, I'm still the most extroverted, skillful, and witty version of myself. I'm sure everyone engages in this kind of self-editorial, at the very least.

I approach the 'net with a good deal of "there is no spoon" zen skepticism. If you are hoping your revelations shock and awe, they won't do that in my case.

 

[cymbidia]

Hello Johnny and thank you for your addition to the subject at hand. Before you ever found this place, though, there was a long history here (as these things are counted in net time)--and i was part of it. As a matter of fact, i kinda sorta founded this forum. This is just a teensy bit of old biz coming back to bite in the butt someone who's been duplicitous.

Netzach, thank you. A dose of common sense reality is always appreciated. However, this isn't for you--or for Johnny. It's for those of us who've been here since before this place was a place, for those of us who've been honest and honorable--and for those of us who have not been that, who've pretended to the rest of us.

This will mean almost nothing to you who are relatively new here (relatively new = within the last year or so). It shouldn't mean anything to you. You weren't here for the beginning of this.

I just want her to step up and tell the truth, a truth that is *long* overdue, a truth she should have told long ago--and not anything that will affect your perception of her but something that will mean something to those of us from back then, back when her telling the truth would have mattered.

Don't worry--i won't be staying.
After my work is done, i'm outta here.

A good day to you and yours,
barb



edited to fix a nick so it's spelled correctly. It's always a thing of some wincing sorrow to get *that* wrong--especially when you don't know the person.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

You know...if I were looking to esplore something completely opposite of my 'Lit persona', I would probably do it under a second screen name, at least until I felt comfortable enough in it to come out to people.

 

[cymbidia]

Yes.
So might i.
However, one could argue that exploring since January 2002 would be enough time...

with respect,
barb

 

[P. B. Walker]

Vindictive vendettas, the BDSM way.

 

[Mastersprincess]

<Netzach, thank you. A dose of common sense reality is always appreciated. However, this isn't for you--or for Johnny. It's for those of us who've been here since before this place was a place, for those of us who've been honest and honorable--and for those of us who have not been that, who've pretended to the rest of us. >


Since I'm essentially a newbie...I guess this isn't for me either. This sort of post makes me wonder, tho, if some people like you wish this place was still "before this place was a place."

Sites like this will continue to change, continue to have new faces, continue to evolve. Those who wish it to always remain the same will never be able to see how sites like this help us to learn ourselves, who we truly are. If we continue to evolve....then we continue to grow.

Personal attacks are hateful and senseless. I don't know you and I don't know what is behind all of this, so I will apologize for butting in. All I know is that I am a different person than I was yesterday....and who I will be tomorrow is yet to be seen. Can't that apply to all of us?

 

[Lancecastor]

Passive aggressive backbiting, backstabbing....*sigh*...how we've all missed you, Cym.

Say everyone...did you know Cym *started* this place?

Then left when people wouldn't jump for her and....started a new place?

Then left that place when people wouldn't jump for her and...went to another place?

And so on and so on....

Fuck off, Cym.

 

[Goddess Helena]

Thank you for reminding me why I rarely come here anymore.

Vindictive vendettas, the BDSM way.

Very true and very sad.



Helena

 

[incubus_dark]

Dear Netzach; wise view of the net world. I'm not even convinced any of you are real, let alone expect or care about your honesty.

And here I was thinking that this might not be a bad place to hang out.

 

[BlondGirl]

Hello again, Cym. It is good to see you again. I hope things are going well in your life. I have yet to wander over to the other thread that is linked but suppose this is a good time to do some wandering.

 

[Pure]

Honesty:

Cym said,
//Honesty in moderation
Honesty is essential, don't you think--especially as it concerns mods?

24 hours, B.
That's all.
barb //

It's unfortunate that cym is, by hinting here, raising unspedified complaints about the moderator, which she has stated in detail, elsewhere.

//Cym 6-02 (another thread)

P.S. You [Miss T] remember when LC was on my ass last year at this time and flaming me day after day after day after day after day for months? You remember coming into his threads and doing the empty-headed *giggle* and *smile* and *batting eyelashes* at him--all the while PMing me and expressing how sorry you were that you couldn't help me? Consider this my reply now to your cowardly duplicitiousness then. //

Some time last year, cym says, she (former mod) was being attacked by a third party and the new mod (miss T) did not defend her. But Miss T acted friendly.

Cym had a chance to complain then about moderatrion by the successor she picked. She didn't take it. Why bring it up now?

With this sort of motive on the table, cym's other complaint that Miss T has two cyber identities at another forum, has to be looked at. Is that the issue that causes cym to talk about 'honesty in moderators.'?

If people are happy with the moderation in recent months, I'm not sure why having two screennames or handles elsewhere is an issue. Miss T herself started a thread about 'switching' here recently, and if she wants to try on two hats elsewhere, I don't see the problem.

No one here has a duty to disclose all. Indeed a person can have two identities at literotica, as some do, so long as it's not for a malicious reason, say, to harass someone under another name.

Given the murkiness of the issue of 'two identities', one must fall back on cym own statement that she feels undefended in a some incidents that happened some time ago. I'll simply note that the 'free speech' nature of the forum makes it very unusual for a mod. to 'defend' someone, esp. with the method cym appears to have in mind, namely shutting up the critic, or taking down his posts.


Let's move on. Let past grudges, or issues unrelated to bdsm or to moderation by dealt with privately, or even... let go! (imagine).

I'm entirely pleased with the moderation of this forum.

Cym's announcing a 24 hr deadline seems unduly 'clint eastwood' as a means of dealing with Miss T's incarnations elsewhere:

Cyn said: (another thread)
//You have no choice, really.
If you don't come clean, fully and completely, then i'll do it for you.
You have 24 hours. //

 

[Netzach]

LOL.

It's a *fine* place to hang out, i_d.

Personally, I'm as I say I am which is how I think I am, anyway.

I'm sure you are too. However if I found out you were also posting as miss-sub-kitten69

I doubt it would ruin a moment of my life.

In fact, I might high five you, or ask you out.

 

[zanna]

LOL.

It's a *fine* place to hang out, i_d.

Personally, I'm as I say I am which is how I think I am, anyway.

I'm sure you are too. However if I found out you were also posting as miss-sub-kitten69

I doubt it would ruin a moment of my life.

In fact, I might high five you, or ask you out.

i just spewed diet rite on my monitor lol...thanks Netzach!

 

[Chicklet]

Honesty is essential, don't you think--especially as it concerns mods?

In a real life relationship, yes. Online? No. Miss_Taken is a good moderator, she does her job. That is as good a reason as any for her to be a moderator on any forum (obviously, since she could just delete any post by you if she wanted to.) If she wants to post under more than one identity, that is fine by me. Personally, I think every person has a right to secrecy, to be protected from anything they think they need protecting from. Miss_T isn't being dishonest if she's using more than one screen name. She has the freedom to do whatever she wants.

Don't let anybody get you down, Miss_T.

 

[Master_Vassago]

In the more grand scheme of things. Who the fuck cares. I know if I desired to be submissive I sure as hell wouldn't do it under this name. Nor would anyone ever find out who I was. Not that it's in the future, but I could wake up one day and be like, hey I need to find a Mistress to wail away on Me. And there you go.

This should have nothing to do with Miss T's moderator duties. SO what if she has an alter ego profile. I have one or two others Myself for when I would prefer to be anonymous and lurk, and post at random.

Roll up and toss your snowball into hell Cym because I think you will soon realize that there are those of Us that could care less about your thoughts on the matter. I have only had rare encounters with Miss T but answer Me this. Does she do her moderator job well? Does her alter ego present a serious problem by running rampant over the board creating chaos? NO, and NO.

Miss T, I do hope you will ignore this because in all honesty it makes no difference what closed minded people think. Have a good day everyone.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

I personally don't care what MissT does in her personal life. She does a great job moderating, and that's fine with me. I don't like bullies.

Got your back MissT

~anelize

 

[SilkVelvet]

Dissing a Moderator is just not something that should done IMO.

 

[Sandia]

Honesty is essential, don't you think--especially as it concerns mods?

24 hours, B.
That's all.
barb

Last three posts to the thread: https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?threadid=172517&pagenumber=2

06-02-2003 11:07 PM


It's now 11:37 AM, so I guess there's 12 hours left.

It's like livin at the OK Corral.

By the way, Cym, you didn't pick MissT, I did.

 

[zanna]

i am still new here and maybe i have no business responding to this, but i think your threats and your behavior are shameful and more, they show a rather ugly side of you. No one is entitled online or off to know every detail about another's life.

MissT does her "job" here. That is where it ends. Whether she has an alter ego, i say good for her for being honest with herself to explore who she is or may be, including coming back at a later date and saying i used to think this but now i am not so sure...

MissT has done nothing wrong. And from your own words, this is NOT about honesty, but more based in vengence.

Keep your head up, MissT.

 

[catalina_francisco]

We are pretty new here, but I have been on other forums, and this one is by far the most open, honest, intellectual, friendly one.

This is due in major part to MissT, we should praise her for doing such excellent work as moderator.

F & C

 

[Jimi]

Honesty is essential, don't you think--especially as it concerns mods?

24 hours, B.
That's all.
barb

Cymmie Dear...

I am absolutely appalled at your behaviour! esp. towards someone who has supported you when you've been in the deepest parts of the dark depths you call your life.

My "Cyber-Sis" is a wonderful woman, who is really excited about exploring a new side of her sexuality - and just because she doesn't want the "cattle-prod" treatment, Cym - is no reason to castigate her...

AND to share PM's with all & sundry! Fawk me, woman - You, of the Rule-governed life.

SHAME, SHAME!

 

[zipman]

Cym,

Your posts about MissT are absolutely disgraceful! MissT has been a great moderator here, and doesn't deserve to be treated in this manner.

I find it more than telling that you did a drive-by flaming of Pure a few months ago, and now return to flame some more. While you may have been instrumental in helping to create this forum, your actions since you left have been simply deplorable.

I agree with Jimi6996 completely. You should be ashamed of yourself! You can take your condescending attitude and shove it up your ass.

This forum has grown and is a less judgemental, more welcoming place than it was under your moderation.

 

[Guest]

Miss T's a moderator?