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[Warped_Devotion]

Hi all, I'm new to the board but I've been visiting Literotica for a good while.


Ok on with the topic.....


What should a guy do if he has a small cock and a women is turned off by it? Well that's me. I hate to admit it, but I aint got a big cock at all. I've never messured it, but its at least 4'5'' to 5'' when fully erect, and its skinny. Plust I'm a quick cummer. When I jerk myself off I last maybe a minuet, when a girl does it I last a little over a minuet.


How can I end up keeping a girl when she's turnned off by my cock?

 

[Connavar]

I think part of the main problem is learning how to use what you have. If you are worried about cumming too quickly when you masturbate or are given oral, slow down and try to delay cumming. If you hold yourself off and don't capitulate (basically say "I've got to cum, now!" Then you can start delaying your orgasm.

I know that I lengthened my orgasm time by learning to feel my limits, backing off at that point, cooling down a bit, and then going back with a vengence and so on. Patience really is virtue in this circumstance as far as I'm concerned.

Remember though - just because you want to delay your orgasm doesn't mean you can't keep her (or him) on edge too, take the breaks as they come and lepp your partner excited. There's nothing worse than letting things tail off.

I also found that by putting myself to the brink and then backing off helped to increase my orgasm. It really made it that much stronger.

 

[Warped_Devotion]

Hmm......thanks I'll try that.

 

[wicked woman]

You're young....perhaps inexperienced....coming quickly isn't that uncommon at your age.

First of all 5-7" erect is average size so I wouldn't worry about your size. Besides the size competition is mostly a male thing. Look at it this way...your size is a bonus for deep throating and anal. Glass half full attitude...try it

Second...it's more about attitude and technique. Try masturbating a few hours before you expect to have sex. Try a cock ring...there shole purpose is to keep an erection longer. Try concentrating on pleasuring your lover versus thinking about you getting your rocks off...it can still be exciting but in a different way.

Just a few suggestions.

 

[Eating_Scarlett]

You're young....perhaps inexperienced....coming quickly isn't that uncommon at your age.

First of all 5-7" erect is average size so I wouldn't worry about your size. Besides the size competition is mostly a male thing. Look at it this way...your size is a bonus for deep throating and anal. Glass half full attitude...try it

Second...it's more about attitude and technique. Try masturbating a few hours before you expect to have sex. Try a cock ring...there shole purpose is to keep an erection longer. Try concentrating on pleasuring your lover versus thinking about you getting your rocks off...it can still be exciting but in a different way.

Just a few suggestions.

^^^ good adivce

 

[Bobmi357]

The good lord saw fit to give you one dick, which you feel is undersized and apparently that attitude is being reenforced by your woman.

My advice.

a) If the woman is that concerned about size and is complaining to you AND continues to complain even after you follow the other advice in this post, DUMP HER. I lived with a woman for 12 years that complained about me. When I finally got smart and left her, I was convinced I was incapable of ever pleasing a woman. Its a crushing blow to a guys ego, it hurts, its depressing, its not worth going through, believe me.

Now onto some more useful advice.....

b) Ok so you're short in one area, but you still have 10 fingers and a tongue. If you learn to use them skillfully, she won't mind you being a little on the light side.

Learn to use your fingers to manually stimulate her clit, both during foreplay and while having penetrative sex. Learn to give her head til she can't take it no more.

It is very difficult for a man to make love to a woman when she's already voiced a complaint about his size. Learning to compensate with your hands and tongue will help to a large extent, and having the right attitude also helps. But I think its wrong to stay with a woman that is so shallow and hurtful.

 

[webber1998]

Hey, there is nothing wrong with a 4 1/2 - 5 inch cock. If the other person doesn't like it and there is nothing that you can do about the size, either she gets over it or not. If you find a woman and she is turned off by your smaller sized cock, then to hell with her.

There are plenty of other areas where you can excel, besides the cock size.

I had the premature ejaculation problem when I was a LOT younger. Very early twenties. I always have been, and still am, easily excitable. Just learned to relax some, SLOW DOWN and never had the problem again. (Well, should NEVER say NEVER !!!! )

 

[SexyChele]

Wicked Woman and Bobmi gave some great advice!

First of all, exactly how many women have been turned off? One? Three? Ten?

Here, I'll let ya in on something from "old" 43 year old. It ain't in the dick, sweetheart, k? Learn to love a woman's whole body. Find out just where those little spots are that drive her crazy. Her neck? The earlobe? The small of her back? Take your time. Tease her with your tongue, lips, and fingers. And don't go right for the breasts and pussy, k?

When things start to get hot, use your fingers lightly along her pussy. Find out what causes her to push towards you, what makes her sigh, when she gasps. Learn to use that tongue! Now, I'm gonna let you in on a HUGE female secret. Listening? Develope your oral skils with a woman's pussy and she won't even know if you have a dick or not! A man who will eat pussy, likes to eat pussy, and has developed some skill at it is a man a woman will not like to let go!

Always, and I mean always, make certain she has had at least one orgasm first. Or several if she is multi-orgasmic. Never think that sticking your dick in a pussy is going to somehow automatically satisfy her.

When it comes time for penetration? Keep in mind that you are average - and that is a good thing. There are certain positions that feel best for a man who is now overly endowed. They can be: woman on top, missionary position with her legs over your shoulders, and from behind. You might also try a scissors formation. Play around, try different positions and see what works for both of you. (You might like a position that is uncomfortable for her and vice versa)

As for quick ejaculation? Get yourself close to the point to where you think you might come but are not out of control. Pull out. Spend a few minutes kissing, fondling, doing more oral on her. Then, once the urge has passed, try penetration again. And don't expect this to go away overnight. You are very young and this will probably improve with age. Besides, another little secret, we women don't always like hours long fuck sessions. And we like to have things mixed up a little. Keeps us off guard, ya know?

Don't make excuses for being "too small" and don't worry about it. I have an averaged-sized clit. Sure, I'd like to have a bigger one as I think they are kinda cool looking. But I don't. I have what I have and it works well and my partner is happy with it. I accept it and move on. You should as well. You might want to share with your partner that you ejaculate too quickly and are working on it. I know of very few women who wouldn't be willing to help out - especially if you become very adept at fingers and tongue!

Good luck!

 

[College_geek]

Being about the same age as you, I can understand where you're coming from about penis size. I always fret about my small breasts. Everything that everyone is saying here is true, but sometimes it's really difficult to believe it especially at this age, where both genders usually seem to be obsessed with size. When I see guys drooling over thin, large breasted women, it makes me feel inferior and unattractive. I know some girls who would act like the ones you speak of and would be rude enough to complaint about the size of a man's cock. I think one of the main things is maturity and experience in this sense. Everyone on this board is older and wiser than I am in these subjects, and it shows in their confidence levels. My boyfriend's cock is about the same size as yours and I love it. I wouldn't change it for the world. I think most girls (yes girls, not women...most of them are far from that) my age are just obsessed with penis size and they're eyes are shut to everything else that makes a man attractive. Remember personality? That usually turns me on more than a large cock ever would. But yes, Bombi said it best. If a woman doesn't want to be with you for the whole you, normal cock and all, then she's not worth any of your time and energy.

Just my thoughts on it.

 

[lilnymph28]

The best sex I have ever had was with a man that was a little over 5". It's not just about size, its about what you do with it, how you use your hands, mouth, entire body, and most importantly, your mind, in order to please your partner. Learn her desires, concentrate on pleasing her, and you will blow her mind.

About lasting longer.... you've gotten plenty of great advice about that here already. Try it out

Good luck!

 

[Warped_Devotion]

Thanks guys. I ditched the bitch, because we had another go around about my cock size just a while ago, so I said "To hell with you."


And the lasting longer thing has worked. I managed to go 15 mins without cumming.......w00t!!!

 

[wicked woman]

Glad to hear it's going better for you. Thanks for the update.

 

[Meat Whistler]

Glad to hear that you ended things with her. If someone is going to complain about your cock size, it likely wouldn't work out regardless.

 

[snickertease]

Find someone new... and show her the best tonguework she's ever seen in her life instead...

 

[ReadyOne]

No body's mentioned the Try This and Report Back thread?