hmm

I'm sorry if I'm asking what may seem to be the obvious, but how do you know your wife is thinking about someone else when she's with you? I mean, is this something she's specifically told you or are these your private fears?

(Also, just as friendly hint, HT culture is such that text speak is generally not well received. You should have seen the brouhaha the *last* time this came up. :D:rolleyes: Please don't take offense as it's not meant as a criticism. It's more along the lines of advise to help make your stay here more comfy. :))
 
I don't think that's an issue. We all fantasize about other people from time to time...or even every time we're with someone. The main thing is that she cums. As long as you make that happen ...you're golden.
 
OP, how do you know your wife is thinking about someone else?

ETA: Oops. Sorry, bailadora. I read your post, but I didn't read it. Great minds and all that. :eek:
 
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how to plz ur wife in bed with out her thinking about some one else. can anyone tell me plz?

Ask her what she likes.

I would think that's the most logical solution to your problem, yes? Not hard to figure out there, you know.
 
she is always talking to some other girls in here in plus she now tells me how she feels for some girl that she meet from here. she is not the same person she was before
 
she is always talking to some other girls in here in plus she now tells me how she feels for some girl that she meet from here. she is not the same person she was before

I may be inferring this incorrectly, but to me, it reads like you aren't comfortable with her being on Lit, or if you are, that her behavior has crossed agreed upon boundaries. Honestly, it sounds like you've a much larger problem than what's happening or not happening in the bedroom.

If she's open to talking, I think you need to sit down and find out why she's behaving as she is. As hard as it may be, try to keep it calm and non-confrontational. Keep in mind that you might hear some things about yourself that you might not like, but try to keep an open mind and see if there is any validity to the points she brings up. This is MUCH easier said than done, but it's necessary for real communication to occur. (I've been through this process myself, so trust me - I know how hard it is.) Then see if the pair of you can come up with a plan to resolve the issues.

This may or may not be something the pair of you can work out on your own. If it's the latter, couples counseling may be in order. If she's willing to go and make an honest commitment to repairing your relationship, that's half the battle right there. If she's not willing to work with you, that's a much more difficult scenario and bears considerable consideration as to where you wish to go from there.

Best of luck to you both, S_A. I hope she's willing to reconcile with you. :rose:

ETA: Oops. Sorry, bailadora. I read your post, but I didn't read it. Great minds and all that. :eek:

S'all right. I figured we were on the same train of thought. :D
 
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I don't think your, oops I mean ur, real problem has anything to do with sex so in my humble opinion, oops, I mean IMHO, the solution you are seeking isn't going to work so please, oops, I mean plz, look at the rest of your relationship.
 
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