Hidden BDSM Book

[Miss_Adagio]

Do you actually want to discuss the book ITSELF with her or are you intrigued with idea that she has a secret submissive life?

Everyone has brought up really good reasons why you probably shouldn't just say "hey, I found your kinky book". Why don't you casually bring up BDSM in a general sence (eg: i saw a movie, read an article about...) and see where the conversation goes? If she wants to talk about it with you, that should be enought to get her to open up. Just don't push it if she doesn't want to share anything on the topic.

On a side note, the whole cousin & married situation is a bit weird and gross!

 

[ozme52]

Amongst the other suggestions which you should definitely consider, I'd at least start with any other innocent conversation but lace it with several words which, depending on her orientation and interest, will likely show on her face or allow her to steer the conversation.

Then you would have an idea whether to go further (with some of the other suggestions or your own,) or steer clear.

Words like submit (something for discussion or some suggestion box,) dominate (at sports or a game, instead of merely being good or winning,) whip up something to eat (instead of merely preparing something to eat,) doing or sharing an activity that's "spanking good fun".

It's something I've learned to do even with strangers. Men and women both, men because some like to share their wives and slaves...

 

[graceanne]

I don't judge him for being turned on by the notion, but I do judge him for thinking he has the right to do anything about it.

Yes. This.