Hi there from SE Asia

[ponyboyvn]

Hi everyone,

It's great to find this board and post a personal ad. No, we aren't expecting much, if anything, to come from this but we'll never know if we don't try. I'm an American expat and my much better half is Thai. We are both fit, active professionals who actually can hold our own in a conversation. Our relationship has evolved into a dom/sub role for lack of a better word. Yes, we know that dom and sub have different meanings for those who read this, so it would perhaps be best to give you some context and background. And if you are willing to read this to the end, then you will know what we are seeking.

First off, a description of our physical attributes would be in order here: I'm a "mature" guy (that's the polite way of saying older) tall, athletic/slim build who happens to work out a lot. I'm most comfortable wearing a blazer with khakis and smart shoes unless I'm in my suit or tuxedo. (yep, I have one) Most of the expats in these parts would say that their idea of dressing up is putting on a clean t-shirt.

My better half is a young, petite, short haired and very fit career professional who, while looking smart in her office suit, drops jaws when she's parading about in her lingerie and high heels. She is perfectly proportioned with a gorgeous ass and shapely tits that any guy would happily worship.

As her master, I take considerable pleasure in seeing my sub happy. There are mutually agreed upon limits to our dom/sub role. While my sub enjoys a guy who will "follow" her, she always asks her master's permission if the guy can lick her. She likes being close to her master being kissed and fondled while the guy is servicing her. After she's satisfied she will ask permission to reward the guy with a blowjob. She loves it when her master is fucking her while she's rewarding his cock.

Allow me to digress for a moment.... as there's different meanings to dom/sub so to is there a difference between "rewarding" and "servicing". My sub thinks it's very important that anyone allowed to join understands that she would never service a guy. Servicing is only for her master. She rewards a cock because she wants to practice to become the very best cock sucker for her master. So she would never consider only blowing a guy - he would have to pleasure her first. And anything other than rewarding a cock is out of the question. She wouldn't allow another guy to penetrate her, period. Kissing or touching without her explicit approval is a big nono.

After she rewards the guy, she likes to perform in front of him and service her master and won't hesitate to reward a guy again if he's aroused. After that, she loves to sit his face while she services her master. So, are you still with me?

Another aspect we both enjoy is with another girl, preferably someone who's as comfortable being dirty and naughty as my sub. She would be expected to pleasure both of us and she would certainly receive our attention with lots of licking and sucking but there'd be no penetration but she would watch me penetrating my sub.

It's has taken us a lot of time communicating with each other and patiently going through the inevitable misunderstandings and language barriers, but we would both agree that our relationship is stronger for it. We love and cherish each other and have nothing but respect and admiration for each other's needs and desires. Yes, we would agree that it's most certainly not the type of lifestyle most people would understand let alone approve of and that's ok. We aren't seeking either.

So is there any Caucasian guy or girl of any ethnicity reading this who's planning to or already is in Vietnam/Thailand? We aren't looking for a one night kind of thing but more of a friendship/relationship we could develop. We look forward to hearing from you.

 

[glBock]

hello ponyboyvn

I read your post with great interest. One reason: I had been dreaming – earlier in my life – to be in a situation like you claim to be in. Truly enviable, I'd say. Being able to engage other men for servicing my partner, while my partner serviced me. And I could allow myself the extra excitement that comes from watching my partner acting like a whore, but in reality only wanting to learn how to please me better.

If life only could be as sweet as that.

Now I notice that via your ad, you offer to give essentially nothing to the man you seek, other than a few blow jobs may be, without any real feeling behind them. But you expect that man to do all the work. And on top of that, only work as directed by you, as I understand you.

Do you believe – in all sincerity – that someone as stupid as you look for, will come forward and apply for the job you advertise?
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[ponyboyvn]

Is a guy stupid enough? Well, I honestly couldn't say but it certainly appears that the post has garnered a stupid reply, so I suppose that counts for something.

 

[glBock]

Is a guy stupid enough? Well, I honestly couldn't say but it certainly appears that the post has garnered a stupid reply, so I suppose that counts for something.

we could certainly turn this into a competition on who of us can write the more stupid post here.

But I notice, smart man, that you were totally unable to respond to even a single thought I put on the table, in that stupid post of mine.

Calling someone else stupid, without offering any rationale for that, sounds awfully much like the man, who occcupies that white house in Washington these days.
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[ponyboyvn]

Rest assured that this is hardly a competition. While it's a shame that your reading comprehension skills are lacking, I take no pity nor have I requested anyone's seal of approval. You are, for whatever reason, perplexed that there are men (and women) who enjoy participating in what we have described. You didn't ask, but being inpertinent isn't a characteristic I'd necessarily want to display on a board such as this if for no other reason then it makes you appear exactly as what was described in my previous response.
Is this what's known as trolling? I must say it is rather amusing.

 

[glBock]

VN resident (apparently), I am beginning to see you guys did it all wrong from 1965 to the early 70s, when you focused on fighting and killing Vietnamese men mainly. Focusing on their women, the way you do, might have led to a peace with honor after all.

Apparently you have not understood one word of what I wrote to you. Maybe you'll refuse again now to understand me any better, but let me try anyway.

I have never written that I cannot understand you; in fact I said in the beginning of my first post that I entertained dreams like you are having them myself, when I was younger. And your woman is a person I can understand also. I can even understand any man, who takes you up on your offer, because getting one's dick blown by a pretty Asian lady, maybe even a couple of times per night, is not the worst that can happen to a man.

All I wrote in my first post was my simple statement that I believe when a man engages in the kind of servitude you two expect of him, he ought to get his head examined.

That is all! I am not saying that I mind you doing that, nor do I mind your woman. Nor do I mind a man stupid enough to do this, just because he feels the need for a couple of blow jobs, even when there are no feeling behind them. There are men like that, and I am sure you will find one or more of them for the two of you.

So I wish you luck! Is that better now?

 

[ponyboyvn]

It's not for me to judge one's proclivities as such so long they're not harming either themselves or others. You raise the issue of not receiving enough in return which neither I nor my much better half take any issue with. We do find it odd, however, that you would refer to those who have participated and indulged in or escapades as stupid. At the risk of sounding like a braggart, every person who has joined us has not only been attractive but also intelligent, charming, engaging and have thanked us for the experience. Our most recent tryst involved a lovely young Thai girl who had approached us. She told us that she wanted to be involved with a couple that was very loving, passionate and fun to be with. That would make any guy's head (yeah, both of them) swell. Are we the best lovers ever? Not hardly but it's safe to say that a more passionate, adorable and lustful babe than my much better half are relatively few and far between IMHO and that's good enough for me.

I am certain there are couples who would be willing to accommodate more than we can. I am also certain that there's a girl out there somewhere who can fulfill your desires. Just do bear in mind the purpose and function of this board.

 

[jkcipy]

what can i say to you mate except good luck, i was in vietnam and is a pretty country with lots of pretty women.
as for what you would ask, i think is a bit hard to find something like that, but i wish you lots of luck and i hope you will obtain what you desire.
but if you do find something do keep us informed because is interesting

 

[ponyboyvn]

I would agree with you jkcipy that finding something like what me and my better half share is something we don't hear about often. In fact, it wasn't something either of us were actively seeking when we first met. We both had previous experiences in role playing but nothing to the extent to which we are now both committed. This (relatively) new lifestyle has brought us even closer to each other.

Perhaps I am being naive, but I really don't see what's so unusual about all this. I have met plenty a guy who'd be happy to pleasure a hot babe and, if he's fortunate enough, get rewarded in return. And I would include myself on that list. My better half loves the idea of being a sub to her master and being allowed to let another guy lick her. She tells me that it's every woman's dream. I will take her word for it.

I will share a little of our first experience - I was late on my return flight and the guy we had planned to meet first at a lounge couldn't make it. We had a backup plan so I contacted the second guy and he said that he could only meet briefly. I ran the idea by my better half and we agreed that he could meet us at our hotel. I was very apprehensive about this so I made clear that I wouldn't put up with any nonsense and sent him some pictures. (I practice Muay Thai) When he arrived he was totally cool and easy going so the better half excused herself for a moment and came back wearing a robe. We had discussed for hours what our dialogue would be and the actions we'd take - it was something exactly like a script hahaha - but the moment she dropped her robe everyone forgot everything. There she stood, this adorable, cute short haired girl (short hair is most definitely my weakness) wearing nothing but sheer black pantyhose and black stiletto high heels.

She has perfectly proportioned breasts (yet she complains that they are too small) and simply a very shapely ass. Us guys were both sitting on the sofa so I stood up and bent her over the sofa. I told her to look at the guy and tell him that she's a slut. When she did I spanked her ass very hard and said she's a dirty girl. She readily agreed so I spanked her again and tore open her pantyhose. (that was in our plan/script) The guy looked stunned while I fingered her pussy and I asked her why it was so wet. She told me that she wanted to be licked so I asked if she wanted the guy to lick her and I her allowed to ask him. I sat back down on the sofa and she sat in front of me with her back to my chest. She opened her legs wide to show the guy her very nice shaved pussy and asked him if he would like to lick her. He was down on her in a heartbeat. She was ecstatic and while I admitted to her later that I had some discomfort what with another guy servicing her, the fact that she was so happy was a very big turn on. I kissed her and fondled her breasts while she was being licked. (She told me after that he licked her very good)

She asked for permission to cum which I declined to give. So she asked if she could reward him. (He already understood what that meant from our previous emails and SMS) She had discussed at length the importance of being on her knees only for her master but the moment he stood up she was on her knees pulling out his very hard cock from his pants. He looked at me with a surprised (somewhat worried?) look on his face. We were both told, after all, that she wouldn't be doing that (the on her knees thing) but there she was clearly enjoying herself. I signaled to him there wasn't a problem and I asked my sub if she was enjoying herself. She took his cock out of her mouth long enough to say "Yes." and put it right back in her mouth. It was a wow moment. She then asked if I would please fuck her. I stood up and she scampered over on her knees and began servicing my cock.

She suggested we go to the bedroom (yet another place we said would be off limits in our script hahahaha) and when we got there she jumped on the bed, opened her legs and asked the guy to lick her some more. I put my cock in her face and watched her blow me and her getting licked. She then asked if she could please reward his cock and make him cum and said that it would be the polite thing to do so I agreed. She told the guy to lie on the bed. I got behind her and fucked her while she rewarded his cock. He busted a nut in no time (she did say and wouldn't allow him to cum in her mouth, so at least we remembered something!) and the moment she was finished with him she dropped to her knees in front of her master and serviced me in front of the guy until I came.

He had told us earlier that he could only stay briefly but, not surprisingly, stayed beyond the appointed hour. Such is the way these things work out apparently. Anyway, he lavished praise on my better half's looks and skills. My better half was delighted and I took a great deal of satisfaction because while he certainly enjoyed the moment, he had to go while I get this daily.

We've had many conversations since that initial tryst and the outcome simply is we are both very happy and in love. Since then we've had a few more trysts with both guys and girls. We see our roles as both the embellishment to and the reason for our relationship being as strong as it is. Do we love each other because of the sex? Or is the sex so great that we love each other? The answer is yes. That openness, trust, respect and honesty with each other is what makes our relationship, at least, so ideal for us. I mentioned in a previous post that it isn't a lifestyle for everyone. Or maybe for anyone. I couldn't really say but I can say that we are very grateful to have each other.

 

[glBock]

I am glad to read, ponyboyvn, that the two of you had a lot more to offer to the guy you invited, than what your first post implied.

I wish you luck in your future endeavors
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