Hi, my name is Shane and I'm a Literotican

[kiwiwolf]

I have tossed the idea of this thread around for a couple of days now, and it has bugged me so much that I will finally do it. This is a personal view which I am sure will not go down well with a lot of you folk. I care not. I came here to literotica knowing that everyone had the right to post how and what they felt. I am no exception.

I consider Lit my sanctuary. I am a 38 year old male, newly single who takes care of 4 young kids full time. I have Cancer in my spine. It is painless but there are all sorts of horrible side effects. I am active but have to plan my activities around my kids and my ex. This doesn't leave a lot of time for me. So I come here.

Often Literotica is the only adult contact I have in a day. My kids I love with a passion but I can't discuss adult topics with them now can I?

So I come to Lit. I waltz in the front door yelling "Honey I'm home", flop into my favourite easy chair and look around for the first interesting topic of discussion. Looking forward to some intellectual stimulation I scan the topics on offer.

What I find is reminiscent of battles my kids fight among themselves. Good threads turned to shit by bitchiness and power struggles, trolls and pig headedness. i am not perfect by any stretch of the imagination. I have done probably more than my fair share of troll baiting and battling on the board.

This week Dillinger started a thread devoted to trying to get some order established out of the chaos that is the General Board. He said nothing out of line, he didn't try to deny anyone thier right to post. He tried to take this board back to what it used to be. My hat is off to him. Lavender, you have tried to sort out the bullshit associated with personal attacks based on physical appearance. I wish you all the luck in the world and applaud your effort.

Sorry to single you two out but you have been the most visible out of all the folks that are trying to do good on the board.

I'm not a rocket scientist... I don't have the anylitical abilities of Marxist or KM, I don't have the political knowledge of PC or Modest Mouse. I don't entertain like Perky orTim1. I have my niche and am damned happy to be here. However I would like to be able to post to a political thread, knowing that the thread will still be going by the time I get the answers I seek... that it hasn't been abandoned because of bitchiness or trolling. I'd love to see people being able to post sensitive questions as Unregistered without fear of being ridiculed or slammed as trolls.

In my time here I have made a lot of very good friends. I hope to make more. I have a handful of great aquaintances, they enrich my experiences here on a day to day basis. The other folks out there... I don't know you. Maybe that is my loss. Maybe I can add you to my friends list in the future.

None of this post is here to solicit pity. I don't want your pity, I don't need your pity. All in all I am very happy with my life. I realise this post is probably going to be skipped... "Oh its the tattoo guy... must be having a bad day." I couldn't care less. I have said what has been on my mind for a while now so I am a happy chap.

Laurel you have given me a home here where I can play with adults. It upsets me to see it being wrecked by kids.

 

[lavender]

 

[Guest]

 

[perks]

Kiwilicious,

wanna smack my ass? You're wonderful!

perks

 

[Mellon Collie]

This week Dillinger started a thread devoted to trying to get some order established out of the chaos that is the General Board.

That is sacrilegious. What would Eris say?

 

[riff]

Don't look at me. I'll shit all over you.



OK, it alright if I just fart every now and then?

Tell us about your politcal thread. I can't garuntee that I'll bite, or even fart.

Let's go.

 

[Problem Child]

Kiwi you're cool.

 

[estevie]

 

[Debbie]

Shane, my friend.
Thank you for sharing with
us what is on your mind.

You have balls man!


I don't like the bickering either.
Having a discussion is acceptable,
with differing opinions, sometimes
heated debate. But name calling,
belittling, and being cruel and rude
saddens me.

You can disagree with me and
say so. I will respect you for that.

Lit is a great place.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Shane, you are a true man, a gentle soul and a wonderful human being. I am so honored to be able to call you friend (among other things).

 

[MsFigment]

<stands and applauds> Bravo!

 

[CarolineOh]

I don't know you, Shane, but you have my respect and admiration for what you've written here.

 

[Dillinger]

Fuckin A! And well said...

And you just made me smile too... I think it is a good day.

I'm glad you're here. And I'm glad to call you a friend.

 

[RhumbRunner13]

Not ignored.

"In my time here I have made a lot of very good friends. I hope to make more."

Put me on your list, not as a "very good".......but at least as a "friend" here. I would consider it an honor.

See ya 'round the boards.

RhumbRunner

 

[Caria Knight]

As a newbie, I'm often overlooked on the boards.

I almost left this place because of the bickering, name calling and trolls. So far, I'm glad I haven't. Unfortunately, because I don't know any of you I can rarely "stick up" for anyone when I see them being abused and bashed. It doesn't mean that I believe what's being said but that I don't know enough to know that it's not true.

I've only once spoken up to a troll. In doing so, I started a new thread to them as to let the old, bashing one die. Immediately after posting I PM'd the person that I knew wanted the subject to drop and apologized for starting the new thread. I told them outright that I just couldn't hold my tongue any more.

I do hope to see a decline in the immaturity that's been flying around here lately. I'd hate to think that the next newbie didn't give this place the second chance that I did.

 

[Marxist]

you're a freak


my favorite freak, but a freak nontheless.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[sigh]

well said, shane...thanks so much

this is my refuge too...let's protect it for the wildlife

and if you're looking for friends......

 

[Azwed]

Very well said.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

"Oh its the tattoo guy... must be having a bad day."

What happened Studmuffin? The duckings escape from the pen or the rabbits get your stash of cellery



I know what you mean about having adult conversation in your day. I work a large % of the day by myself and then the rugrats are here after school....... this place is like listening to talk back radio station but without the racing results

Hey, you have my number if you wanna chat when the boards are slow or when ever

 

[Lady_Sam]

So I come to Lit. I waltz in the front door yelling "Honey I'm home", flop into my favourite easy chair and look around for the first interesting topic of discussion. Looking forward to some intellectual stimulation I scan the topics on offer.

What I find is reminiscent of battles my kids fight among themselves. Good threads turned to shit by bitchiness and power struggles, trolls and pig headedness. i am not perfect by any stretch of the imagination. I have done probably more than my fair share of troll baiting and battling on the board.

Shane, I don't know you from more than the few threads that I've posted to in response to the tattoos. But I know where you're coming from. I, too, am a single parent. I come here for a lot of my adult interaction. I have almost left a few times now. I've only just joined and the petty bickering is to the point where if I see certain people posting to threads, I won't even read them.

I hope that someday you would consider me worthy to add to that friends list. Until then if you need an ear I've an open one.

Samantha

 

[kiwiwolf]

Wow... I have been a busy wee chap all day since I posted this so here is my reply at long last.

First off I would like to thank everyone who took the time to respond to this thread. What an amazing mixture... newbies and Lit veterans alike. Similar messages from everyone but one common theme. No bitching... no bickering... no powerplays. My god you have all made me a happy kiwiwolf. The big post that started this thread wasn't then and isn't now designed to gain pity. The thread isn't about me. It is about our community here at Lit. I finally got pissed off enough to actually spit the dummy and post.

All of the posts on this thread have been delivered with dignity and respect... folks I love ya for it. Even riff... he sent me a PM explaining his post... no problems. I'm sorry I can't thank you all individually... my hands just hurt too much. I hope this doesn't come across as preachy or sanctimonious... that isn't my aim...

I love this place. I do have a life outside here but I choose to spend a lot of my leisure time here. I would love to play here without having to watch people tear each other to pieces for no apparent reason.

Laurel, Manu... you folks rock... thank you for Lit.

 

[kiwiwolf]

you're a freak


my favorite freak, but a freak nontheless.

LMAO... fuck you very much buddy. Thanks for the book list man. I am working through it slowly but surely.

 

[Summery]

I can't believe I just now saw and read this thread.

Shane, thank you for sharing a part of yourself here with us!

It's a true pleasure to learn more about you.

People like you make coming to Lit more enjoyable.


Summer

 

[kiwiwolf]

I just betrayed my own intentions of this thread. I saw a friend of mine getting attacked and bit. I am an extremely loyal person but make no mistake... If a friend of mine causes shit I won't jump to their defence.

I'm tired of all the bickering and bullshit on this board. I love this place and what it used to represent to me. I'm not leaving Lit but I am going to take a break. I've had a gutsfull. Anyone who wants to get in touch with me... drop me a PM or use my email if you have it.