Hey, anyone else?

[RYoung9]

Hello, my name is rex and i'm 20 years old. After reading through many posts on this forum, i finally decided to post to see if anyone else can relate to what i am feeling. I am very attracted to females and often time try to pursue relationships with women. When i am in a relationship with a girl, i have no desire to be with men, however, when I am single, the thought of getting with a man always crosses my mind.

I always masturbate to straight porn, however, sometimes when i am watching porn, the thought edges its way into my mind, "what would it be like to be the woman?" Sometimes i fantisize about sucking cock and taking it in the ass, however, before I orgasm, i always begin to fantasize about women again. If i do orgasm while thinking about taking it in my ass, i always feel guilty afterwords, ashamed even.

I guess what my question is, who else feels the way I do? And if you do, what do you guys do about it? I feel that if I was to get with another man, it will somehow effect my ability and/or desire to want to be with women. I'm not saying that if I get with a man, it will be so good and awesome that i'll lose my desire to get with women, but more so if I get with a man, somehow, women or other men will see it in me, or it will change the way I act (i know, quite silly). What I am constantly debating in my mind is, "how can I be attracted to women when I want to get fucked myself, like a woman?"

I have no friends that are gay (that I know of) or bi-sexual so I really have nobody to safely explore my feelings with. I wouldn't dare think of going to a gay bar/club or online dating site searching for other males for fear or being found out.

Anyone else feel this way?

-Rex.

 

[neon_noodle]

Only about 2/3 of us here feel the exact same way. Love women, no desire to ever march in the pride parade, jack off to the thought of sucking swollen cocks, having cum shot all over our faces, and being bent over and having a hot, smooth cock slide up our tight, virgin assholes.

What do I do about it? Enjoy it, and like how hot the fantasy makes me. I'll probably never do anything like that, just like I'll never intercept a pass for the winning TD in the super bowl. But it's fun to think about both.

Lots of guys do have the occasional romp with other guys, and then go back to their regular women. It won't turn you into a hairdresser or a Freddy Mercury type to suck a hard cock.

People are complex mixutres of desires and likes. They don't have to be exclusive. If you like steak, that doesn't mean that you can't like lobster too. So jack off to that porn mag, and enjoy both the sluts lips on the cock, and that purple head stretching out her mouth.

 

[PutterBoy]

Damned good advice Neon.

Rex: You're only 20. Don't stress yourself out about your feelings. You're struggling with something now that many of us struggled with for decades. In short, it's more than okay to decide you like both sexes. If you decide to become actively bisexual, let it happen naturally in its own time. Looking back, I kind of wish I tried it earlier, but waiting also made it all that more special.

Good luck in your journey.

 

[Eric90034]

pretty much the same - I'm like 70/30 (straight/gay) if such a thing can be quantified.

I love women, I love what cock I have sucked

 

[tigervixen]

You can be both, hon, and there's nothing to be ashamed about. Luckily, we've come a long way (though we need to come farther) in accepting differing sexuality. Whatever you decide, whether or not to act on your fantasy, it needs to be a decision that you feel good with. I'm not sure where you live, I know more areas are more accomodating of blended sexuality than other places. I hope when you do make a "decision" you are comfortable with yourself.

I used quotes with the word "decision" because it's kind of an arbitrary word, but I can't think of a better one right now. I've decided to like both guys and girls and I'm a girl.

 

[Grey Fogg]

Rex,

You know when I first got with a guy I also thought about how it would change my interest in woman and I found things to actually get a little better. With the obvious different equipment on males and females your mind usually can keep them seperate and distinct. I wouldn't worry so much about labeling yourself as several wise forum posters above me have also pointed out. Many many more people fit into the "bi" catagory then most of the public thinks..... I am one of those bi folk that believe most of life's sexuality lives in the grey areas and that most people are too scared or too conditioned to admit it. So don't worry so much about it and enjoy the new found sexual freedom

Peace,

Grey Fogg

 

[tonethebone]

You say you know no one that's gay or bi? Don't believe it for a minute. Someone you know has the same feelings as you. Just to scared to admit it. Open your mind and listen more carefully to normal conversations with your buddy's. You may detect something you missed before.

Happened to me. Just wish it would have sooner

 

[eddie03]

You say you know no one that's gay or bi? Don't believe it for a minute. Someone you know has the same feelings as you. Just to scared to admit it. Open your mind and listen more carefully to normal conversations with your buddy's. You may detect something you missed before.

Happened to me. Just wish it would have sooner

Be carefull though many men are still in shell about it, I had a friend tell me about his expermintation & thought that he was trying to open a door. Turned out that he just wanted to air his "dirty laundry". So when I offered to help him experiment again, that didnt go over so well. Thankfully we were drunk at the time so he blamed it on the alcohol & we are still friends. But sometimes I really wonder what that conversation was about.

Just be carefull.