Het Doms getting hit on from male subs

[WriterDom]

It happens often. And there is the temptation to accept the Domme/sub role as purely service. Cut the grass and carry my golf bag kind of shit. But it seems there is always a sexual edge to it. It's not something I look for. They contact me. I just wonder if other Doms get this also.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

It happens often. And there is the temptation to accept the Domme/sub role as purely service. Cut the grass and carry my golf bag kind of shit. But it seems there is always a sexual edge to it. It's not something I look for. They contact me. I just wonder if other Doms get this also.

Often.

Lock eyes with them, and very quietly say, "No, thank you."

 

[FungiUg]

Wot AA said. They tended to be Aussies anyway when I was hanging around in Australasian MSN chat rooms, so not only do I not do males, I also don't do long distance relationships.

I did have some guy named Robert contact me once, who lived in Paris, and told me that except for that minor thing about me being heterosexual, we would be perfect for each other! It was a good laugh.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I suppose of they think that Dom/mes in general are bi, they will think the men are bi too.

I do not know about the sexual edge though, sex is not a big deal with My subs. But if you are a bisexual male, I imagine there is a big attraction.

 

[Netzach]

Ok, I'm sure it happens.


Do you think that Dom males hitting on lesbian femsubs MIGHT occur with greater frequency?

 

[FungiUg]

Ok, I'm sure it happens.

Do you think that Dom males hitting on lesbian femsubs MIGHT occur with greater frequency?

Hmmm... I know of one lesbian femsub here that I've chatted to, but I can't imagine hitting on her. What would be the point? I'm not really that much of a sucker for rejection.

Of course, I also know another lesbian femsub who thought the only reason I was talking to her was because I wanted to hit on her. Which confused the hell out of me, 'cause I'd never done so or had any intention of doing so.

Go figure.

 

[Netzach]

FungiUg:

yes...

but you are pretty special, lest you forget.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

... I'm not really that much of a sucker for rejection ... Which confused the hell out of me, 'cause I'd never done so or had any intention of doing so.

Go figure.

Welcome to the wonderful world of "Huh?"

 

[FungiUg]

FungiUg:

yes...

but you are pretty special, lest you forget.

I am?

Well, maybe I have a modicum of intelligence. I mean, what's the point of hitting on a lesbian? She likes women. Not men. She's already determined that... and a conversation with a man is going to convince her otherwise?

That's why I laughed myself silly about getting contacted by this guy "Robert" in Paris. Like someone telling me he is going to be perfect for me will do the trick? Even a woman telling me that wouldn't work...

Geez. I think the human race being "intelligent" is a fallacy some times.

 

[FungiUg]

Welcome to the wonderful world of "Huh?"

Actually, that is exactly what I said!

 

[Never]

I find that men, in general, hit on lesbians so I believe that Doms, in general, hit on lesbian subs. Then again, I hit on straight women quite often on Lit. As long as you respect a person's boundaries, I don't think it's a problem.

 

[FungiUg]

I find that men, in general, hit on lesbians.

Really? How wierd.

I do know there's a mental attitude of "how can anyone not like what I like?" Or am I unique in wondering why not everyone wants female submissives to serve them? Anyway, I wonder if it's a case of "well, I'm not gay, so I can't believe anyone else can really be gay?"

Nah... more likely just plain stupidity.

 

[Netzach]

It's pretty common.

In ways that become fairly annoying fast.

Like, if I go to a pansexual party and top a guy, maybe a few people watch, pat my back over technique and get over it.

If I top a woman people act like we're the free sex show du jour. Men come up to us sweaty and effusive afterward and somewhat pushy.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

... If I top a woman people act like we're the free sex show du jour. Men come up to us sweaty and effusive afterward and somewhat pushy ...

One word ...

Backhand

 

[Netzach]

Heh you are king of the one word witticisms tonight.

Backhand...

I think they'd like it more than I'm prepared to deal with.

 

[FungiUg]

If I top a woman people act like we're the free sex show du jour. Men come up to us sweaty and effusive afterward and somewhat pushy.

Yeah. One of the reasons why I'm not into public play...

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Heh you are king of the one word witticisms tonight.

Backhand...

I think they'd like it more than I'm prepared to deal with.

well, i could have pontificated about your rights to be and do what you wish if you like.

Then again, why ruin a perfect punctuation mark?

 

[Ebonyfire]

I get male and females subs hitting on Me. I just prefer males, but My Dommes friends are mostly bisexual. One or two are straight. I have played with male and females cause of the training I had. Now I just SPECIALIZE!

 

[James G 5]

I've had gay male subs hit on me before. Since I am known as the odd (in this area anyway) straight male Dom who plays with male subs (I have a few FemDomme friends who lend me their boys for beatings at times) it is sometimes assumed I am actively bisexual or having sex with these subs. Neither is currently true, but I've found that politely telling them I am not interested does the trick, no harm, no foul.
And personally, I find ANYone hitting on me kind of flattering LOL.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I've had gay male subs hit on me before. Since I am known as the odd (in this area anyway) straight male Dom who plays with male subs (I have a few FemDomme friends who lend me their boys for beatings at times) it is sometimes assumed I am actively bisexual or having sex with these subs. Neither is currently true, but I've found that politely telling them I am not interested does the trick, no harm, no foul.
And personally, I find ANYone hitting on me kind of flattering LOL.

I agree. I have been hit on males and females, and it is kinda nice as long as they know the meaning of the work "no". And so far, they do.

 

[James G 5]

I agree. I have been hit on males and females, and it is kinda nice as long as they know the meaning of the work "no". And so far, they do.

The few times "No" hasn't been stong enough, one of my very NON-playful knives usually does the trick

 

[Ebonyfire]

The few times "No" hasn't been stong enough, one of my very NON-playful knives usually does the trick

Knives...Don't leave home without them.

 

[Howling_Ire]

i will say sometimes i flirt with people just because it's fun, irreguarldess of thier gender of sexual prefrence, just because sometimes i enjoy flirting with others. but i do think part of the problem here is the concept some people have that others are *insert sexual prefrence* and that if they get a taste of *insert sexual prefernce or body part* that they would change thier mind about being *sexual prefrence*

which is in and of it's self rather ammuseing...and i can't really understand wanting to change someone else like that..but you know, perhaps it's not for me to understand.

 

[James G 5]

Knives...Don't leave home without them.

Please refer to "Flying with Toys" thread

LOL

 

[Goddess Helena]

Fungi, I think a certain type of het man thinks that all it will take is one good old-fashioned fucking and the lesbian in question would "see the light". I think this type of "man" is not smart enough to realize that it doesn't work that way. Or perhaps it's just ego.

Perhaps it's not just het men who can be like that.


Helena