here's what they're saying about us in the General Board!

[superlittlegirl]

This is a pretty cool thread, actually. Check it out, if you so desire.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=85679&perpage=20&pagenumber=1

 

[monster666]

Thanks for the link, slg. It is interesting to see how others perceive this board.

This is a pretty cool thread, actually. Check it out, if you so desire.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=85679&perpage=20&pagenumber=1

 

[sexy-girl]

they are saying that about us ... the meanies ... i hate that girl who started the thread on the GB

 

[monster666]

Yeah... and that top she wears makes too much confusion. How the hell would one know just where to go to pinch a nipple?

they are saying that about us ... the meanies ... i hate that girl who started the thread on the GB

 

[MissTaken]

Superlittlegirl,


Not to worry.

I would like to say you handled your response very nicely. Calmy, clear headedly and with class!




Nice job.


To each their own.

Everyone has their own opinion.

I want sexy girl in my bed right now! (Oops, that slipped out!)

 

[Kell_pj]

lol who doesn't want sexy girl in bed! hell I want sexy girl any where......

 

[superlittlegirl]

Oh, goodness! I wasn't worried, I was delighted!

I thought some of the responses were excellent. And I thought the idea for the post was great! It's really interesting to get a mainstream perception of this sub-culture within the generally pervy population. I wasn't being prickly about it at all. (This medium is so weird at conveying emotion.)

 

[CarolineOh]

I am glad to know that so many people are reading this forum, and maybe getting a little different perspective on BDSM than what they had pre-conceived.
I do kind of like thinking someone might find me scary though

 

[sexy-girl]

Re: Oh, goodness! I wasn't worried, I was delighted!

I thought some of the responses were excellent. And I thought the idea for the post was great! It's really interesting to get a mainstream perception of this sub-culture within the generally pervy population. I wasn't being prickly about it at all. (This medium is so weird at conveying emotion.)

sorry i did get exactly what you meant and it was very nice that you noticed my thread on the GB and that you got what i was trying to say ... it was just my weird sense of humour showed through when i posted in this thread


im not part of the BDSM lifestyle but i appreciate it and can see a lot of beauty and sensuality in it and i honestly think there is some special people within the lifestyle

also my comments about saying over here was more verbose is true but i think that's a good thing ... the posts move slower perhaps over in this forum and perhaps that gives people more time to think about what they are posting and to convey their thoughts which i enjoy

we still get that over at the GB too but perhaps not as much because there is more people there


for monster mistaken and kells comments

 

[cymbidia]

We have to be more verbose here, sg.

We're dealing with copmplex issues, things that require a lot of thought and a lot of delving into the basics of one's needs and motivations.

This isn't a place for flirty, vapid threads without much substance, like some on the GB.

It never will be, thank all the gods.

 

[sexy-girl]

i agree cymbidia the BDSM is maybe more focused then the GB that's good and bad i guess (i have to say that because i like both forums )

i was a little unsure at the idea of a BDSM forum when i first saw it had started because i enjoyed discussing it on the GB and i was wondering if the GB would lose something since you were all going to be here the GB probably did lose something ... but now i've seen this forum and lurked here and posted a bit i think its a great addition to literotica and i think it benefits from being separate from the GB

the discussions here are more focused and more in-depth (although still get those discussions on the GB too but just not of BDSM nature)

 

[cymbidia]

I've just returned from a second reading of that thread and ihave to say that it makes me a little sad that people such as pcg and sillyman, people who are obviously thinkers and who may have some real questions - small or not - feel inhibited about posting here.

Are we really scary?
Why?

It's astonishing to me that anyone would think what we do within the privacy and security of our own love relationships, and always consensually too, could possibly be threatening to them.

Can someone explain to me why? WHY do some people on the GB feel that we're...we're...exclusionary? We all (almost) go to great lengths to be as inclusive as is possible of a huge variety of sexual differences and needs; how could, why would, anyone feel differently? I'm honestly puzzled by this.

And the poster who said that s/he "normally find BDSM discussions far to pompous for my tastes. The urge to engage in purple prose and pale attempts at academic debate generally drives me up the wall" hasn't even been here. Why would s/he post something like that if s/he hasn't even bothered to come see who and how we are? By that logic, it must be true that because i've bitten into three bruised apples in a row, and i don't like bruised apples, i should forever forsake apples because they're obviously all bruised.

We're just sexual people, here. Way kinked, yes, but "kinked" isn't a designator that we own, exclusively, is it? We're all engaged in an investigation of BDSM sexuality of one kind or another, whether it's just to understand more about it or because we want it in our life or because we've been doing it forever and are still learning about our responses to this kinda sexuality.

BDSM is our common bond, our passion and pleasure. Most of us have done a lot of thinking of the place this kind of sexuality holds in our lives and hearts. We post substantially longer bits of our thoughts too, because the subject is complex and because an essential part of who we are under the BDSM umbrella requires we attempt to be clear with others regarding who we are and what we need and what we want and what we fear within our sexual relationships.

That's scary?
How?

 

[sexy-girl]

cymbidia this has to be the first cross thread cross forum conversation in literotica history


i think that its just a matter of time before more of the GB would post on here (there'ss a scary thought for you all ) that have a mild interest in BDSM talk but i think most will have a lurking period before they do post


like i have and am still some (just im a loud lurker) but i guess there must be a large proportion of people over there that have no interest whatsoever in BDSM talk ... just like when i start a thread about gay/lesbian discussion there's a large amount of people that will never even open it


for me there's a double interest over here no no triple interest ... i enjoy sexuality and sensuality and that thrives over here i have a interest in actual BDSM and the 3rd reason is the people here

 

[petrel]

Are we really scary?
Why?

It's astonishing to me that anyone would think what we do within the privacy and security of our own love relationships, and always consensually too, could possibly be threatening to them.

cym darlin, anythign new is scary, anything that requires you to make a decision or to make a stand or even show an interest in a subject 'outside the normal' is scary.
I would guess for alot of people it is scary to come over here because by posting and showing an interest they have in some way labelled themselves as potential 'pervs'.

Imagine you are at a freshers fair - there are lots of stalls but lots of peopel who 'might' be watching which stalls you go to. You have a vague undefined interest in environmental issues but you see that the stall is staffed by people who are 'out and proud' about their beliefs and that compared to say - joining the football team it is a contentious issue.
So what do you do - you join the footie squad and maybe hang around on the fringes of the enviro group till you decide whether or not to take the plunge.

Sorry for the long metaphor - I don't think we are the scary ones really we just inhabit a scary space - a space where you have to think about your life and not just follow the easy path of 'normality'

 

[Hecate]

Uhm ... do I need to care?

I admit, I have NOT read what "the people" at the GB think about "the people" at the BDSM BB ... just because I am NOT a BDSM-BB person but a Literotica visitor, who happens to have a stronger interest in the BDSM side of things than have maybe others.

There are different boards here at Lit, true - but they divide topics, not people. That thought has NEVER occured to me before this thread to be honest.

Therefore I am not really upset about people NOT being interested in the BDSM BB - why should they be? I mean, let's face it, if there were an Incest Board I would not hang out there , not because the people are "scary", but simply because I am not interested and yes, if I were honest, I found them scary in a way , but am I not entitled to that opinion? As long as I leave them alone I think I did best I could. What other courtesy can we ask of everyone else? If you don't like it or are not interested leave it alone!

If there were all of a sudden a Vegetarian BB popping up, or a BB dedicated to discussion of "....." (insert whatever topic you have so absolutely no clue about that you wouldn't even understand the posts), I just would stay away from it after maybe an initial curious peek.

Would I care what "the people there" thought about me posting on any other corner of Lit? NO! Would I care about their opinion aboutmy preferd corner of Lit? NO!

Does it bother me that people I hold in high esteem do not share my views and preferences on BDSM? NO (as long as they simply leave me in peace with my opinion on the topic anyway)!

Do I care what the GB thinks about "us"? NO! Becasue I don't really care what the rest of the earth population thinks about BDSM either as long as they don't bother me!

 

[sexy-girl]

hectate please do read the other thread it was started by me ... and all i said was nice things about the BDSM forum and the thread is mostly GB folk saying although they dont post here so often they often lurk because they enjoy the sensuality of you BDSM folk

 

[Guru]

 

[monster666]

I think the only thing that bothers me about the general thread pertaining to this board is that people have misconceptions about how we discuss things here. We aren't elitist all. We aren't pretentious. And I think we are very welcoming. If once that is understood a person chooses not to come because BDSM discussion isn't his or her cup of tea, then fine. It's also fine if someone makes no judgement and doesn't come at all.

However, it's just not right for people to start tossing labels at what kind of people we are and what kind of dialog takes place before even venturing over to first see what's really going on. I don't think that's deserved.

 

[Guru]

 

[sexy-girl]

I think the only thing that bothers me about the general thread pertaining to this board is that people have misconceptions about how we discuss things here. We aren't elitist all. We aren't pretentious. And I think we are very welcoming. If once that is understood a person chooses not to come because BDSM discussion isn't his or her cup of tea, then fine. It's also fine if someone makes no judgement and doesn't come at all.

However, it's just not right for people to start tossing labels at what kind of people we are and what kind of dialog takes place before even venturing over to first see what's really going on. I don't think that's deserved.

i think that was an extreme minority that said things like that you shouldn't accept that as the conception that the GB have of you ... because we dont

 

[Hecate]

*s* Duely back from reading

*S* I was not assuming they said anything "bad" about the BDSM Board, sexy girl, and I sure have no issue whatsoever with linking the boards, not at all, since, as I said, I consider it all to be the Big House of Literotica, just with a few seperate rooms to make it easier to choose your conversation topics.

I just wanted to express my point of view in regards to the odd "split" that I never considered at Lit... after all, aren't we all pervs visiting a porn site?

As for the general interest - see above statement *chuckles* in such a basically pervy .. er wait, sensual and sexually adventurous and open ... group of people the acceptance and interest should be expected to be a little higher than in the rest of the world.

As for the people thinking we are getting a little too "rhetoric" .. agreed! *lol* if just I knew where the hands on action was !

 

[monster666]

I do realize that. Overall, I think the posting over there has been pretty cool. And I still think you should pick a dot and stick to it!

i think that was an extreme minority that said things like that you shouldn't accept that as the conception that the GB have of you ... because we dont

 

[cymbidia]

Re: *s* Duely back from reading

As for the people thinking we are getting a little too "rhetoric" .. agreed! *lol* if just I knew where the hands on action was !

~sticking close to Hecate cuz if she finds the hands-on action, i'd give up forum rhetoric in a hot second to be there with her!~

 

[sexy-girl]

Re: *s* Duely back from reading

thanks hecate


and monster its a world cup bra ... those are meant to be footballs on the bra ... its not actually me or anything in the av though

 

[cellis]

I find the perceptions of the GB to be mildly amusing... I have never thought of myself or Himself as scary in the least... just a couple with a perchance for perv...

I don't hang out much on the GB any more, mainly because I don't have the time... although there are people over there that I genuinely like and respect...

Maybe I'll just go ask them over here for coffee and let them get to know us better...