Here's the shallow end......

[april-wine]

I have been wondering about this for awhile.......

I met some really nice people, we chatted, we laughed, we even flirted a little......There was absolutely nothing going on between us, just having a little fun.....I am involved with someone and made no secret of it.....

Exchanged pictures with these folks and suddenly........BOOM cold shoulder.....I wonder what the motivation was?? Why bother talking to anyone, I mean you may as well ask for pics first, then if they don't measure up......No time wasted right?

 

[Zephan]

You have to wonder why people you chat with on the computer are so concered about looks anyway. I mean its not like there is a really good chance you will ever meet in real life. If you are just looking for people to chat and laugh with looks really shouldn't even enter into the picture. I guess if I were you I wouldn't try and trade pictures right away. I just would not trade pictures at all. Simply say you don't have one. Then it is a non-issue as it should be.

Anyway, I am sure you measure up. Their loss.

 

[MaddyBaby]

I hope ye don't mean me, April. I was out of town for a bit.. and out all weekend. Haven't been on much, babe. I still loves ya. *cuddles tight*

 

[PacificBlue]

I have been wondering about this for awhile.......

I met some really nice people, we chatted, we laughed, we even flirted a little......There was absolutely nothing going on between us, just having a little fun.....I am involved with someone and made no secret of it.....

Exchanged pictures with these folks and suddenly........BOOM cold shoulder.....I wonder what the motivation was?? Why bother talking to anyone, I mean you may as well ask for pics first, then if they don't measure up......No time wasted right?

I think you're pretty wonderful too. I haven't seen you around as much but I think there is a time difference thing working against us.

{{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}}}

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

some people are idiots.
plane and simple.

 

[Cheyenne]

It is worse when the person you've sent the pics to IS someone you're interested in and you get no reaction at all, or they disappear.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

i know the feeling hun... it happens to me more than i'd care to let it.... but at least you found out now, instead of somewhere down the line. granted it sucks and it takes a hit at your self-esteem, but you also have to realize that there are plenty of other people out there that think you are a great person and look great too, so they are really the ones that are missing out

 

[just pet]

I agree people can be very shallow. But if you are involved with someone and "flirting" with someone else, exchanging pics, what are you actually looking for.... what are you expecting? Flirting is suggestive of possible sexual involvement, even if just to cyber... The internet is often the shallow end of the gene pool so protect the "real time" involvement, and don't send pictures out.... Don't forget there will be people who will only want to talk to you because of how you look as well... just as bad.... you don't need those people either...



pet

 

[april-wine]

I agree people can be very shallow. But if you are involved with someone and "flirting" with someone else, exchanging pics, what are you actually looking for.... what are you expecting? Flirting is suggestive of possible sexual involvement, even if just to cyber... The internet is often the shallow end of the gene pool so protect the "real time" involvement, and don't send pictures out.... Don't forget there will be people who will only want to talk to you because of how you look as well... just as bad.... you don't need those people either...
pet

Ahhhh pet, I am looking for nothing in a sexual manner......Just like to get to know people.....As for exchanging pics, it's nice to have a face to go with the name......Or lips as the case may be

 

[Guest]

 

[april-wine]

I think you're beeyootiful, AW

LOL thank- you Foxy.....

You guys are good for my ego............

Still I wonder what the motivaton is, I guess we are at a porn site lol.....Sometimes I forget that lol...........

 

[Aphrodisiac]

That was a rude thing to do ...

It seems that "those" sort of peope who do such childlish things are simply looking for one thing & if you don't fit the " image " of what they are looking for they act rude.

April .. you are the better person .. and you know girl that odds are you are way better looking then those rude freaks !

 

[Allexus_TN]

You have to wonder why people you chat with on the computer are so concered about looks anyway. I mean its not like there is a really good chance you will ever meet in real life. If you are just looking for people to chat and laugh with looks really shouldn't even enter into the picture. I guess if I were you I wouldn't try and trade pictures right away. I just would not trade pictures at all. Simply say you don't have one. Then it is a non-issue as it should be.

Anyway, I am sure you measure up. Their loss.

How someone looks would not make me remove their name from my buddy list. However, I really enjoy seeing pics of people I talk to. I like to put a face with a name. That's all I want a pic for. There definitely is more to a person than their looks, but I like the association of being able to picture the face instead of my monitor.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Flirting is suggestive of possible sexual involvement, even if just to cyber...

That's a pretty big generalization Pet. Flirting is a form of communication, and there is no implied interest in a sexual involvement just by flirting with someone. The same goes for photo exchanges... how does allowing someone to see a pic imply anything? People see me everyday, I may smile at them, wink at them, or engage in flirtatious conversation... does that mean I want to fuck them?

 

[Demian]

I'm Not Sure I know You're Personality

some people are idiots.
plane and simple.

But I love your Avatar...I'll be looking for you

 

[Demian]

Sorry, Everyone Else is Here, too

some people are idiots.
plane and simple.

I look you in the eye

And say hello

 

[Guest]

Ah love,

It is their loss.

 

[april-wine]

Ah love,

It is their loss.

Hmmm I am beginning to think it is my gain...........

 

[Guest]

 

[SilverVeil]

It does not matter if it is here or at a non-adult site. Once the pics have been exchanged ..... things get cool really quick.

Why should it matter what I look like if we are just chat/e-mail/BB friends ?
Can you not talk to me anymore about cats or music or anime or videogames if I am not pretty ?

It hurts when people do this to me. I don't exchange pics very often anymore because of it. If they insist .... I wonder why sometimes.

 

[truegentleman]

I am around a lot of people like that everyday between the gym and a fitness board I belong to. I am sorry to say that a lot of them are that shallow. They can find faults in others, but they never take a good look in the mirror.

Trust me, you have not lost a thing with people like that out of your life. I know it hurts to put the time and effort into a relationship and have that person disapoint you, even an online relationship.

 

[april-wine]

Thanks truegentleman, the thing that bugs me is I thought they were really cool, very nice, we had fun...........

 

[Caressa]

April-Wine:

I, like many others, know exactly how it feels to send the pic then send messages to dead air.

I VERY rarely send a pic when asked, and actually I get very inquisitive of why they want to see a pic. However, this weekend I sent my pic to two jerks...I mean guys who inquired. My reasoning behind it was that I'm not ashamed of what I look like, as a matter of fact I'm damn cute.

And what made it worse was that one guy said I was cute, and the other one said I was pretty. then within 5 minutes of sending the pics....they disappeared. both of these managed to happen within an hour!
I sent emails to both guys asking what gives and then managed to remain pissy about it for the rest of the weekend.

I'm the target of random IM's all the time and I have no problem engaging in interesting conversations. But, I do tend to instantly ignore someone who starts with "A/S/L" "pic?" or "what do you look like"

So my philosphy basically remains - Screw them!

 

[erosman]

You're a hit in my book, AW.

Still I wonder what the motivaton is, I guess we are at a porn site lol.....Sometimes I forget that lol...........

LOL...You too? I generally don't think of this place as just a porn site. It hurts to open oneself up, and then feel the dissappointment of a cooled response. I think that Lit has really helped me to NOT take the cold shoulders and invisibility so personally, and to keep peeling the layers of guarded, self-preservation away. Unmasking the inner thoughts and feelings - vulnerability - is the only 'real' way to connect with another soul.

 

[april-wine]

erosman,

I guess I am just gonna have to provide lips only lol..........hugs april.............