Helpful website links

[SheDevilShay]

http://www.thescreamergirl.com/


Its a website of rants, essays, storys, and history on BDSM

http://www.aslavesheart.com/main.html

This is a website about being a slave and what it should mean.

http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdlinks.html

Here's a BDSM resource link. (includes check lists, books, idea's, theories.. etc)


http://www.geocities.com/digitsnmaryann/creed.html

Here are the "sub" guidelines.. (take what applies to you its not set in stone)

http://www.geocities.com/digitsnmaryann/B-creed.html

Here are some Dom guidelines (you can apply either of these to either gender, though typically the Male is the Dom and the female is the sub/slave)

http://www.takeninhand.com/

Self explanitory link I think....


(This is what I have right now, I am really interested in education so if you guys have more reference links that be awesome... I had a couple more but they are no longer "around"... )

 

[catalina_francisco]

You will find a multitude of links in the Library at the top of the TALK forum, some duplicates of ones you have here...you can spend hours following those links and ones they lead to if so inclined.

Catalina

 

[Sir_Winston54]

The links you posted could be helpful to many; however, I would take slight issue with your phrasing concerning the slave's heart link:

This is a website about being a slave and what it should mean.

I would prefer to see it as something along the lines of "This is a website about being a slave, and what it means to that author."

Because as we all know "YMMV"* is about the only statement made here that applies to almost everyone.

* - YMMV = Your Mileage May Vary

 

[myinnerslut]

i agree with Sir Winston about the wording.

and i definitly agree with cat about looking in the library.

this is the thirteenth thread youve started on the bdsm forums (and 25th thread youve started on all the forums) in the past 5/6 days. not that there is anythign wrong with posting threads, asking questions, learning, etc. it is in fact, quite encouraged. however many of your threads are duplicates of things that have already been posted and discussed. may i recomend the search function to see if the topic you are intrested in already has a thread open?

 

[SheDevilShay]

The links you posted could be helpful to many; however, I would take slight issue with your phrasing concerning the slave's heart link:
I would prefer to see it as something along the lines of "This is a website about being a slave, and what it means to that author."

Because as we all know "YMMV"* is about the only statement made here that applies to almost everyone.

* - YMMV = Your Mileage May Vary

Your right,it is phrased wrong (its copied/pasted of a mom website that I found.).. I apologize thanks for catching that!

 

[SheDevilShay]

You will find a multitude of links in the Library at the top of the TALK forum, some duplicates of ones you have here...you can spend hours following those links and ones they lead to if so inclined.

Catalina

Thanks, I didn't realize there was a link page, I will go do some reserach on it now

 

[LordKalgalath]

reposts

Im going to have to take issue with the one who complains of reposts.

So long as something is not a mirror-match for another thread, it is a moot point. If she wished to RESPOND, or simply to read, which i am sure she is doing already, searching for topics is fine. However she is posting her own gathering of info, and presenting her own idea and questions.

To make it short, sweet and as low-brain as possible, if you have nothing constructive, or on topic to say, bugger off. pointless posting is a waste, and you are doing the very thing that you are alluding to her doing.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

If u take it from this side of view, wasn't it already ALL discussed on this board ages ago???

I must say i don't mind she's starting threads wich was maybe started ages ago as well, but hey that's just me

Honestly i have a prob find a thread wich i saw 2 dayz ago LOL, so i dont mind if she start a new one so i could read it and see what people think and have to say to it.

Or maybe i am just lazy use the "search"

 

[serijules]

The "repost" issue probably crops up more often than the actual reposts themselves.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Im going to have to take issue with the one who complains of reposts.

So long as something is not a mirror-match for another thread, it is a moot point. If she wished to RESPOND, or simply to read, which i am sure she is doing already, searching for topics is fine. However she is posting her own gathering of info, and presenting her own idea and questions.

To make it short, sweet and as low-brain as possible, if you have nothing constructive, or on topic to say, bugger off. pointless posting is a waste, and you are doing the very thing that you are alluding to her doing.

What you say is partly so, but what has been happening around these parts in recent weeks (and many, many times before) are people open threads about a specific topic which is already mentioned, already has a thread on the first page of the forum asking the exact same question....and from memory we also had about 4-5 threads asking the same question running at the same time recently. If you want to learn from other experiences, posting the same question in multiple threads will work against you because people usually don't have the time, and sometimes the patience, to post the same answer multiple times, especially in short succession, so then you find people linking you to the previous threads or not bothering at all as they are all discussed ut on that subject. It also is about helping the forum remain interesting and keep moving...if topics are pushed out by multiple threads on 1 or 2 subjects, things tend to slow down...sort of like when you try to shove food scraps down the sink pipe over and over...it gets all clogged up.

Catalina

 

[LordKalgalath]

True enough. However, to offer a riposte, you fail to see something at a very fundamental level of the human psyche.

Someone searching for this exact topic, as intendes when the thread started, is highly unlikely to post here now.

Reason: the topic has shifted. not we are discussing reposts rather than the roles of Dom and sub, or anything of that nature. Therefore, having visited this thread and probably absorbing what info is here, they would have questions not covered here due to other espousing the sin of posting anew, when the topic of another post is the same as the one they started.

If you want to argue semantic and nuances, go start a thread for that. I find it incredibly rude to hijack someones thread for the sole purpose of telling them that they should be intruding on someone elses thread, which, like this one, has no doubt shifted to another factet or to an entirely different topic, rendering any such pst about the original topic, not only moot, but intrusive and irritating to those discussing whatever the topic has become.

You should not be so worried about new thread. You should worry about the ones that hang around for ages. clogging up the pipes, as you so adequately put it. Some new thread will wash away, but for every thread that starts like this one and gets de-railed, it makes more of a clog.

So stop contributing and start advocation for more streamlined boards in a way that actually makes sense.

If a Thread is on a topic, there should be no place for a post that is not at the very least 2/3rds relevant to that topic, and niether this, nor the original complainer, nor your or my replies are on topic. they should all be moved to a new thread solelly for this purpose, and leave this one to become venerable with age, or fade away of its own topic and merit.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Im going to have to take issue with the one who complains of reposts.

So long as something is not a mirror-match for another thread, it is a moot point. If she wished to RESPOND, or simply to read, which i am sure she is doing already, searching for topics is fine. However she is posting her own gathering of info, and presenting her own idea and questions.

To make it short, sweet and as low-brain as possible, if you have nothing constructive, or on topic to say, bugger off. pointless posting is a waste, and you are doing the very thing that you are alluding to her doing.

Since you've walked into the forum and posted this diatribe for your introduction to us, I'll make my response short, sweet and as low-brain as possible, since that seems to be your forte: To tell other people to bugger off when you know nothing of what has happened or is happening in that forum is a sure sign of a troll-in-the-making. I wonder if maybe you're an alt for JAMESBJOHNSON. You have the same unearned appropriation of self-esteem as he does. So, until you've posted something positive and useful in this forum -- bugger off.

However, partially in SDS's defense, how many times have we seen posts in here that complain that Lit's search function is next to useless? Personally, I don't mind all that much seeing a "new" topic come up that may have been discussed a month or six months or a year ago, and if I'm really feeling nice I may see if I can find that thread and link to it. If I don't find that thread, but have something constructive to add to the "new" thread, I'll add it; otherwise, I just move on to the next one that interests me.

Just as a point of interest for those who have recently complained about duplicating topics, there was a topic on the Talk page recently about caning, to which I and others contributed substantial and lengthy posts (and even a bit of flaming between cane purists and those who are ... less orthodox?). Within the last couple of days, however, an *old* (February-March 2003) thread on caning was bumped up to the front page of Talk. Should the bumper have been chastised for renewing a discussion that was fairly thoroughly covered so recently?

Go ahead... tell WriterDom that he shouldn't have bumped it! Be my guest!

 

[serijules]

I dunno, he made perfect sense to me

 

[WriterDom]

Well fuck. I don't care about how many Daddy threads there are or who bumps up what or want anyone starts. I just read what I want to read anyway. Unless it's an all out spam war no one is going to "break" the forum.

 

[SheDevilShay]

Well fuck. I don't care about how many Daddy threads there are or who bumps up what or want anyone starts. I just read what I want to read anyway. Unless it's an all out spam war no one is going to "break" the forum.

Thats how I feel, I know I post alot, but so what? I read many threads and just don't reply because I don't know what to say to them.(so I observe and try and learn.) and soemtimes I have my own questions and I don't want to steal someone else's thread...

 

[LordKalgalath]

Since you've walked into the forum and posted this diatribe for your introduction to us, I'll make my response short, sweet and as low-brain as possible, since that seems to be your forte: To tell other people to bugger off when you know nothing of what has happened or is happening in that forum is a sure sign of a troll-in-the-making. I wonder if maybe you're an alt for JAMESBJOHNSON. You have the same unearned appropriation of self-esteem as he does. So, until you've posted something positive and useful in this forum -- bugger off.

No, I am not some alias for a troll. I am someone who does ntop bother to speak unless i have something to say, though, as you have demonstrated, usually it is taken awry.

I was telling those who would post withoiut any relevance to bugger off. I had a point, I still have a point, I know what Im talking about, and at this point it is a discussion between Cat Shay and I, and you are the one interjecting without provocation, invitation or need, and therefore muddying the waters.

My original post was not an attack on any one person in particular, but rather a commentary on something I find to be an issue on most forums, and I explained further in my second post, which you neglected to refer to in your post, so i
wonder if you read it at all.

The fact that at least one person had commited the act upon which I was speaking in this thread is irrelevant, as it was directed at anyone commiting the same infraction, including yourself, and myself.

And as Shay said, its rude to steal someone elses thread, so how about everyone shuts up about this, and get back to the topic at hand. If you want to continue debating the point with me, you can PM me, or you can open your own thread and flame me as much as you please, for all the good it will do you.

The typos you will have o forgive as it becomes difficult to type with a squirming baby on your lap

 

[myinnerslut]

Im going to have to take issue with the one who complains of reposts.

i suppose that would be me since i was the only one who mentioned it in this thread at the time you said something

So long as something is not a mirror-match for another thread, it is a moot point.

lately there have been a lot of "mirror matches" as you put it, as well as some new and thought though provoking threads that i have enjoyed reading.

If she wished to RESPOND, or simply to read, which i am sure she is doing already, searching for topics is fine. However she is posting her own gathering of info, and presenting her own idea and questions.

i do believe i mentione dthat asking questions and learning was encouraged. i have nothing against that. i think its a good thing.

To make it short, sweet and as low-brain as possible, if you have nothing constructive, or on topic to say, bugger off. pointless posting is a waste, and you are doing the very thing that you are alluding to her doing.

the low brain bit was uncalled for, as was the bugger off. i didnt insult anybody. i suggested in the nicest way i knew how that the OP looked at the search forum before opening a brand new thread. i have nothing against her personally, and believe that i acted in a manner that reflected this. i made a suggestion. not an attack.

oh, and welcome to lit.


on a relevent note, im sorry shay for the hijack of your thread, and i am enjoying thescreamer girl website. while i dont agree with everything the author says, the no bullshit approach is refreshing.

 

[LordKalgalath]

And as i said it was not an attack on you, but a comment on the practice.
I also never claimed you attacked anyone. In fact I dont recall mentioning you in specific at all.


sorry so short.. son wants fed

 

[BiBunny]

To make it short, sweet and as low-brain as possible, if you have nothing constructive, or on topic to say, bugger off.

Take thy own advice.

BBs mirror real life. Let's look at Lit like a kinky dinner party. The way to get good advice and make friends is to follow the unwritten rules of etiquette. Someone who dominates the conversation, who refuses to join into other people's topics because he/she MUST have the focus on himself/herself is not going to make any friends. If people think you're a boor, nobody's going to pay you any attention.

it is a discussion between Cat Shay and I

For 900-kajillionth time lately, Lit is a public discussion board. It is a discussion between whomever wants to read and post. Nobody owns the board or has the right to tell others what they can say and when they can say it.

Jesus Christ on a pogo stick.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

No, I am not some alias for a troll. I am someone who does ntop bother to speak unless i have something to say, though, as you have demonstrated, usually it is taken awry.

I'm glad you're not an alt for that particular troll - he was getting too easy to snark. As far as "not bothering to speak unless [you] have something to say," the post to which I responded was your very first post on Literotica. Are we to infer, then, that as long as you've been here, you've previously had nothing of value to contribute to any discussion? I find that a little difficult to credit, since you're obviously reasonably intelligent and articulate. (BTW, from me, that's high praise. )

I was telling those who would post withoiut any relevance to bugger off. I had a point, I still have a point, I know what Im talking about, and at this point it is a discussion between Cat Shay and I, and you are the one interjecting without provocation, invitation or need, and therefore muddying the waters.

As has been pointed out by others, it's a public board, thus those who wish to comment upon any part of it may do so. In my case, I take issue with just about anyone telling others to bugger off (or the equivalent), and have no concern about making that fact known, unlike some of the more civilized folk here.

My original post was not an attack on any one person in particular, but rather a commentary on something I find to be an issue on most forums, and I explained further in my second post, which you neglected to refer to in your post, so i wonder if you read it at all.

If you look at the time your second post was logged in, and the log time of my response to your first, you'll see that it's quite likely (and is, in fact, true) that I was typing my response at the time you posted your second. So no, I had not read it at the time I responded. However, to address your specific point in this paragraph -- "something I find to be an issue on most forums" -- the fact of diversions, detours, and outright hijacks of threads is simply part of life in forums in which posts are not moderated prior to their being posted. This, however, is a free speech board, including and especially the individual fora, and thus people will stray off-topic, sometimes to extremes. They (the threads) usually find their way back to the topic.

The fact that at least one person had commited the act upon which I was speaking in this thread is irrelevant, as it was directed at anyone commiting the same infraction, including yourself, and myself.

And as Shay said, its rude to steal someone elses thread, so how about everyone shuts up about this, and get back to the topic at hand. If you want to continue debating the point with me, you can PM me, or you can open your own thread and flame me as much as you please, for all the good it will do you.

Also, from your second post:

If a Thread is on a topic, there should be no place for a post that is not at the very least 2/3rds relevant to that topic, and niether this, nor the original complainer, nor your or my replies are on topic. they should all be moved to a new thread solelly for this purpose, and leave this one to become venerable with age, or fade away of its own topic and merit.

If you've read many threads in this forum (BDSM Talk, and especially the Café, you should by this time have noted that almost every thread, at some point, is hijacked -- often more than once -- and that most of them get back to the original intent. Flame you? Nah -- just a quick backhand to get your attention. I haven't flamed anyone in this board since ... hmmm... some time late in 2004?

The typos you will have o forgive as it becomes difficult to type with a squirming baby on your lap

Been there, done that, long, looooooong ago. Also had the joy of trying to type for a living with a litter of adventurous kittens trying to chase my fingers across the keyboard. Now that is fun... NOT!

Side note to Shay: Don't forget the second paragraph of my first response - and I apologize for contributing to the diversion of your thread to this bumpy little side road. We now return the thread to its regularly scheduled programming.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Heh -- just to help get this thread back on the highway, a link to a 2003 thread with lots and lots of links from the Wizard. I dunno how many of them are still valid, but what the heck!

 

[catalina_francisco]

And as Shay said, its rude to steal someone elses thread, so how about everyone shuts up about this, and get back to the topic at hand. If you want to continue debating the point with me, you can PM me, or you can open your own thread and flame me as much as you please, for all the good it will do you.

Too busy to do more than address this in the interests of clearing up a common misconception. Threads on this forum belong to the site, not the original poster, so no-one who comments or posts on a thread is stealing it from the OP, they are just contributing to the discussion, usually in a way which relates to the topic being discussed and how it personally affects them, or their experience and knowledge (or thoughts on) of it. We also don't encourage flaming, though it happens from time to time, and we don't as a rule tell people to shut up as if everyone did that when someone didn't agree or like what they had to say, there would be very little posted in the forum at all...discussion is what it is all about, though sometimes people do initially become very enthusiastic in their delight with finding an audience of people willing to listen and discuss topics of interest to all of us...it isn't like it is something you can usually strike up a conversation with while waiting in the checkout queue at the supermarket, so it is natural to feel excited when you find somewhere you can without fear.

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

True enough. However, to offer a riposte, you fail to see something at a very fundamental level of the human psyche.

Someone searching for this exact topic, as intendes when the thread started, is highly unlikely to post here now.

Reason: the topic has shifted. not we are discussing reposts rather than the roles of Dom and sub, or anything of that nature. Therefore, having visited this thread and probably absorbing what info is here, they would have questions not covered here due to other espousing the sin of posting anew, when the topic of another post is the same as the one they started.

If you want to argue semantic and nuances, go start a thread for that. I find it incredibly rude to hijack someones thread for the sole purpose of telling them that they should be intruding on someone elses thread, which, like this one, has no doubt shifted to another factet or to an entirely different topic, rendering any such pst about the original topic, not only moot, but intrusive and irritating to those discussing whatever the topic has become.

You should not be so worried about new thread. You should worry about the ones that hang around for ages. clogging up the pipes, as you so adequately put it. Some new thread will wash away, but for every thread that starts like this one and gets de-railed, it makes more of a clog.

So stop contributing and start advocation for more streamlined boards in a way that actually makes sense.

If a Thread is on a topic, there should be no place for a post that is not at the very least 2/3rds relevant to that topic, and niether this, nor the original complainer, nor your or my replies are on topic. they should all be moved to a new thread solelly for this purpose, and leave this one to become venerable with age, or fade away of its own topic and merit.

LOL, well this reminds me of someone I once knew who insisted when having a conversation with someone (or actually seeking to) you should first ask them if they mind you speaking to them, then ask them if you can talk to them about xyz, and then if they agree only talk about xyz and not abc which might eventuate in the course of conversation as related to the original topic. Needless to say, it seemed to organised and staged to interest me in conversing with that person, not to mention AR. Out of interest, my original post was in the interests of providing the OP with more resources which she seemed keen to read, I did not say anything about not posting the thread. As for teling me where and how to post, it doesn't work...I have a job to do here (moderator according to the rules of Lit) and sometimes happen to post where I am reading at the time if I think of something I want to say.

Catalina

 

[SheDevilShay]

A gorean Slave with children and how it works...

http://www.goreanwhispers.com/Jewelsbyjade/newton.html