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[Dave C]

My wife is driving me up a wall. When we have sex lately I usally do somthing wrong. I squeeze her tits to hard, I suck her nipples to hard. When she gets hot she clamps her knees together so that getting to her clit is difficult, then when I do I am not doing it right its either to fast to slow, to hard. She use to let me finger fuck her, now she dosent like it. She sucks cock but makes it like shes doing me a big favor. If I try to hold her legs open when I play with her clit she says that she feels more comfortable with her knees together.
She still climaxes but I have just about had it . She used to be very hot once you got her going, she would suck with the best and even take it in ass. But now I have just about given up. Any ideas?

 

[lilfrk]

Well...

Maybe you should talk to her about it. Seems like you all have a big lack of communication happening there. So there's my idea for you. ASK HER what's wrong, not us.

Good Luck~Ally

 

[Dave C]

I did. Her answer was "nothing is wrong" I just don't like this or that any more. What do you like? Just keep doing what you doing.
Thats hat I get.

 

[lilfrk]

That is a typical "chic" answer. Nothing. It's one of my all time favorites. Keep asking until she tells you. But don't ask her in bed, right in the middle of the action. Do it some other time in a non-threatening way. Oh yeah and be prepared to hear stuff you don't want to hear. Just sit there and take it like a man. It isn't a time for pointing fingers. You asked, you wanted her to tell you, you need to listen and not say a whole lot. Then go from there.

~Ally

 

[White_Tigress_]

Sounds to me like she is doing all she can to upset you....on purpose!

Do you think she is having an affair? That would be my first guess, is she is wanting it from somewhere or someone else. I don't like to be the barer of bad news, but that's my opinion.

Or it is possible she is upset with you for something, and this is her way of 'getting you back'. Sadly enough I had several friends that would do this to their husbands. For me...thats the wrong way about it, it only would stress me out more.

Everyone is right though...You do need to somehow get that information out of her..and it won't be easy. Don't take the 'nothing' answer...thats bullshit!!! (and her easy way out of an answer, if she knows it will bother you and you just walk away)

I do hope you resolve the issue....whatever it may be.

 

[Darklord]

They'll do it every time....

I can tell you from my own personal experiences that "Nothing is wrong" means a whole lotta shit is going down somewhere. Now as Tigress said, it could be her way of getting you back, and thats usually, usually, a good bet. BUT, there could be other things going on you haven't picked up on, and she's also pissed about that too. I've had times where I felt I did nothing wrong and had kept my eyes open for problems, and something happened that she saw as a problem and even if it had nothing to do with me, I went up shit creek minus a paddle. So be wary about things outside the home and the bedroom.

Now, if you want to get the straight answer, as the others said be willing to take blows that will feel to you to hit below the belt. In fact, there will be a lot of them if my experiences have any sort of meaning in the world. But when you go to get answers make sure you do it in a non threating way and in a very relaxed environment, make her tea and sit at the dining room table, or in the living room, just make it comfortable for both of you, and it will help the communication greatly. Take care and good luck.