HELP!

[Little_miss]

Hi, I am fairly new here, but have looked around some. I have a question... I umm...I just got engaged a few months ago, but ever since then, my fiance has seemed less interested in being intimate. He is a very sensual/sexual guy and I don't know if his mood change is because of our change of status or if I myself has changed. I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions about why this has occured, and what I might do to rekindle our 'relations'.

Little Miss

As an aside; I was basically a virgin when we started together (only taken by rape), and he is much more experienced...

 

[Jade]

Little Miss

I am so sorry about your past. That is truly a devastating thing. (Big hug for what it is worth).

Don't hate me if I am way behind schedule on this but have you discussed this with him yet? Have you told him your feelings?

Luv
~Jade

 

[Little_miss]

I am not really sure how. When we are together, the sex is fabulous. I was almost wondering if I was like a nympho or something. As for the past I have dealt with it and was really happy to be in a healthy relationship, but thank you, your support means a lot.

Little Miss

 

[Jade]

Girl, you have GOT to talk to this guy!
Catch him when you are both clothed and in a semi-private place and tell him your feelings. Most guys I know of are willing to listen if you are wanting to "put-out" more. But seriously, you really need to talk to him b/c if things are already making you feel upset now, you need to fix it before you get married!

And I know what you mean about feeling like a nympho... wish I could help you more there!
You can please yourself right? (yes that was serious, but you don't have to answer it here of course)... b/c if you can't... learn!
Sexual satisfaction helps allure satisfaction in other areas of life it seems sometimes.... hopefully you agree?

Take care girl!

Luv,
~Jade

 

[Jeff726]

While sexual satisfaction is important, it shouldn't be what causes relationships to have problems. I don't know if you consider this a disagreement, but I feel sex is not the most important part of a relationship.

 

[Little_miss]

Thanks to you both. I found out, much to my surprise, that my fiance is also a member here at Literotica, maybe having this in common will help. I love him dearly, so I am sure that we can work things out if we come to an understanding. I just hope that talking to him will not upset him because if I lose him I don't know what I will do. Despite our present difficulties and his actions here at Literotica, he is the best thing that has ever happened to me, and I still intend on marrying him on the date we have set. Please cross your fingers, say your prayers, anything to help us work this out!

Little Miss

 

[Jade]

Originally posted by Jeff726:
I feel sex is not the most important part of a relationship.

Jeff!!!

I never thought I would hear that come from a guy!
hats off to you hon!

~Jade

 

[Little_miss]

Sex has been a really bonding part of our relationship because we love to lie in bed and talk about life afterwards...it was lying in bed after a particularily good night of loving that we decided that we should definately get married (and not just for the sex, although when you live apart, and both live at home, sometimes it is hard to find time alone!) but because we were so happy together...maybe I just need to seduce him like he has never been seduced before and make him remember why he gets to share my bed for the rest of his life...What do you all think??

Little Miss

 

[Little_miss]

Thank you all for your help. I have talked with my fiance, who if you haven't figured it out by now is Fox, and we are going to head of here and spend some time together...

Little Miss