help with woman on woman

[mdiver]

I'm working on a story that involves women getting together when their husbands are out of town to help each other with their sexual tension relief. Lots of breasts fondling and masturbation.
My questions is should they kiss and if so how should I describe it?

 

[Blind_Justice]

I don't see why they shouldn't kiss. The only people going for a "no kiss rule" usually are some prostitutes. Unless you want to write a detached, simply focussing on tension relief mutual masturbation number, you should have kisses in your story, they are a good ice-breaker, a means to test out who is compatible with whom and a nice vehicle to transport emotion, from careful, exploratory pecks to hungry, tongue-laden acts of passion. As for descriptions, dont forget there is more to a kiss than tongue waggling. Describing how a person breathes, what sounds they make and maybe even what theytaste can improve the experience.

Or as my first girlfriend once said "Do what comes naturally, just don't bite my tongue off"

 

[matriarch]

I would suggest you read some of the better lesbian fiction on here. Seriously.
There are some amazing stories. You would learn much from them.

 

[A_J_Amanda_Jane]

I don't see why they shouldn't kiss. The only people going for a "no kiss rule" usually are some prostitutes. Unless you want to write a detached, simply focussing on tension relief mutual masturbation number, you should have kisses in your story, they are a good ice-breaker, a means to test out who is compatible with whom and a nice vehicle to transport emotion, from careful, exploratory pecks to hungry, tongue-laden acts of passion. As for descriptions, dont forget there is more to a kiss than tongue waggling. Describing how a person breathes, what sounds they make and maybe even what theytaste can improve the experience.

Or as my first girlfriend once said "Do what comes naturally, just don't bite my tongue off"

This.

I asked a former girlfriend to think of a single word to describe our kisses, and she went with 'minty'


AJ x

 

[49greg]

I suspect that any woman-woman sex that I have written and might write in the future are strictly a male fantasy and aren't what really happens. It would be interesting to get a blow by blow critique from a woman experienced in such things.

 

[Handley_Page]

I would suggest you read some of the better lesbian fiction on here. Seriously.
There are some amazing stories. You would learn much from them.

I quite agree.

 

[Desiremakesmeweak]

Hey btw, what is 'miff diving?'

 

[Handley_Page]

Hey btw, what is 'miff diving?'

You serious ?
It's MUFF diving and it's cunnilingus (eating pussy). See here

 

[stickygirl]

Kissing is more often where it starts and as far as it goes. Answer the question 'how does it make you feel?' rather than a mechanical 'how does it feel ( wet/warm/soft)' and you'll be on the right train of thought

You serious ?
It's MUFF diving and it's cunnilingus (eating pussy). See here

Adds a spin to the expression "I was so miffed"

 

[Desiremakesmeweak]

Yeah but on Mdiver's member page, he has 'Miff diving.'

This 'miff diving' is new to me. : )

 

[TxRad]

Yeah but on Mdiver's member page, he has 'Miff diving.'

This 'miff diving' is new to me. : )

Probably a typo but then again if you combine muff with milf....

 

[Areala-chan]

Kissing is more often where it starts and as far as it goes. Answer the question 'how does it make you feel?' rather than a mechanical 'how does it feel ( wet/warm/soft)' and you'll be on the right train of thought

This.

A kiss, at least to me, tells everything about the other person. There's a feeling in there, a personal connection, that almost goes deeper than sex itself. Kissing another woman for me is like reading a text message explaining everything she's feeling right then, and firing one of my own back. It may lead to more, but without that first look into the eyes, without that first tentative lip lock, it's not going anywhere.

 

[LWulf]

The trouble I see with describing a kiss, or any repeated action, is it tends to get monotonous to the extreme, really quick. The end result is the writer starts putting 'audibles' to denote actions, then placing thoughts or emotions betwixt them to break up the monotony.

The polar opposite is that a writer simply states that a couple shared a lingering kiss, as if that is passionate enough.

If you want to delve into details and describe a seriously good snog session, whether g/g, b/b or g/b, try watching a kiss in a movie or video that you think "WOW! That was a good kiss!" then try to describe what you saw.

I would say "Just think about a good make-out session you had," but the trouble with that is more often than not, you will tell it one sided (Maybe that would be a good thing as it would be the best way to describe it passionately?). Also, memory tends to get hazy while you can hit rewind on a video as often as you like. Watching something happen in a video is panoramic and in full color, while a memory is tunnel visioned and only in black and white. You only remember what you were focused on in the heat of the moment.

The idea is if you are passionate in watching it, then some of that will transfer to the written word.

JBJ had given some good advice once, "(when describing a POV from your opposite sex) write it out from your point of view and change the pronouns."
...It read better when he said it, but that was the gist of it.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Yeah but on Mdiver's member page, he has 'Miff diving.'

This 'miff diving' is new to me. : )

Melbourne International Film Festival, obviously.

 

[Desiremakesmeweak]

Putting on my best Dr. Zachary Smith voice...

"Melbourne International Film Festival. INDEED!"

...and now back to the topic.

There are so many good points being made here, about kissing.

Here's an amazing music video clip - just BE PREPARED FOR THE FIRST TWO SECONDS WHICH MAKES ME JUMP OUT OF MY SKIN EVERY SINGLE TIME:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=93ASUImTedo

This is the music video by Disclosure called 'Latch' feat Sam Smith.

There is an excellent lesbian contact, hook-up/hook-in kiss, but it really underscores the point about being careful in how you describe it or anything similar.

Also, my own personal, and very pedantic view of this type of video is that it completely adopts folkloric and mythological ideas about girl-girl relationships - albeit, in this particular video, the actors are outstanding (Amanda Piery and Sarah-Jane Howard).

Present folklore about relationships are skewed to a strangely idealistic 'love-y dove-y' but in my view, also overly soft-feminised paradigm. It's almost like people started out being transgressive, and rapidly descended straight into soppy traditional middle-of-the-road puritanical nonsense.

Which is all well and good in those few instances in which it happens like that in RL, but it presents considerable problems to writers, who are left having to shovel common mythology instead of realism, or having few or no examples of the many variations of lesbian hit-ons and consequential events other than this same old fairytale that is common to everything from Hans Christian Andersen to HEA religious dogmatism about sexual relationships.

To say nothing of the fact that there is simply no such thing as a romantic hetero male paradigm at all now, absent of all of this soft-core emo nonsense. Well, that's not being fair to the 'emo' world; it's really bathos, not emo.