Help with talking about cuckolding or sleeping with another man with my girl

[Salo_Leton]

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[Stella_Omega]

I recently told my girl that it turns me on to think of her fucking another man. We had the hottest sex ever. She seems to be a bit uncomfortable with using my fetish to its full effect.

question; when you say "hottest sex ever" is that how you rate it, or does she think so too?

I have told her that I am turned on by her having sex with another man. I am aroused by the thought of her going out on a date because she knows I am aroused by her playing around. I have told her I am turned on by her submitting and enjoying sex with another man. I tell her these things and we have great sex but I can not seem to get her talking comfortably and freely.

Many women can be aroused by the fact that their partner is wildly turned on, even though they don't care for the trigger that their partner is reacting to. Women can be aroused bythe simple fact of passion. If you talking about your fetish arouses you to passion, she might just be reacting to that.

The fact that she doesn't want to talk about your fantasy might be a clue that it isn't her fantasy as well.

What is a good strategy to get her comfortable, aroused and talking about this. How would you tell a girl that you want to be kind of humiliated and that the thought of her enjoying sex with a stronger virile man to be the most arousing thing?

I would tell her once or twice, and if she made it clear that it wasn't her cup of tea, I would know enough to drop it.

When I am turned on, I fantasize about letting a black man impregnate her, eating her lovers cum from her pussy, sucking her lovers cock for her.

Anyone have any experience with this?

whatchoo talking about, "letting" someone impregnate HER body? She is NOT yours to "let."

I invite you to ponder whether you've allowed your fantasy to obsess you to the point of stupidity and selfishness. You are not listening to her-- her silence is plenty of answer.

Really, if your fantasy is that important to you, you may need to find someone else to share it with, and let your girlfriend find someone she's more compatible with.

 

[Salo_Leton]

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[Stella_Omega]

Wow. I am surprised that someone would take the time to just rip another person on this site. From someone who seems to be a lesbian I would expect a little more acceptance. Shame on you. You may take issue with my wording and phrasing from a feminist perspective but I hardly intended to get into gender relations.

The details you seem to think indicate that I am so oblivious and pressuring my girl unduly are quite inaccurate.

Then make them clearer.

 

[LindsayRae]

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When people quote you, editing your original post will not help you.

 

[RAddams]

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No wonder you need help talking with your girl if this is how you communicate.

Judging from the quotes of your original post, all you seem to think about is your own satisfaction and could care less about what your girl wants.

 

[Salo_Leton]

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[LindsayRae]

I wish your girlfriend GOOD LUCK. For being with you and all.

 

[Salo_Leton]

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[LindsayRae]

Just thinking of her!

 

[Salo_Leton]

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[Boundlife]

Abandon this thread, take a breath, learn from you miss steps...

 

[Stella_Omega]

Good god this is embarrassing, I didn't think I was writing anything so horrible at the time. But I guess I can see how it looks from another's eyes, it doesn't really rep what I was going for. I did a horrible job at communicating the situation, and there is no graceful way to exit from these situations after making them 10x worse. Oy.

I've been thinking about this, believe it or not. And I do know and understand how tough it can be to explain a long history, describe your fears and deep desires, and ask for help with what YOU want.

So let me apologise, and ask you a slightly leading question;

Based on what your experience with this woman has been up to now-- Do you think she WOULD be willing to go further? really honestly?

I know you want her to, and believe it or not I sympathise with you. But many women have this way of slowing down, of not responding with enthusiasm-- it usually means "NO." Many women have a hard time saying "NO." And I think that just might be where you're at.

Otherwise, if you think she MIGHT be willing-- honestly-- to accommodate you, let's talk about how you're framing your desires.

 

[JakeLongman]

poor guy!

It looks like you got your ass kicked for voicing your desires. Yes, maybe you are being a bit self- centered, but you have a right to explore your fantasies.

I have almost the same fantasy, and I'm lucky that my wife will at least discuss it in bed with me.
I have lots of fantasies, including a 3-way with another girl. My wife wants no part of that fantasy, but she has at least entertained the thought of another man.
At first, my wife was freaked out about the "gayness" of a cuckold fantasy. But you can't help it if it turns you on, right?

On occassions, I ask my wife to "tell me a story" in bed.
Most of the time she makes things up about her with another man, while she jerks me off. But she knows that I prefer "true" stories, especially ones that happened while we have been together.
She had one fling that she confessed to me, and I would shoot my load every time she tried telling me the details, before the guy in the story would!
So while I am selfish about my desire to have her cheat and humiliate me, it is a nice compromise to have her tell me about herself.
It may not be the same as a big muscular stud slapping his dick in my face before he rams my wife, but it is still a very sensuous experience.