Help with freind

[spas12987]

I was talking to one of my freinds yeasterday, and I don't know how we got to talking about it but he's haveing trouble keeping a hard on. He says whenever fucking he loses attention I guess and can't keep it up. Could there be something seriously wrong with him, me thinking this since he's 24 thats just not right?

 

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by spas12987
I was talking to one of my freinds yeasterday, and I don't know how we got to talking about it but he's haveing trouble keeping a hard on. He says whenever fucking he loses attention I guess and can't keep it up. Could there be something seriously wrong with him, me thinking this since he's 24 thats just not right?

Does he have trouble keeping hard when he's masturbating too? If not, it's not physical. Could be a variety of things...none serious...any chance you have more details?


Without having details, I might suggest he consider using a cock ring...or perhaps masturbating before he goes out....but I'll let the guys comment on this...

 

[Kissophile]

Barring a physical origin, this sort of thing is most often a result of a psychological block. For example, if your friend was one with exceptionally high morals but found himself in bed with the town slut during a drunken orgy, his better side might take over and forbid him from completing the act. That's a slightly extreme example but I hope you see what I mean.

Even within a committed relationship this sort of thing can occur when the couple are at odds with each other.

 

[Noor]

I was talking to one of my freinds yeasterday, and I don't know how we got to talking about it but he's haveing trouble keeping a hard on. He says whenever fucking he loses attention I guess and can't keep it up. Could there be something seriously wrong with him, me thinking this since he's 24 thats just not right?

Does he really lose attention or get overloaded and shut down?
Does he get distracted by a breeze in the room, noise, light?

I have a bunch of coping skills for sensory overload that I can share. One easy one for me is to be covered and have masking noise or music that you know note by note in the background. Maybe if he were on the bottom, his partner on top and he somewhat covered up. maybe wearing a T shirt with his legs covered by a sheet. basically anything that would decrease the sensations of anything but his partner and their having sex.

 

[hewolf]

concentration

Another possibilty: is your friend also having a problem holding his attention on any demanding task? Does he have a tendency to tune out doing anything demanding prolonged concentration? (Like doing a rockclimbing pitch, or working a out a math problem).

If the answer is yes, then he has to address it, his problem is not really related to sex, or his partner, it is more general and by addressing it he will benefit in all areas of his life.

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

total skeptic

Well your profile doesn't say if you are male of female. My guess is that you are female. My guess is that you have either been friends since elementary school or friends for about a year. Either way you are good friend. I think you are the type of friend that would help fix any problem that was within your grasp(pun intended). I think your buddy is trying to get you to fuck him. Of course you will be the only person that he has "ever" been able to keep a Hard on with to completion. You will be " The Woman" for him. Like my title says I am a total skeptic.

Now if you are a guy well I may still be correct!



Holden