Help, urgent!

[mdomino69]

heres some background info

my girlfriend jsut got out of a 4 year relationship in which she has gotten sex every day for the last 3 years...

i am a virgin and i was planning to lose it to her on her birthday to make it a special night-


When we got down to the beach and got into our hotel room, we were getting a little ready and we were both there with nothing on, when she climbed on top of me i was rock hard but every time we rolled over to 'enter' it would go just a little bit soft...

i think the problem had something to do with my jacking it rigth before we left (3 hours earlier) but she is convinced that my penis is broken and we will never be able to have sex

now she has been a little strange towards me a lot of the time... and she doesnt want to talk about having sex for a little while because she is scared that i wont keep it up again and that then she will get nice and horny and let down again

what should i do guys, i love this girl and i dont want to risk losing her!

 

[Noor]

I have some comments and questions:

so for the first year she didn't get sex every day? Does she expect this from you?

It is a lot of pressure on a virgin to plan an exact date to lose your virginity.

why doesn't she stay on top? why do you need to roll over?

she is so silly, your penis is broken?

Even if you can't have intercourse there are other things you can do so she isn't left high and dry. You have hands, mouth, tongue...

If she cares about you she will help you out.

I have broken in quite a few virgins in my youth, I always told them everything that can go wrong your first time usually does and when it does, you laugh and try and again later, no biggy.

There are virgins and there are virgins, some virgins have very little or no sexual experience, some have done pretty much everything but intercourse. I don't know where you fall in this spectrum but I find that those with a fair amount of sexual experience make the transition better. Maybe you should focus of other types of sex for a while and have some fun, leave the virginity pressure cooker for a bit later.

 

[Star of Penumbra]

It's nerves. You just need to relax. However, I strongly suggest AGAINST using alcohol to relax, as it resticts bloodflow and makes it harder to maintain an erection.

 

[dcsatx29]

I agree, you were nervous, you probably had this big plan on the way it was going to be, and when you rolled over you didn't want to seem like you didn't know what you were doing and just stopped and started thinking about it too much.

Next time she gets on time and you are rock hard, go from there, let her put it in while on top and go from there.

Dc

 

[Trainerman]

Good advice....

I agree with all of the above. The idea about her being on top is a very good one....if you are hard then....why not use it???

I really do not think you need to worry about a broken penis !! This was almost certainly due to anxiety, and that is very natural ! Don't beat yourself up about it !!


Lastly...communication !! You may be a virgin NOW but spend a little time learning her body...what she likes....what REALLY turns her on. You will soon be giving her lots of pleasure........and not just fucking, either !! I do not think you will be worrying about losing her then ! IF you have learned what she really likes...it is just possible that SHE would be worried about losing YOU !!


Good Luck

Dave

 

[lorddragonwolf]

she could have statyed on top and rode for a bite. then you could have rolled her over with out pulling out. just relax it will all work out.

 

[FastFastr]

Do What Works

Do it on top for now, and when you get more comfortable you can try other positions.

If she thinks your penis is "broken" have her use her hands or mouth to bring you off and she'll see that your plumbing is in order.

The pressure must be tough entering a relationship with a woman is used to daily sex... especially since you're a virgin.

Does her daily sex mean daily intercourse, or does it include oral or manual (or anal) sex as a substitute for vaginal sex?

Let us know how it goes!