Help understanding ummm... dildo usage.

[Mindy2]

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[CreamyLady]

Or we could direct you to the How To board, and you could ask there.

I believe there is a section of stories called "Toys." You might try that.

 

[Weird Harold]

I have NO experience with them. I mean NONE!

An obvious solution to this problem, is a shopping trip to the literotica store.

Could some of you direct me to stories that could give me an idea of how a man and a woman would sort of incorporate the use of a dildo in their sex? I'm not looking to plagiarize. But I need to better understand how the thing is used in an erotic way.

I'm not sure the chapter is posted yet, but there is a very good example of what you're looking for in Sasha by Chanson_bleu.

I wouldn't mind a man using one on me I guess, but why? I mean why do a woman and a man (who has the real thing hanging between his legs!) use a dildo?

A couple of possible why's:

Dildoes don't go soft, so a man can pleasure a woman "forever"

With a dildo a man can live out a double penetration fantasy without having to look over her shoulder into a hairy face.

Dildo are, on average, bigger than "average." A man can indulge his woman's "big dick" fantasy without costly surgery or ineffective pumps and cremes.

The real thing doesn't buzz at variable speeds.

 

[cymbidia]

adding to WH's excellent list

Additionally, he can WATCH you as you get yourself off. Men are turned on by visual stuff more (on the average) than are women as we all know, PLUS it'll help him learn *how* you respond and what feels good to you and what you need to really get off.

Adding a dildo to the play can add a dimension of excitement for you both that just relying forever and ever on his penis might miss. It's fun to do nasty things during hot sex, isn't it? If adding this rather innocuous toy will increase either your pleasure or his, why not go for it?

Sucking on it will let him imagine how your mouth will feel on his penis and begin the aching process that will culminate, ultimately, in orgasm (hopefully for you both!).

 

[Mindy2]

CreamyLady- And why would I do something so obvious as look for an area in stories that might actually be related to this subject? Duh...! Thank you for pointing out the obvious. I can't imagine why it never occured to me to check!

Weird Harold- I'm still reading through "Sasha". Even if there is no reference to dildos anywhere in this novel, thanks for steering me to it.

Cymbidia & W.H. - Wow, you both gave excellent reasons as to why and how a couple might enjoy a dildo.

W.H.- "The real thing doesn't buzz at variable speeds"... I loved this one! I lied about not plagiariazing...I may steal this line for my story. But if you insist, I'll attribute the quote to you in my bibliography.

Finally...

Cymbidia- "Sucking on it will let him imagine how your mouth will feel on his penis and begin the aching process that will culminate, ultimately, in orgasm" ... this particular act will most definitely make it into the story.

Thank you all for your help!

...Mindy

 

[Weird Harold]

Weird Harold- I'm still reading through "Sasha". Even if there is no reference to dildos anywhere in this novel, thanks for steering me to it.

W.H.- "The real thing doesn't buzz at variable speeds"... I loved this one! I lied about not plagiariazing...I may steal this line for my story.

The Dildo in Sasha comes into the story while they're in Japan at the "love hotel."

You cannot steal what is freely given! Use it with my blessings.

 

[Sonia_de_Beaumanoir]

My 2 cents

I think the "love hotel" chapter of Sasha must not be posted yet.

There is another area of dildo play you could think about. If you have not tried anal and want to, using a dildo the first time is likely to be more comfortable than with a partner. You can go at your own pace, and of course choose an appropriate size. (I would recommend starting very small and using lots of lube.

In a similar vein, placing a small vibe/dildo anally while masturbating gives a wonderful feeling of being full.

Finally, a vibe/dildo in one opening while penetrated by a partner in the other can be very erotic, especially for those of us with DP fantasies. It also gives the man a very pleasureable sensation.

 

[rambling man]

I think it is just something that can add to the fun and pleasure of sex. A small one can be used to widen the anus for more intense fun and games, or a big one can be used to fulfill the big dick fantasy as was already said. It can also help fulfill a man's bisexual fantasies if strapped on the woman. He can suck on it or take it inside him.