Help ... (please)

[chris 44]

Good morning.

I'm not sure this is the right place or the right approach to use, but a trusted friend suggested I should be open and honest in my approach.

For some time I've been interested in the sub/dom relationship, but it's something I know little about and would appreciate any advice you could give me on the subject. Websites, forums, articles etc.

Many thanks,
Chris

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Hello Chris

The BDSM Library here at Lit is an excellent resource .

Look for 'Threads' there on reading materials as well.

Best of Luck for now.

@}-}rebecca----

BDSM Library Literotica ~ Click Me

Good morning.

I'm not sure this is the right place or the right approach to use, but a trusted friend suggested I should be open and honest in my approach.

For some time I've been interested in the sub/dom relationship, but it's something I know little about and would appreciate any advice you could give me on the subject. Websites, forums, articles etc.

Many thanks,
Chris

 

[chris 44]

Hello Chris

The BDSM Library here at Lit is an excellent resource .

Look for 'Threads' there on reading materials as well.

Best of Luck for now.

@}-}rebecca----

BDSM Library Literotica ~ Click Me

Many thanks Rebecca. That looks exactly the kind of thing I'm looking for.

 

[chris 44]

Can I bump this thread before finally heading for bed. Rebecca's advice is very welcome, but is there anywhere else I should be looking?

Chris

 

[RJMasters]

Chris,

I have added a few things that may help in your search. However I do wish to also encourage you to take some time and look at the library here as well as use the search function to search the BDSM talk and cafe sections of Lit.

The most important thing to keep in mind as you read and learn, is that you want to avoid trying to build yourself a mold and then fit yourself into it. The best advice I can give you is to be true to yourself and what it is you want. The first steps into any D/s relationship is to first know who you are and what you want. Only then can you communicate to another who you are and what you want.

You will find that any D/s relationships are built upon communication, trust and respect one for another.


To get an idea or feel of what being a dominant is about...
http://www.castlerealm.com/kingdom/kingdom.htm (click on "What is domination?" in left menu)

To get an idea or feel of what submission is about.
http://www.castlerealm.com/subspace/subspace.htm (click on "First Steps" in left navigation)

Here is a link where some people suggested some books...
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=194241&highlight=books

Of course I would be amiss if I didn't also encourage you to look for someone who you have a measure of respect and trust in that can help mentor or just be there to answer your questions. As you start your journey I wish you the all the best, and know that we will do our best to also answer any questions you might have if you post them to the forum.

 

[entitled]

Good morning.

I'm not sure this is the right place or the right approach to use, but a trusted friend suggested I should be open and honest in my approach.

For some time I've been interested in the sub/dom relationship, but it's something I know little about and would appreciate any advice you could give me on the subject. Websites, forums, articles etc.

Many thanks,
Chris

There you are, lovey!



Welcome to the BDSM forums. Don't worry, they won't bite you if you send them my way first.

 

[chris 44]

There you are, lovey!



Welcome to the BDSM forums. Don't worry, they won't bite you if you send them my way first.

Talking of trusted friends, and here she is.... *hugs* and es

 

[entitled]

Talking of trusted friends, and here she is.... *hugs* and es

It's that whole speak of the devil thing. You know.

 

[chris 44]

Thanks again to Rebecca, RJMasters and Ent.
I've been working my way through the various threads and links, trying to get things a little straighter in my head. Like most things worthwhile in this life, this is something I'm going to take steadily.

It took me two years to start posting on the forums, not so much a case of lurking as a need to hone my writing skills to a satisfactory level. Plus I try to be honest about my words (and deeds) here on Lit.

I've long had an interest in the Dom/Sub relationship, but been reluctant to delve too deeply. I think that's because I didn't realise how subtle that relationship really is. I guess in the early stages I had too simplified a view. Doms were always male and their task was to inflict pain. Subs were always female and their role was to be on the receiving end. To be honest, that wasn't a road I cared to stray down.

I didn't totally write it off. There were just too many attractive and intelligent women around who clearly took pleasure from these relationships. Slowly I came to realise that my view was wrong, and I think Ent was a large reason for this. I've known her for some time now, and long suspected she knew quite a lot about that scene. But it's only in the last week that I finally raised the matter with her, and she guided me here.

It's early days yet, and I know I have much to learn. But now I'm beginning to see the relationship in a different, more acceptable light. More of a shared exploration of sensuality. Doubtless this view will change in the coming weeks as I learn more. I just wanted to lay out my current situation.

Beast wishes,
Chris