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[Anordinaryjoe]

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[Anordinaryjoe]

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[SpecialKay62]

Hmmm....

I'm sure the idea of a female trainer is encouraging to you. You need to find something you enjoy doing and stick with it. Take a walk, ride a bike, play a game of frisbee. Motivation comes from the inside, not the outside. Check out some fitness sites and on the web and join one. Good luck.

 

[Shadowann2]

I would suggest finding a friend who will work out with you. I always loose motivation as well, but when I enlist a friend, or a SO to work out with me, I have found that I stick with it much better. When one of us isn't motivated, the other one helps get them going. Having someone show up at your door, or them expecting you to show up at theirs, causes a sense of obligation, and you stay motivated.

As SK suggested, you can change things up to stay motived too. You don't always have to do the same thing every time. That gets boring and adds to the lack of motivation.

 

[viking3]

Wasn't there a story in here about a man who was overweight, went to a gym, met a stunning woman who told him she'd make love to him when he dropped a certain amount of weight?

He did, she did, and the story went on for pages and gallons......

If there wasn't, there SHOULDA been


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[kaycee217]

Wasn't there a story in here about a man who was overweight, went to a gym, met a stunning woman who told him she'd make love to him when he dropped a certain amount of weight?

He did, she did, and the story went on for pages and gallons......

If there wasn't, there SHOULDA been


viking 3

Hahahaha, I like this post.

But to the OP, maybe you can post an ad in the personals section of Lit?

 

[tinawill77]

Going to the gym with a friend has always worked for me. I'm a little competitive and there's that drive too, but whenever I'm feeling like I don't want to go to the gym, they always seem to want to work out which is great. It's just tough to work out when they're not around though. It seems boring without them.

 

[Eilan]

Get your ass to the gym!

Oh, and Diet > Weights > Cardio.

 

[Cathleen]

You're looking for an "Accountability Partner," it seems. I've had success with it for a few different activities. It'd work best with someone in your life but 'reporting in' to someone online each day can work, too. (I'd volunteer but I'm not a regular onliner these days.)

I think the best way to approach this is to establish a plan/routine, just a general one, to get yourself going. You can fine-tune things after a few weeks or more and then once you've established a habit (usually take 3+ weeks to develop a habit, so I hear). Then you can add/adjust activities as you'd like.

If you have a gym nearby I'd ask for their advice, I wouldn't be surprised if they have a program to help you.

 

[Anordinaryjoe]

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[sallybaby]

I would first suggest visiting your Doctor before starting any exercise program.(know where you're at with your weight & where you should be.) Then go see a nutritionist which can be done at a hospital & educate yourself & then clean out your cabinets/refrigerator of all the junk food. Start walking which is the number one exercise & everybody can do. Start out slow & add a little more each day to your walk. Get a pedometer. Get a personal trainer. But...MOST of all...MOTIVATION & VARIETY (activity & food) so you don't get bored & don't do anything that says "diet" fads because with them you lose, go off the diet because you can't have something you want, so you blow it, eat...& gain 10 more pounds & it's a cycle so you still can have those naughty things...daily...but not the whole thing, one or two ...but do your exercise. It's a life change & then you'll begin to feel better about yourself so turn the tv off, get off the computer & do what you've to do plus you'll live longer for yourself & loved ones. Do it for yourself. GOOD LUCK.

 

[SpecialKay62]

Hmmm

I think my first reply was a little snarky. Sorry. You've gotten some really good advice/tips so far! Here's one more: Promise yourself you'll do ONE thing today. Just one...maybe take a walk at lunch. Or do ten push-ups. Do this one thing 5 days in row, then give yourself a reward. Take a day off. Then for the next 5 days, do that one thing, then add another thing every other day. Reward. Day off. Repeat. See the pattern?

Personally, my motivation comes from feeling great about myself. Not that I look great, but I feel strong, powerful and frankly, badass after a workout. I work out 6 days a week. I have a friend who has rheumatoid arthritis and can't get out of bed to go to the toilet. I go to the gym for her.

Good luck to you.

 

[subwannabe]

Maybe I didn't totally understand why it is you are on an erotic website asking for advice on working out and wanting a female trainer to encourage you. Are you hoping something would come out of it, other than losing weight? Maybe if all you were really interested in is motivation a male friend to work out with would actually accomplish your goal better. As far as beginning a program and not staying motivated enough to continue with it, Welcome to the real world. There are tons of exercise equipment sold every year which gets used for a month or two and then begins collecting dust. Also, why do you think all of these gyms want you to sign up for a year instead of allowing you to pay only the times you go? Maybe it is their way of trying to keep you motivated by I suspect that being in a business and only caring about the bottom line is their real motivation. They know that most people don't stay motivated to continue so they try to get a year out of you when they know they will only see you the next couple of months.

 

[Anordinaryjoe]

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