Help, My wife turned into a Grandmother

[diamond_dice]

I am a 52 year old Healthy and Horny man that has had his sex life at home cut off. She thinks because she is a grandmother of 2 she is to old for sex. The grand children and crafts are her life.
I am looking for a woman that has been cut off by her husband and is in the same boat as me.
Ladies please respond.
Dice

 

[JupitersGirl]

Are you looking for someone in the flesh or someone online?

 

[wildrose70]

That is so friggin ridiculous!!! My ex thought at 50 sex was over...well I put up with it for 16 yrs...then I got a computer and found out I was still dammed sexy and desirable..and now have a lover who is 20 yrs younger then me...and nuts about me...

geeshhhhhhh women of the world wake up!!!!!!!!!! and men too..........what's wrong with this scene...doesnt anybody know besides me...it just gets better with age

 

[Native Alien]

couldn't have said it better myself wildrose. thank you very much for putting these people who think that life ends at 40 on notice. i truly enjoy sex these days and am always doing what my title says.

 

[wildrose70]

Well thanks hon...and if yu read my profile you will know that I'm well past 40!! and it's better than ever and I have a wonderful man in my life....after the divorce...it was like a kid in the candy store...Mmmmmmmmmm but then the right one found me...and it's wonderful

 

[diamond_dice]

JupitersGirl

Are you looking for someone in the flesh or someone online?

In the flesh would be nice but someone on line would be nice to.
Which would you be interested in????

Dice

 

[JupitersGirl]

Re: JupitersGirl

In the flesh would be nice but someone on line would be nice to.
Which would you be interested in????

Dice

I'll pm you.

 

[John Roberts]

A predicament no doubt, but one worthy of thorough scrutiny before acting upon it, I think you need to sit down and make a list....pros and cons about your wife, such a list may provoke thought that may have not been ruminated by the little head.
Acting outside your marriage may cause irrepairable harm to your relationship with your wife particularly if she finds out.
If the sex is that important to you I would advise counseling with your wife, you may find that it is something else and she is using it as an excuse. I know if my ex was in a funk about something you could forget about sexuality.

 

[firemoon]

Older woman

Dear Dice,

I am definitely an older woman and still sexually active when I can be and want to be. That's probably the most important part here - "When I can be and want to be." I am single for a very long time, now.

There are many factors - How I see myself - how others see me, how society see me - the community I am in and what my current family and friends values are that determine how freely I can express my sexuality. I am a person who is free from guilt or shame where sex is concerned and very much a "free spirit." It would be nice if I were the only one I had to consider but none of us live in a vacuum nor on islands alone.

I am single, over 50, grey haired, no family around, no attached male around - and in the community I live in, that means I have no value - which determines how people outside my house treat me - Young people, couples, old people, anyone who is familiar with my circumstances may treat me in any way they wish and I have little recourse.

If I behave in a way that the community can respect me and at least not want to tromp on me, my living is fairly okay. If I do not - I set myself up for all kinds of uncomfortable behavior and situations especially if I do not do much traveling outside of or far enough away from the community.

I also am very handy so I don't need males, per se, to fix things or other typical "womanly" things - without going into a long thing - Many would say (and a few have) that I don't know my "place." And a few take it upon themselves at times to try to teach me or show me my place. I have dealt with it straight up but every now and then I need to re-enforce that I'm nobody's victim for any reason.

All that to kinda say that there's always more to it - more to think about, more to consider, more than any of us can know when dealing with others. You might try sitting down and frankly discussing the sexual situation with your wife - Ask what she likes - ask what she would like to try -

I know as an older woman - somewhere after 50 - all of a sudden - out of the blue - I wanted to try a lot of things sexually - some I had tried before some brand new and others I wanted to watch or think about rather than do. Perhaps your wife may be looking for some new - young - stuff too - perhaps it's time for an open marriage or getting into the swinging lifestyle - in a very safe way - a way that wouldn't damage her standing in the community.

Perhaps she might want you to do things with you that she is afraid to ask for - thinking if she asked that you might change your opinion of her. I can't tell you the shock I still have at men who still believe that here are two kinds of women - the kind you fuck and the kind you marry -

I don't know why women still put up with that except that communities can be especially cruel to older women if those women do not live up to what the community has determined is "proper" social behavior for older women.

And if her husband is opposed to her satisfying herself the community will have to make a choice - if she continues to behave outside the boundaries it has set for behavior. Most women my age have just frankly been through too much to fight that kind of idiocy. The choices are narrow and few.

While there are still restrictions on male behavior most can still behave with impunity and little restriction even in small communities. Unless you plan to move, join a discreet swingers club outside your own community, or are willing to do what it takes to please your woman - you may have to deal with the "grandmother" image.

If you have run-around on her in the past and the community knows - you may very well be dealing with something that is not reparable - a lot will depend on you and how much effort you are willing to put into your marriage. Very honestly it sounds like where ever you go and whatever you decide to do -it's not going to be quick and easy - Sounds like you may be in a growing period- having been in a few, I can say though they are never easy - they are worth it. There is much to do and learn whatever ways you choose to go.

I have found most people I know are multi-dimensional and multi-faceted which means whether you choose to try and repair or initiate an new relationship with your wife or start a new casual or serious relationship with someone new - it's probably not going to be as easy in real life as you might have it in your mind - It seldom is - we are all much too unique and each of us has many. many gifts we bring to life. Many of the single men, my age, that I meet today still don't know this - some are unwilling to learn this and remain empty and sad.

Most of the women I know - especially the single ones - but also the married ones - don't want to give up "GOOD" sex - I would have to say that might be an area you might want to look into. Where do you need to improve? What can you do to make your wife more willing? "GOOD" sex is not only chemistry but good technique and good vibes.

I can immediately tell if a person wants to have sex with me or just wants to have sex - How much more erotic when they want to be with me. My own response is far more erotic when I know they want me and not a sex machine. I see a lot of "cum sucking whore" things in written erotica - and all that - That's nice story material and at times will catch my attention

In real life when I open my legs there's got to be something more than a human dildo sticking in me and I have to mean more to the other person than being a human cunt. Lust is wonderful but it does not need to neglect all the wonderful aspects of humanness. At least from my point of view and my experience.

You have asked for women’s perspective - I am only one woman but after talking to many - I find that in what I have said - I am not that different. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

 

[Jaded1]

Sweet Jesus...........

Hells bells and gol darn it! I'm fiftyish and still enjoy making love for hours on end.....

If anything I honestly think it's gotten better and nope don't need the viagra yet... Just a passionate sensual woman(s) will do.....

Get your woman on Lit.

Hell my love life went into overdrive at 50. Now I completely insatiable.....

Jaded1, CT

 

[John Roberts]

Re: Older woman

Dear Dice,

I am definitely an older woman and still sexually active when I can be and want to be. That's probably the most important part here - "When I can be and want to be." I am single for a very long time, now.

There are many factors - How I see myself - how others see me, how society see me - the community I am in and what my current family and friends values are that determine how freely I can express my sexuality. I am a person who is free from guilt or shame where sex is concerned and very much a "free spirit." It would be nice if I were the only one I had to consider but none of us live in a vacuum nor on islands alone.

I am single, over 50, grey haired, no family around, no attached male around - and in the community I live in, that means I have no value - which determines how people outside my house treat me - Young people, couples, old people, anyone who is familiar with my circumstances may treat me in any way they wish and I have little recourse.

If I behave in a way that the community can respect me and at least not want to tromp on me, my living is fairly okay. If I do not - I set myself up for all kinds of uncomfortable behavior and situations especially if I do not do much traveling outside of or far enough away from the community.

I also am very handy so I don't need males, per se, to fix things or other typical "womanly" things - without going into a long thing - Many would say (and a few have) that I don't know my "place." And a few take it upon themselves at times to try to teach me or show me my place. I have dealt with it straight up but every now and then I need to re-enforce that I'm nobody's victim for any reason.

All that to kinda say that there's always more to it - more to think about, more to consider, more than any of us can know when dealing with others. You might try sitting down and frankly discussing the sexual situation with your wife - Ask what she likes - ask what she would like to try -

I know as an older woman - somewhere after 50 - all of a sudden - out of the blue - I wanted to try a lot of things sexually - some I had tried before some brand new and others I wanted to watch or think about rather than do. Perhaps your wife may be looking for some new - young - stuff too - perhaps it's time for an open marriage or getting into the swinging lifestyle - in a very safe way - a way that wouldn't damage her standing in the community.

Perhaps she might want you to do things with you that she is afraid to ask for - thinking if she asked that you might change your opinion of her. I can't tell you the shock I still have at men who still believe that here are two kinds of women - the kind you fuck and the kind you marry -

I don't know why women still put up with that except that communities can be especially cruel to older women if those women do not live up to what the community has determined is "proper" social behavior for older women.

And if her husband is opposed to her satisfying herself the community will have to make a choice - if she continues to behave outside the boundaries it has set for behavior. Most women my age have just frankly been through too much to fight that kind of idiocy. The choices are narrow and few.

While there are still restrictions on male behavior most can still behave with impunity and little restriction even in small communities. Unless you plan to move, join a discreet swingers club outside your own community, or are willing to do what it takes to please your woman - you may have to deal with the "grandmother" image.

If you have run-around on her in the past and the community knows - you may very well be dealing with something that is not reparable - a lot will depend on you and how much effort you are willing to put into your marriage. Very honestly it sounds like where ever you go and whatever you decide to do -it's not going to be quick and easy - Sounds like you may be in a growing period- having been in a few, I can say though they are never easy - they are worth it. There is much to do and learn whatever ways you choose to go.

I have found most people I know are multi-dimensional and multi-faceted which means whether you choose to try and repair or initiate an new relationship with your wife or start a new casual or serious relationship with someone new - it's probably not going to be as easy in real life as you might have it in your mind - It seldom is - we are all much too unique and each of us has many. many gifts we bring to life. Many of the single men, my age, that I meet today still don't know this - some are unwilling to learn this and remain empty and sad.

Most of the women I know - especially the single ones - but also the married ones - don't want to give up "GOOD" sex - I would have to say that might be an area you might want to look into. Where do you need to improve? What can you do to make your wife more willing? "GOOD" sex is not only chemistry but good technique and good vibes.

I can immediately tell if a person wants to have sex with me or just wants to have sex - How much more erotic when they want to be with me. My own response is far more erotic when I know they want me and not a sex machine. I see a lot of "cum sucking whore" things in written erotica - and all that - That's nice story material and at times will catch my attention

In real life when I open my legs there's got to be something more than a human dildo sticking in me and I have to mean more to the other person than being a human cunt. Lust is wonderful but it does not need to neglect all the wonderful aspects of humanness. At least from my point of view and my experience.

You have asked for women’s perspective - I am only one woman but after talking to many - I find that in what I have said - I am not that different. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

Hello Dice, I find she has some sound advice here and I think that what she has to say would help a lot of men out there in their relationships and dealing with women.

 

[senior*woman]

I live near you

Hi,
I might be interested in more than online, in the flesh might be possible. Coffee at a local Dunkin Donuts.
Older but not dead

 

[diamond_dice]

Still looking.

Hi ladies ,

I am still looking.

Dice