help me out

[crazylion26]

Im kinda depressed right now and I was wondering if anone can help me out by chatting. Im having troble with my girlfriend. Theres this one guy that had disrespected me, and I dont like him, and I feel that everytime she goes out, he always hits on her, buys her drinks and stuff like that, and it makes me very uncomfortable. Am I wrong to tell her that I dont want her to hang out with him anymore? I know he doesnt respect me as her boyfriend. Please tell me what you think

 

[redathena]

You have every right to tell your girlfriend about how you feel about this guy, but if you tell her not to hang out with him, it seems like you dont trust her enough to be faithful to you. If this is the situation, than you probably have some deeper issues that you need to talk to her about. You should just realize that if he is a close friend of hers, she may get really insulted and feel like you're making her choose between him and you. So be careful. Tell her how you feel but dont put pressure on her because chances are that she doesnt feel the threat that you feel. Good luck!!!

 

[Naughty n Nice]

Hi Lion, welcome to Lit. You've definately come to the right place for advice. You need to tell her how you feel. You have every right to feel hurt. You are entitled to have and own your feelings. Unless you tell her, she may not realize that it bothers you so much. However, relationships are based on trust, and if you can't trust her, something is not right. In my opinion, she should have enough respect for you to not associate with someone who blatantly disrespects you. Has she known him for a long time? Longer then she's known you? Please feel free to pm me if you'd like to discuss this in a more private arena.