Help me out here Guys

[kenp005]

Sorry if this is the wrong place for this, new here.

Here's the deal: Recently discovered my 33yo wife has a private email account & she's corresponding with a couple of guys. It's pretty tame so far but not sure where it's going.

I'm wondering if 2 or 3 of you would be interested in contacting her by email and see if she'll start writing back.

She's always been super strait-laced and I'm curious what sort of fantasies and how graphic a stranger could get her to discuss, (since she won't much with me).

Anyway, if anyone is interested, I guess email me through my profile and let me know your thoughts, and if it seems the right fit, we can give it a try. (Still haven't figured out how to explain someone getting her address)

Or if you think this is a dumb idea, you can let me know that also.

Don't have anything to offer as incentive except maybe some fun, and maybe some very nice pictures of her if you're interested.

Thanks

 

[QuietMom30s]

Why not just approach her directly.. find out what she wants, needs, feels she is missing

Sorry if this is the wrong place for this, new here.

Here's the deal: Recently discovered my 33yo wife has a private email account & she's corresponding with a couple of guys. It's pretty tame so far but not sure where it's going.

I'm wondering if 2 or 3 of you would be interested in contacting her by email and see if she'll start writing back.

She's always been super strait-laced and I'm curious what sort of fantasies and how graphic a stranger could get her to discuss, (since she won't much with me).

Anyway, if anyone is interested, I guess email me through my profile and let me know your thoughts, and if it seems the right fit, we can give it a try. (Still haven't figured out how to explain someone getting her address)

Or if you think this is a dumb idea, you can let me know that also.

Don't have anything to offer as incentive except maybe some fun, and maybe some very nice pictures of her if you're interested.

Thanks

 

[kenp005]

thanks Quiet

Yeah, that's an obvious approach. And I've tried, tried & tried again.

For whatever reason, she apparently can open up with strangers in a way she won't with me.

 

[kintama]

thanks Quiet

Yeah, that's an obvious approach. And I've tried, tried & tried again.

For whatever reason, she apparently can open up with strangers in a way she won't with me.

 

[QuietMom30s]

how interesting.. tell me more

 

[kenp005]

quietMom

Don't know if there's a lot more to tell so far. She's got some sort of curiosity and has found a couple of pen pals to explore it with.

Just some mild flirting so far, but she's made it plain to them she's married but interested in exploring beyond that.

It's intriguing to me in a strange sort of voyeuristic way and I'm curious how far it will go, as long as it doesn't get destructive to our relationship.

 

[QuietMom30s]

Interesting..

I have learned that many men (maybe even most) enjoy the fantasy of their wife/gf being with other men.. Im not sure the basis of that fantasy.. but it is not uncommon...

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[kenp005]

QuietMom, don't know that I have a fantasy about seeing her with someone else. The email is not quite that far.

And yes, Cutie, I'm aware of the perils of this, but curious nonetheless.

I have no idea how she found these men.

 

[QuietMom30s]

QuietMom, don't know that I have a fantasy about seeing her with someone else. The email is not quite that far.

And yes, Cutie, I'm aware of the perils of this, but curious nonetheless.

I have no idea how she found these men.

if you dont have such a fantasy.. you certainly are well on your way to developing one

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[QuietMom30s]

I hate to be negative, but I just feel red flags all over.

She's hiding something from you, you're looking to hide something from her (setting up internet chats you know about and she doesn't), and ya'll can't communicate openly and honestly about it? I was going to suggest creating an alternative persona and just chatting on email with her yourself, but that would just multiply the deception. Sigh.

My dear man- get thee to a marriage counselor to improve both of your communciation skills. Then you won't need all the hiding to have the fantasy.

I agree.. the fun is in the openness.. not in the sneeking around.. Ive learned that the hard way

 

[kenp005]

ok you two - I guess I see some caution flags, not necessarily red ones.

Deception seems a strong word, but maybe so.

Believe it or not, our communication is generally very good, didn't mean to imply otherwise.

Maybe just in this area, she has some curiosities that I'm curious about.

 

[QuietMom30s]

ok you two - I guess I see some caution flags, not necessarily red ones.

Deception seems a strong word, but maybe so.

Believe it or not, our communication is generally very good, didn't mean to imply otherwise.

Maybe just in this area, she has some curiosities that I'm curious about.

thats understandable.. and natural.. you might or might not like what you find out..

as my dad used to say.. 'if you turn on the light, dont be scared by what runs under the refrigerator'

 

[kenp005]

yes Mom,

and I'm not really scared of what I'll see in the kitchen.