Help, I'm going insane....

[brazenblaze]

Hi! This is my first posting to the board, but I've been reading for a long time. Here's the problem, husband is out of the country for 6 months and I haven't been laid since September. I'M GOING CRAZY!!! In six years of marriage I've NEVER went without more than 3 days. I'm getting short with the kids, I'm spending more and more time on the net, and now I've met somone online who wants to meet in RL. I'm tempted...please someone out there remind me that that would be stupid. HELP!!

 

[Nicole]

It would be stupid.

Listen love ... to me it sounds like you have a wonderful husband, and that you are both happy together. Tell me ... is sex really worth losing all that? I would think your answer would be no, just by what you have said.

I personally wouldn't do it, then again I'm in an online relationship with a married man that's wife not only know's but accepts. My advice might not be the best. But if I was in YOUR situation, I would go without for the short time that Hubby is gone. Imagine how good it will be when you get back together.

6 months will go before you know it.

Good Luck

 

[Nogard]

Bottom Line: What is your marriage worth. Was in the military 22 years. She went the way you are talking. I left. Is that what you want?

 

[Chuckus]

It would be stupid.

Listen love ... to me it sounds like you have a wonderful husband, and that you are both happy together. Tell me ... is sex really worth losing all that? I would think your answer would be no, just by what you have said.

I personally wouldn't do it, then again I'm in an online relationship with a married man that's wife not only know's but accepts. My advice might not be the best. But if I was in YOUR situation, I would go without for the short time that Hubby is gone. Imagine how good it will be when you get back together.

6 months will go before you know it.

Good Luck

I would concur with Nicole. Is it really worth it? Short term satisfaction versus a commitment in the long run? No, not in my opinion, sounds like some toys or some self help is in order. The six months will be gone before you know it. Try and occupy yourself with things to do. Don't go act on the pleasure impulse, as hard as it may be NOT to, if you are happily married and all, then don't jeopordize that. That is my two cents worth.

 

[TonyG]

I agree with everybody that has posted so far. It may not be what your gut (or other parts) are telling you to do but 6 months is not worth the possible problems.

 

[teresafannin]

I would also wait for your husband to come back. Are you willing to risk not only your marriage, but your children? I hope it works out for you, I know how difficult it can be to be apart for a few months. Good luck.

 

[brazenblaze]

Yes, husband is wonderful, even though sometimes it's easy to forget. I know in my heart that nothing is worth the risk. Just standing on a tightrope right now, and need some encouragement to keep my balance.

 

[Slut_boy]

Brazen, can I ask you something? Do you live in Texas?

 

[brazenblaze]

yes....but how is that relevant to the problem? If you are looking to make an offer...thanks but no thanks. I've made my decision, don't need any MORE temptation. Think I'll stick to online sex and toys, safer in the long run. Just had a bad week and was starting to think.."what the hell".

 

[Slut_boy]

No, I am not making you an offer. Hell, I am not even from the US. It's just that I had this wierd feeling that you were from Texas. And so you see, my guess that you live in Texas was more than a guess - freaky isn't it. And it has nothing to do with where I live (which is incidently in the other hemisphere).

 

[Earthmuffin]

Hang in there!!

Get a sitter for the kids...spend some time laughing and racking up posts here...g'head and bitch about being wound up we all understand. If he's been gone since Sept. you're half way thru the downhill slide is a b*tch but you'll make it!!

 

[brazenblaze]

re: slut_boy

Sorry... I guess it's pretty obvious that I'm trying out for the bitch of the year award this week. Plus, everybody has been wanting something all week.

But I think my feet are firmly planted back on the ground now, Thanks to everyone! Hubby got his little 15 minute phone call last night and has found out out how to use his AIM on Aol, so think we may have found a temporary solution to the problem.

Again, Big thanks to everyone.