help...i need help.

[Guest]

I have become involved with an indian man from Chennai
india. He is a christian minister, and going through a divorce. I find that this man is very religious and I also find myself believing what he says to me.
he wants to come to america to live and he wants us to be joined in marrige. he asked me if the India goverment would not grant a divorce would i marry him any way. He also became very angry whaen I said to him " will you be seeing other women until you come to america and would you expect me to do the same? He was very angry with me after that.He said he did not want me to be with any man until him and that he wants me to remain whole for him only. I did not understand what this ment.Can anyone help mme to understand.What does whole me to an Indian man? He also told me that when he comes here to live that he will not want me to go any where without him. Is this typical India culture are is he possivive? please help. thanx.

 

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Umm...such negative attitudes. Hey - guys, I was expecting something a little more positive. Well, maybe if I explain the situation a tad better. Where should I start? Oh, I am an American women having a long- distance love affair w/ an Indian man. I am learning all I can about Indian cultures and even speaking a little Hindi when we talk by phone. He has said he loves me and I to love him, but how are we ever going to get together? He said he will try and get to the states soon... But no date.. How long should I wait as I could never afford to go there. Also he says when we marry we must just go 'do it' and then tell his parents.. I am not for that,but he insists. What would the problem be? Thank u in advance for any advice...

btw... I think I REALLY love him.

 

[hatara]

Cynthia this man is not typical of an Indian man. I have known quite a few men from India and that is not what they are like.

It is however the typical pattern of an abuser. He will cut you off from all of your friends and family if he can. He will also control every aspect of your life. This is not love. Now is the time to call a stop to this. If he is this controlling when he lives in a different country what will life be like when he is here?

Step back and take a long hard look at this one hun. Talk to family members about it and see what they think. If you allow this man to come here you will be setting yourself up for some horrible consequences.

 

[RudeNastyAssBitch]

I Would Never Marry Him.

He Would Have To Come Here Then Date Me For A Year, Before I Would Even Begin Thinking About Marrying Him!

That Is Me However, But I Think It All Sounds A Little Fishy...Why Can His Parents Not Have The Option Ta Come?....Why Can You Never Go Anywhere Without Him When You Are Married?...Does He Believe That You Are A Virgin??

Good Luck.

 

[Guest]

Cynthia this man is not typical of an Indian man. I have known quite a few men from India and that is not what they are like.

It is however the typical pattern of an abuser. He will cut you off from all of your friends and family if he can. He will also control every aspect of your life. This is not love. Now is the time to call a stop to this. If he is this controlling when he lives in a different country what will life be like when he is here?

Step back and take a long hard look at this one hun. Talk to family members about it and see what they think. If you allow this man to come here you will be setting yourself up for some horrible consequences.

How can you verify what you have stated? How do you know indian men? What experiences have you had with them? Please,... let us share. I don't know many indian men, this is the only india guy I know. If they are generally all that bad, does that mean that my guy will treat me poorly after we get married too? I am confused...please help clarify things.

 

[Private Vasquez]

How can you verify what you have stated? How do you know indian men? What experiences have you had with them? Please,... let us share. I don't know many indian men, this is the only india guy I know. If they are generally all that bad, does that mean that my guy will treat me poorly after we get married too? I am confused...please help clarify things.

His treatment of you would have nothing to do with the fact that he's Indian...from just the little that you've said here, he seems like a controling asshole. Don't let him represent an entire culture of people.

 

[Problem Child]

cynthia=yayati.

Catch a clue folks.

 

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[missy2]

Sounds very manipulative & controlling.Being a Minister,he is probably use to having people do what he suggests.That will carry over to everything else in his life.I see the possibility of an abusive pattern here.Run or be smothered.

 

[Private Vasquez]

cynthia=yayati.

whaaat?

 

[Guest]

Sounds very manipulative & controlling.Being a Minister,he is probably use to having people do what he suggests.That will carry over to everything else in his life.I see the possibility of an abusive pattern here.Run or be smothered.

No, he is not manipulative at all!

And no, I am NOT yayatti, or whoever that person is. I don't know you Mr. Problem Child but please have the courtesy of giving me some respect and stop accusing people like me without any proof. I didn't come here to be abused. I am just looking for some advice regarding my own personal life. Why makes you think that I will post lies about my OWN life? I do not need to defend myself here. If you continue to accuse me, then I will leave. The world has enough hatred in it already. I do not want to have to hate you Mr. Problem Child.

 

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[Problem Child]

No, he is not manipulative at all!

And no, I am NOT yayatti, or whoever that person is. I don't know you Mr. Problem Child but please have the courtesy of giving me some respect and stop accusing people like me without any proof. I didn't come here to be abused. I am just looking for some advice regarding my own personal life. Why makes you think that I will post lies about my OWN life? I do not need to defend myself here. If you continue to accuse me, then I will leave. The world has enough hatred in it already. I do not want to have to hate you Mr. Problem Child.

Lick my fucknozzle, yaya.

 

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[Mischka]

Hey, back off yaya, PC. He proposed to me. I have a soft spot for him now. *giggle*

 

[Problem Child]

Hey, back off yaya, PC. He proposed to me. I have a soft spot for him now. *giggle*

BFD, you get more marriage proposals than Elizabeth Taylor.

 

[Guest]

Lick my fucknozzle, yaya.

At best you are crude, obscene and insensitive and some might say you are a vile little man. Please Mr. Problem Child, leave me alone. I do not deserve this kind of language being hurled at me. How did I hurt you? How did I wrong you? If at all, it is you are hurting me for no reason. I am defenseless here, and you sit there accusing me of something I am not. Can't you find anything better to do with your life than to hurl insults and abuse people. I truely pity the likes of you, you seem to have no humanity left in you. If this is some kind of Macho attempt to impress me, then you are playing a child's game. If this is what you truely believe, then you are delusional. Whatever the case, I do not want to lick your FUCKNOZZLEY thingy, just go away. I do not like you.

 

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[Kalyn]

Cynthia, this is simply a terrible predicament for you. Here's what I propose:
1. Throw away all your clothes and go have head to toe robes made, avacodo would be a nice shade. No one else needs to look at you now.
2. Cut off all contact with your family and friends, as I'm sure your lover would tell you, they will only interfere with your love and life together.
3. Get used to the idea that women are subbmisive by nature and it's best to obey the man in your life, after all you really are just lucky to have a man.

Let me know, when you have worked on these things, and then we can move on to the next step.

PS Aint love grand

 

[Problem Child]

At best you are crude, obscene and insensitive and some might say you are a vile little man. Please Mr. Problem Child, leave me alone. I do not deserve this kind of language being hurled at me. How did I hurt you? How did I wrong you? If at all, it is you are hurting me for no reason. I am defenseless here, and you sit there accusing me of something I am not. Can't you find anything better to do with your life than to hurl insults and abuse people. I truely pity the likes of you, you seem to have no humanity left in you. If this is some kind of Macho attempt to impress me, then you are playing a child's game. If this is what you truely believe, then you are delusional. Whatever the case, I do not want to lick your FUCKNOZZLEY thingy, just go away. I do not like you.

Yayati, tongue my dirty dook you pencil-dicked fuckstain.

 

[Guest]

This is not a joke. What will it take to prove it to you people here?

 

[Problem Child]

This is not a joke. What will it take to prove it to you people here?

Let's start with a case of Heineken and two large Domino's pizzas.