Help getting my wife to be more sexually outgoing

[Hubby-looking-for-fun]

How do I get my wife to experiment more and be more sexually outgoing. I would love to go to a bar and watch as men grope her. Then watch as she has sex with other men. I would like to go out and have her expose herself in public. I can't convience her to do any of this. Any ideas on how I can get her to perform?

 

[Kadee]

Hmmmmm.....

Many thoughts came to mind while reading your post...lol. First of all, she's not a trained seal. To "get her to perform" is probably not going to happen. If it turns her on and she enjoys having men grope her and having sex with other guys or exposing herself in public, then it would just be a matter of encouraging her. That would be an issue of maybe being a little shy and she just needs some positive re-enforcement.

If she is totally against it, it might be good to talk more about it and find out why she doesn't want to do it. Maybe she would find it easier to be groped in the privacy of your home with a few select friends...

I used to be pretty conservative about some things sexually and it was just a matter of slowly introducing the ideas and exposing myself to those ideas and stimulating those ideas. Now I am much more willing to explore the possibility of things like that.

 

[Guest]

Bottom line...

Talk to your wife. Does she know of your desires? Have you two ever tried anything else that some wouldn't consider to be normal? I think, many times, a woman may be shy and/or nervous if her husband comes to her with this sort of question. I know I'd be wondering "what's up?" if mine came to me with that. At any rate, be honest, talk to your wife, let her know what's on your mind.


~Dr Tiggs~

[Edited by Tiggs on 02-08-2001 at 12:35 AM]

 

[innocentwife]

nervous!

My husband had recently told me of his fantasy of a threesome with another man (thus the recent threesome stories) and my first reaction was fear!!!! The idea of it turns me on completely but fear sets in! What happens if something goes wrong? jealousy? Is it worth loosing your whole world over? NO! Then starts in the insecurities of actually confessing she may have those desires too. That is very difficult sometimes for a woman to let go of stereotyping and actually enjoy raw sex. I cannot say we will never try to explore that fantasy in any way but I am the type of person who cannot plan something like that! it would take away from the excitement of it. It would have to happen gradually or unplanned on my part. He may plan it and maybe I don't know, but I couldn't just come out and say I am going to do this tonight! I would chicken out and get very self-concious. My husband has a way of bringing me to the point of no return and that is probably the only way it could happen. In reality, would it be as good as the fantasy? Probably not. My husband introduced me to this site and believe it or not a year ago I was furious if I saw him peeking at anything like this. Wow, what a change! But our sex life is through the roof right now and fantasy is fun. Have some fun first.........see what comes later! Help her to open up by telling her your desires, and letting her know it isn't expected. Role play a bit and see what happens.

 

[Skibum]

I have to agree with Innocentwife. My fondest fantasy is a threesome with two women, but I don't believe the fantasy is worth the risk to a relationship. I am beginning a new relationship (via long distance), and I would not want to do anything, like suggesting a threesome, that could damage this relationship. It's just too important to me.

 

[Keith]

Just because this is your fantasy does not mean it is hers.
If she does not want to do it respect her feelings. And
you might want to take a good look inside, if this were to
really happen, would you really enjoy it, or would there be
feelings of jealousy and betrayal? These can really rip
a couple apart and can be really unexpected even if you
were doing something that you both consented to.

 

[AusTess]

Any ideas on how I can get her to perform?

Obedience school worked for my dog.
She now sits and rolls over on command.


A healthy dose of sarcasm never hurt anyone.