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i am a businessman, 48 yrs young. and i last my wife recently. i have two tean aged sons (one in college and one in school) i have no useful relatives so i have to take care of cooking, house keeping, taking care of the boys by meself and simultaneously i have to take care of my business also.

it is difficult to get any reliable servant maid and my boys r against appointing any body as my wife was doing all this by herself sofar.

i dont think, they can accept anybody as my second wife. i am much confused and i dont think at the age of 48 one has to forget about his sexual urge.

frankly speaking , me and my wife were enjoying sex life very nicely and i am much used to it.but i had never gone out sofar for sex.

my problem is to take care of family day to day going and my sexual need.

i dont know, how to make by boys to accept my views.
 
George,

It sounds like you are going through a difficult time. My condolences on the loss of your wife.

The boys have a lot to contend with right now. Anger is a large part of grief and it may be a while before they can accept their mom's death.

Patience and love....

Give them time and space.

Take care

Miss T
 
sd412 said:
I claim this first post for CTech Astronomy.

How about Monterey's Coast, sd? (yes, I know the movie well)

George, I am very sorry to hear about your situation, but I don't quite know what you are asking for?
 
Do what is right for you, George.

Don't live your life for your kids. Take care of yourself. If it was a sudden loss, or even a long illness, your kids could still be grieving. You need to sit down with them and explain that you did love your wife, still miss her, but feel it is time in your life to move on. I think some family counselling may be in order as well. That should probably be the first step, talk to a pro. Good luck, George.
 
Rider is right. Your life is YOURS, not your children's and if they are mostly grown boys they will have to learn that humans need other humans... end of story. You can't be expected to manage a household, a business, two boys and have no life of your own. That is just bullshit. It simply isn't fair. However, it isn't something that they will be comfortable with for a long time. That is what this will take... time. Really though, in the end, they will just have to deal with you seeking out fullfillment of your needs because you are only human.


It is important that you balance their needs and your own, or all hell will break loose, because you'll simply fall apart if you don't get the lovin and help you need. Then what good will you be to them?


Good luck to you and I wish you all the best.
 
pipercatt said:


How about Monterey's Coast, sd? (yes, I know the movie well)

What a rare find. Rare- like a Winnebago w/ a burgandy interior.
 
sd412 said:


What a rare find. Rare- like a Winnebago w/ a burgandy interior.

I want good will towards men. You'll just have to try.

And yes, the CIA did cause the earthquake in South America in the 80's.
 
Welcome to Lit, George, I am sorry to hear of your loss.
I'd like to echo the advice others have given, that you need to take care of your own needs, and that your boys are old enough that they should be able to accept that. Of course, no one can replace their mother, but they need to understand that you need to move on with your life. respect their grief, but be honest with them about your own need for companionship.
 
pipercatt said:


I want good will towards men. You'll just have to try.

And yes, the CIA did cause the earthquake in South America in the 80's.

I'd reply but I have a phone call. It's from my mother.
 
sd412 said:


Orangized crime? Nah, not that organized.

The Republican National Party just gave a generous donation to the Coalition to Legalize Marijuana.
 
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