HeLLo

[NsL 82]

Hey all,

I've been reading posts from this forum for about 2 days now. . . and one thing i noticed is that any girl who writes here, automatically getsl ike 50 guys writing to her, regardless of anything she says. Meanwhile, every guy that leaves a personal, gets fucking shafted. Now, I know we could all use the "guys are just horny bastards" to describe what's going on here, however, if you guys want a really good message board here, I think the ladies should start participating a bit more. If not, at least tell us what we're doing wrong!!! Well, I hope to hear what all of you think.

Later,

NSL
nsl8@hotmail.com

 

[Sherman Mann]

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=36155

I wrote the same thing a few days ago (hence the the link above). I agree with you. Just keep digging at it and reply to other people and hope to become a fixture, I guess. At least, thats what I'm attempting to do right now. If it works, I'll let you know.

 

[delyte]

Hi NSL & Sherman

As I've only just joined Literotica (about 5 minutes ago actually <g>) with the main purpose of trying to gain more experience in writing erotic fiction. I suppose I'm not really someone who is in the position to answer this but I noticed this thread as I was looking around & being a little opinionated I couldn't resist....well I can resist anything except temptation..<g>
Admittedly not knowing the stats for this I can't help but wonder if womens posts are answered more because it is a case of the men greatly outnumber the girls here??
Maybe....& I expect I'm opening a can of worms here...some (& I do stress "some") men come on too strong, too quickly for some womens taste??
<whispers to NSL>...being a little more polite might get you further...<grins & winks>
But I agree with your point that women need to take the initiative sometimes with this sort of thing.
I could start a real gender war here by stating that women are brought up to think that it's "not nice" to come on to a man but I don't want to enter a debate like that.....
Well you did ask for peoples opinions!...<g>
Hope you get more success in the future.
TC
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[CorporateKitten]

Suggestion

I would suggest you read through some of the men's posts who do get replies. There is probably where you will find your answer.

Women do answer ads, but my guess is that they are not often as indiscriminate about as some the men that have responded to my posts.

A few manners, a little finesse....and you should be ready to go.

Just a suggestion from another newbie. Take it for what it is worth.

CK

 

[on_the_verge]

agreed once more

I do agree and have to write that we are obviously here through the nature of the site and of our choosing to explore, search and discover what paradox and other nuances are within. We are still feeling beings even though we act like prostheisis with our flesh and desires. The intial approach can be quite disalarming as well as inviting, but we must be sensitive to the whole that we do care for some sensitivity to supplement our rawness or animalism.

Beyond that, it is the dochotomy of male and female and so on. Seduction and finese is welcome as that may reflect how sensuality and sexuality is. Other than that, you may as well as use a doll or other gratifying device. As self pleasureable it can be, there is that comfort of human interaction and that we all look beyond the scope of just sex-isn't life embracing more than a connection of organs, but an embracing of the inner self?

Before I go into a theisis I believe it takes patience and respect as well as the notion that it may take one, but it may be many. It is not personal, it is just how the other is viweing and reacting over copper lines...

 

[CorporateKitten]

agreed

Well put, OTV

 

[on_the_verge]

Re: agreed

Does that mean I am being a good pet and get a treat? lol!

Thanks Ck and I cannot believe I dished that out at this time. Must have been reading so much this am ~~~~~

Well put, OTV

 

[CorporateKitten]

agreed

No no no

Certainly, you are not a pet....but perhaps a treat would be welcome? *wink*

 

[NsL 82]

Well Everybody,
I just wanted to apologize to delye . . cuz she said i wasn't polite. .and politeness is something i treasure in life I think most guys have to realise that even tho this is a horny bastard website sorta thing, guys should still have the proper etiquette rquired in making a woman feel special. Not like meat being pounced on by other men. I think every guy can learn something about woman by thinking of this the next time they start a thread like "Hey bitches. . looking for some bitch to suck my cock"


Later all!
Marlon
nsl82@hotmail.com

 

[Danus]

hi

i think simply that there are just way more guys than girls, i dont know about the ratio, perhaps 5 to 1, or 10 to 1, and this is why the replies are like how they are, cause like, not a lot of girls reply to girls that are only looking for girls either.... but there is activity here, just an odd ratio.

 

[delyte]

Re: apology

Hi Marlon

Yes, certainly titles of posts such as "Hey bitches. . looking for some bitch to suck my cock" would be ignored by me.....lol
I'm no shrinking violet but that kind of attitude wouldn't turn me on! Role play may be one thing but a real life attitude like that would make me inclined to extend my extremely sharp nails & dig in....hard!!!....<now lol at thought of all the men wincing & crossing their legs!...winks>

I agree with "on_the_verge" points of sensitivity, finesse & seduction are, in general, more likely to provide success....as well as respect & patience. BTW very nicely put o_t_v !!
That doesn't mean women are looking for men to pretend to be something they are not.....we simply respond more favourably to some well deserved respect a more sensitive attitude. If a man has a problem giving respect then, in my opinion, he doesn't deserve a reply!....& no I'm not a burn the bra type....I need mine far too much to burn it...lol

As corporatekitten suggested reading successful posts may give an insight into what attitudes etc women do like to see & reply too.

But regarding your point about men making women feel special when posting....by jove I think you got it!....& your apology is accepted...<sends a kiss to Marlon>
Both men & women should endevour do make the other feel special tho....It's not a one sided thing ....see I'm all for equality....<bg>...especially when the man makes the tea & toast in the morning!...lol

TC
delyte
XX

 

[on_the_verge]

Best of luck and wishes NSL 82...

Delyte, does that mean I get a treat too?

In actuallity, thank you for the input CK, Danus, Delyte, NSL 82, Sherman and of course you...O-T_V, lol! I think constructive criticsm and experiences are a vessel to life and how we can eventaully find what we desire and long for___________!

 

[delyte]

treats/desires

Hi on_the_verge

Well.....I have to know what treats you like.....otherwise how can I help you achieve your desires in life?....<grins & winks>

TC
de
delite100@hotmail.com

No one said you must be good as gold...it's what you haven't done that matters when you're old.
No one said these things are preordained....nothing ventured.......

 

[on_the_verge]

Re: treats/desires

Oh! Just trow me a bone and see if I nibble! The desires in life and how ambiguous that looks? Considering you halfway around the world, it would be fruitless to say anything, but to e-mail or IM, lol! Read my posts under "Taking care of business in NYC" and you may get the idea.

Yet, it is not just about me and what may your desires be? Perhaps we can meet half way or all the way, lol!

Hi on_the_verge

Well.....I have to know what treats you like.....otherwise how can I help you achieve your desires in life?....<grins & winks>

TC
de
delite100@hotmail.com

No one said you must be good as gold...it's what you haven't done that matters when you're old.
No one said these things are preordained....nothing ventured.......