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[happybutcurious]

I just wanted to chat a little an thought this might be a good sight. I am a MWM who has been very curious for some years about what it would be like to be with another man orally. I have never pusued this thought for the some of the same reasons I have never been with another woman since being married....because it would hurt my best friend...my wife.

So I satisfy my urges with internet porn and a good imagination (have you noticed how much porn focuses on the man's penis??)

ANyway I have never talked about this before but thought I would like to discuss it in a relatively safe manner.

 

[Cigan]

Well discussing is good. It's always good to see a new face here. I would say though that you shouldn't be denying yourself contact with women because it would hurt your ex wife. You broke up, you should still be able to be friends, but you shouldn't stop living because it would hurt the other person. Now if you're not with women because your interest in men is stronger that's different, but that comment just struck me.

 

[happybutcurious]

sorry if you misread

We haven't broken up...we are still married...I was just staing that she is my best friend. Sad as it may be I can't talk about this with her because I don't want to hurt her - even though she is my best friend. Heck I would love to make love to her sister who is a great friend and lives in town but I would never let that on to anyone because it would just cause pain.

I hate the thought of causing other people pain.

 

[Zergplex]

Re: sorry if you misread

We haven't broken up...we are still married...I was just staing that she is my best friend. Sad as it may be I can't talk about this with her because I don't want to hurt her - even though she is my best friend. Heck I would love to make love to her sister who is a great friend and lives in town but I would never let that on to anyone because it would just cause pain.

I hate the thought of causing other people pain.

Well talking may cause her pain, but I think NOT talking to her could cause more pain in the long run. I would rather have my lover tell me something that would hurt me momentarily, then find out they were hiding something from me. Finding that out would definatly wound me far greater. I have a best friend relationship with my SO as well and I have always been comfertable talking to her about everything from my attraction to men to my desire to crossdress *shrugs* if she IS one of your best friends then she should be there to listen to you. And as your SO she shouldn't be worried you'll cheat on her unless you have given her ample cause so why should it hurt her?

-Zergplex

 

[deliciously_naughty]

Re: sorry if you misread

I hate the thought of causing other people pain.

At what point do you put yourself first though?

Yes you might hurt her by admitting your desire, but aren't you hurting yourself more by denying who you are?

 

[Zergplex]

Re: Re: sorry if you misread

At what point do you put yourself first though?

Yes you might hurt her by admitting your desire, but aren't you hurting yourself more by denying who you are?

Well actually alot of times trying not to hurt your mate IS putting yourself first in a very selfish sort of way. Your too afraid of the changes in the relationship by telling her something that could hurt her, not worried for her sake but how the relationship might change in ways that hurt you just as much. Alot of times fear of admitting something to your mate is more from fear of reprisal rather then fear of hurting her. A bit disjointed but I hope it makes sense.

Note to all, this does not mean I feel this is how HBC feels about the situation, just a thought I had while reading Naughty's post.

-Zergplex

 

[Megster]

Hi Happy and welcome to Literotica. Yes, this is a safe place to discuss fantasies. Congratulations on a good marriage to a person who is your best friend. Wonder if she would like to have 2 men in her bed but too afraid to discuss with you because it might hurt you... It's just a thought...but maybe a thought you can very slowly and gently approach with her through comments and teases.
Good luck to you!
Meg

 

[Bitchslapper]

So I satisfy my urges with internet porn and a good imagination (have you noticed how much porn focuses on the man's penis??)
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Yeah, it's kind of annoying, really. I'd like at least some of it to focus on the woman's penis.

 

[happybutcurious]

Bitch, well Im not into hermaphrodites but I certainly do not begrudge your tastes!

Regarding my wife, we HAVE had discussions. I have brought the issue up in several ways over the years. SHe was very non-responsive...pretty much the way she is about sex in general. That is the only weakness in our marriage. I used to be pretty active prior to getting married and I miss that. I guess I have always felt that the other things we have are more important. With regards to the concept of me being afraid of "reprisal" If you knew me you would know that is off base. I am pretty strong in my knowledge of who I am and have always believed that whether or not people like me (including my wife) me is up to them...I will worry about my own happiness.

Delicious, Alot of people have asked me that question for various reasons over the years. Its interesting, we make trade offs in life all the time someone elses happiness for ours...ours for someone elses. I would call myself a VERY happy person overall because so many things make me happy. If sex played an over important role I would agree but it is only one factor in my life...so I adapt.

 

[Bitchslapper]

That was a joke and you don't have to be insulting. By definition a woman does not have a a penis as such, but I suppose you could've taken it as a reference to the clitoris. Either way, it was a joke on the fact that you said "man's penis," but there's no need to be hostile.

 

[happybutcurious]

Hey Bitch my statement was a joke too....absolutely no hostility involved...which is why I put the lizard tongue out too.

P.s. I understood your joke. Its just that I was referring to a Man's penis...Penis being the descriptive word - as in describing what part of a man rather than a Man's penis ...as if any other gender could posses a penis. Rather than describe what I was saying to you I thought it would have been funnier to bring up the obvious difference to both of our statements...i.e. the hermaphrodite....

Since your joke was obviously meant to be a sarcastic remark about my writing - albeit one that made me smile... I thought I could be similarly sarcastic to you and make the remark about hermaphrodites. Usually someone who is sarcastic is a little better about "taking it". I really meant no harm and hope that you are not feeling abused in any way.

 

[Bitchslapper]

Well, calling me "Bitch" whenever you talk to me could be intepreted by some as abusive.

 

[kitiara]

Welcome to the site, we are glad that you decide to join our happy family!