hello pain sluts

[Shadowsdream]

Hello DreamSensualist ~~smile~~

Thank you for sharing new experiences and taking Me back a hundred years or so ~~smile~~. Passionate firsts can be mind blowing experiences or the first block to trust.

Isn't it nice to savor the after maths of the pain/pleasure sensations and emotions? There can be a certain satisfaction from enduring punishment with gritted teeth and the will to survive.

It does appear that your experiences are positive...fantastic!

 

[Shadowsdream]

Hello kinkyknickers and thank you for adding another thought to this conversation.

I know when I give pain to the extent that really turns Me on I can easily push the submissive or slave right to the edge of their endurance and only sheer will power can stop Me from going over the edge. I don't want to stop. It enrages Me on some level to have to stop before the one on the end of My whip sags sobbing against their bindings. But this is not somewhere I have the desire to take many.

This kind of scene for Me is sexual on a very base level. Breaking the will by being the One that causes the physical agony and emotional collapse, the dance of the masochist and the Sadist. Equal needs to push the envelope....not about submission any more but about surrender.

If I cannot leave marks deep and painful I will have already moved any thought of such a scene from My mind. For Me to be denied the marking is like handcuffing Me to the pleasure of another without equal benefit to Myself. I participate far less in these types of scenes than I did even one year ago.

So I think I understand what you are saying kinkyknickers about "the stopping" for the wrong reasons and I must say you are very wise to have the understanding that it is a growing period of getting to know each other very very well in this realm.