My husband is the one who usually suggests new things for us to do. I don't mind at all, considering how much i love sex. The thing is, i get curious. I ask him what my body feels like, and he can't explain it. So now I'm stuck here wondering what another girl would feel like next to me. and it turns me on! But I'm too afraid to ask another girl, and he's wierded out by that!( but not anything else!) How do I get over this and what do I do? How do I convince him? I told him it was just a passing idea, but whenever I think about it now, I get really horny? Any suggestions?
He won't help, after I helped him..
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It sounds like you'd best be keeping it a fantasy. It doesn't sound like he even wants to discuss it. Like Lilith sez One man's fantasy is another's nightmare. You could do some fantasy stuff on the net or a phone line kinda thing but it sounds like he'd freak if you got serious.
Don't get too p/o with him. You may need to explain what EXACTLY turns you on or what you need to hear. If he has half a clue he'll pick up on it but you have to COMMUNICATE. The two hemispheres of our own brain can barely speak to each other. Men's and women's brains are wired all bass ackwards so you have to spel things out sometimes. What it comes down to is I doubt he thinks about a womans' body the way you do. That's how our brains are all different so don't get too bent and think of it as an insult.
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Don't get too p/o with him. You may need to explain what EXACTLY turns you on or what you need to hear. If he has half a clue he'll pick up on it but you have to COMMUNICATE. The two hemispheres of our own brain can barely speak to each other. Men's and women's brains are wired all bass ackwards so you have to spel things out sometimes. What it comes down to is I doubt he thinks about a womans' body the way you do. That's how our brains are all different so don't get too bent and think of it as an insult.
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cindylouwho64
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He may be a little freaked because he's insecure? Maybe worried that you'll like another woman better? Just a thought Sweetie. Maybe you can still satisfy your curiosity without him knowing? I'd love to show you the ropes if we lived close enough! But don't get too upset with him - maybe he'll come around to the idea.
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My 2 cents (Canadian, at that, so only 1.2 US)
Let him know that you've thought about it again. Let him know that it's been going through your mind (one of my cardinal rules between committed persons in my book), but perhaps without describing the degree of affect that it has had on you. This latter part so that you don't scare him away from the idea right away.
Just try to replant the seed of the idea in his head and let him know that it's still in your occassional thoughts. It might encourage him to re-evaluate his perspective on it. He might never work his way around to accepting the idea, but on the other hand if I were your husband I would want to know what kind of things are on your mind.
Let him know that you've thought about it again. Let him know that it's been going through your mind (one of my cardinal rules between committed persons in my book), but perhaps without describing the degree of affect that it has had on you. This latter part so that you don't scare him away from the idea right away.
Just try to replant the seed of the idea in his head and let him know that it's still in your occassional thoughts. It might encourage him to re-evaluate his perspective on it. He might never work his way around to accepting the idea, but on the other hand if I were your husband I would want to know what kind of things are on your mind.
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maybe he is just afraid you'll like that more. that is what my boyfriend's fears were centered around... but no one can replace him- he has a special place in my heart. let your man know you love him and that you are there for him... and ask if he's thought about watching you and another woman. lots of men find that a turn on. best wishes....
maybe he is just afraid you'll like that more. that is what my boyfriend's fears were centered around... but no one can replace him- he has a special place in my heart. let your man know you love him and that you are there for him... and ask if he's thought about watching you and another woman. lots of men find that a turn on. best wishes....
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