He broke me

[Fermina_Daza]

I have always wanted to know someone that was in this kind of relationship and how it really goes !

We are usually too busy with poly shit to post online much.

At least, until Covid kicks one of our asses and we have to stay in our respective homes doing Muggle shit.

 

[Chicago1963]

met him 19 years ago on here. It went from sexting and online pics to a deep friendship. It became more. I fell in love with him. He said he loved me too. We met for the first time 4ish years ago. Just casual contact was electric. Things progressed. I loved him. Enough that if I hadn’t married my husband I’d have married him.

My husband knew about him. Gave me boundaries. When he came to visit we stayed in the boundaries. He ate my pussy like nothing I’ve ever had. He made me feel sexy and beautiful.

He came back again last month. Things got a bit carried away and while I didn’t cross the boundaries it came damned close. He came on the outside of my Pussy. Me being me, freaked out a bit. Ok more than a bit. I over thought things. I panicked. And I told him.

He ghosted me for several days.

Then he texted me that he had needed to work some things out. That he talked with his therapist snd his therapist said that I’m a toxic person and a terrible human being…because I overthink and overreact. (Right before my period mind you). Then he told me he never wanted to speak to me again and said he wished he’d never met me. Online or in person. Because I overthought and freaked out about being the rare person who gets pregnant w/o penetration. He didn’t even explain. Just “go away I wish we’d never met”. It’s been about 3 weeks now. Some days I’m fine others. Not so much. He broke me. And I hate him for that. I hate me for giving him that power. I told him when we first said I love you that he could easily break me. I knew what I was talking about.

I guess I’m not meant to have close friends or people I love outside of my husband. I love my hubby dearly but there definitely is lacking in our marriage. Just is what it is.

You just met the wrong guy

 

[Chicago1963]

I agree that the "therapist" was a cop-out. A scape goat.
How much freaking out did you do after worrying you'd get pregnant without having sex?
Either way, I'm sorry you're hurting.

I would love to not be your pal but just fuck you. I’m fit strong and can’t wait to fuck you

 

[UtilityCurve]

No therapist made a judgment on you. He's either lying to you or you're lying to us.

Well, you wouldn't have convinced my (late) wife. She told me a therapist pinned all of my wife's problems on me. She told me this after she had (on her own, obviously) figured out Renee was full of shit and very likely was letting her own problems bleed into her practice.

It happens.

 

[Ange1icflowers]

So it’s been a hot minute. Overall I’m doing better. I think I got some closure by sending him an email calling him out on his bullshit and letting him know how much he hurt me. Doesn’t mean I don’t think about him often and miss him. But it really felt good to at least offer him the chance to see the damage he caused…because i just felt it wasn’t ok for him to emotionally stab me and walk away with no issue. Cast me aside like yesterday’s trash. Whether he opened or not idk. But it is what it is. And I have more pressing issues to deal with than to pine over someone who is capable of that.

 

[tristantrotsky]

So it’s been a hot minute. Overall I’m doing better. I think I got some closure by sending him an email calling him out on his bullshit and letting him know how much he hurt me. Doesn’t mean I don’t think about him often and miss him. But it really felt good to at least offer him the chance to see the damage he caused…because i just felt it wasn’t ok for him to emotionally stab me and walk away with no issue. Cast me aside like yesterday’s trash. Whether he opened or not idk. But it is what it is. And I have more pressing issues to deal with than to pine over someone who is capable of that.

Negotiating our gender needs is a minefield. We get to live just once. When we fuck up we seldom get another chance to put it right. When there’s an imbalance of desires, which is more common than we assume, the obvious answer is to seek out discrete assignations elsewhere with a third party. But we are human. Where there are genitals there are also emotional responses, and the one-off casual fuck can lead to equally messed-up consequences. As I’ve discovered to my cost.

 

[jasheville]

Complex or selfish? You don't do the deed if you can't handle the seed!

Your husband needs a true partner not a woman with teenage values.