Having to be alone...

[Daddyslilpet]

Totally new subject, from me anyway. I'm sitting here alone tonight, the kids all tucked into bed, as tomorrow is a school day. Master is off doing the soldier thing....Uncle Sam just loves to cart him away. And I'm feeling out of sorts.

My question is, to everyone Dom/me and sub alike...

What is it that keeps you going during those times that you are separated from your partner?


Yes I'm looking for something to take my mind off how much I'd love a spanking right now...lol

Thanks in advance for your responses.

dixi
(the lonely critter tonight)

 

[MissTaken]

I am no help!

I am alone more often than not. Hence, my frolick at lit!


What takes my mind off that much needed spanking?

Nothing.

Nada!

Rien!!!!!


There are times it is a craving worse than my chocolate fixation.

It is too bad He can't call you. The phone has wonderful possibilities!

 

[Lancecastor]

Totally new subject, from me anyway. I'm sitting here alone tonight, the kids all tucked into bed, as tomorrow is a school day. Master is off doing the soldier thing....Uncle Sam just loves to cart him away. And I'm feeling out of sorts.

My question is, to everyone Dom/me and sub alike...

What is it that keeps you going during those times that you are separated from your partner?


Yes I'm looking for something to take my mind off how much I'd love a spanking right now...lol

Thanks in advance for your responses.

dixi
(the lonely critter tonight)

Having been on my own for a long time, my first thought in reading you post was one of "How wonderful to hear of one who misses her partner after (i gather) more than a few years together."

I see you as lucky to have that all at loose ends feeling tonite, as I'd love to be missed by someone.

Good for you, I say.
L

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Oh thanks alot MissT.....Now I'm craving chocolate too.


And Lance....yes I've been married for more than a few years now. We just celebrated our 14th anniversary last month. This isn't a new thing for us either...he was military when we married. I do feel lucky to be honest.

Now let me see, I'm craving spankings and chocolate. Geez this night gets better and better....lol

dixi
the lonely & hungry critter

 

[DreamingAngel]

Have you tried putting your sexual frustration into a story just for him. I know you have stories up here, but sit back and write for him, when he gets home, let him read it and do what you have written.

Just a suggestion, and one that I know helps me out.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Have you tried putting your sexual frustration into a story just for him. I know you have stories up here, but sit back and write for him, when he gets home, let him read it and do what you have written.

Just a suggestion, and one that I know helps me out.

Thank you DreamingAngel....that's a very good suggestion. I still have about a week before his return. I will store this in my very good idea box, and try to think up something that he'd like to read. Yes I do have a few stories up now, just a hobby for me really.


dixi

 

[DreamingAngel]

I can only hope that all works out well for you.

I know that at times the cravings for a good hard spanking are worse than any other craving, and I don't know what else to do with myself during those times except sit back and write. I know he always enjoys them when I'm done, and then I enjoy the end result

Thankyou for responding to me.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

DA - (Hope you don't mind its late had to shorten that name..lol) I'm sure things will work out....they always do. This isn't a new feeling for me, just decided tonight, what the heck...post a thread. And you'll find I'm a responder....can't help myself must respond.

Sorry its getting late for me, brain not engaging properly.

Yes I'll agree those cravings can and are much worse sometimes than other cravings ever thought of being. I never would've thought I'd be craving a spanking (Master will be in shock when he reads this...lol). There was a time that I'd of been really upset with him if he'd tried to spank me. And look at me now...lol.

At least I know, by this time next week I should be curled up in my loving Master's arms, feeling back to myself again. And my butt will no doubt be stinging with joy....ok that was bad.


dixi

 

[artful]

What is it that keeps you going during those times that you are separated from your partner?

dixi
(the lonely critter tonight)

I had to think about this a great deal before responding. For me,...the answer is to find SOMETHING else to occupy my mind.

Sometimes doing a dreaded chore, reading or posting at Lit, (it's 3:30 a.m. as I post this),
going back in time, reflecting on the happy times
we have shared together, thinking of how our next meeting will BE, what we will do.

Most of all, I don't focus much on the MISSING part. I glory in the remembrance of her silky skin, the look in her eyes as she knelt to put my socks and shoes on, her velvet soft kisses, etc.

I do think DreamAngel had a GREAT suggestion though. There are many remedies, what works for one, may not work for another. I hope many others respond to this, as I think it is a great topic.
Thanks for the thread Dixi.

 

[petrel]

go to gym, then come home and cook and clean.

Alternativly say 'fuck it' to everything and go out dancing with a friend.

I either have to do soemthing physically exhausting or mentally engrosing.

the gym is always my best bet - I work out with free weights and it releases a lot of tension

 

[Quint]

Geez, makes my "oh, I might not see T this month, whatever shall I do with myself?" thing sound rather insignificant. o) Over the past couple of weeks that we've only been able to communicate through internet and occasionally phone, I've done some things to occupy my time.

One was to write vignettes of stories that will never be posted on Lit because they're all 1st person present, which would give KillerMuffin conniptions. Anyway, exclusive audience, and he really enjoyed reading about all the terribly wonderful things I want him to do to me.

Another was to listen to Tool's song "The Patient" over and over and over again. Then to send him the lyrics so he knows what I always have going through my head when I'm not talking to him.

Creativity is probably the healthier route than obsession, I'd say. o) Best of luck, sweetie, and oh I am feeling your pain (and lack thereof) too!

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Great responses everyone! Thank you!

Artful - I agree finding that something else to get your mind in another direction works wonders doesn't it. I really enjoyed your post and your compliments are well taken. I always look forward to reading a post from you as I know it will be well thought out and insightful to boot. I know you have a soft and cuddly side too...hehe...I've caught a glimpse of it from time to time.

Petrel - Exercise and physical activity are not only good for getting your mind elsewhere, but good for the body as well. Hmmm wonder if they'll still let me in the gym? lol

Quint - No one's missing that one they want to be with is insignificant....remember that always. I agree that writing does help. Post a story or two, what's the harm. You might actually find you like it. I started with just one, and when I got some feedback it really helped to boost my confidence. I only write as a hobby as I mentioned before, but having a complete stranger tell you how much they enjoyed your story.....well nothing can top that feeling.

Thanks again for all the responses.....keep em coming folks.

dixi

 

[MissTaken]

Most times, being alone is simply the way things are and I manage to plug on through.

However, last night for example, I didn't sleep until 5:30 a.m.

Part of the problem was the bed, which while full of children and kitties, left me longing and thinking.




Life goes on....it really does!

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Originally posted by Miss Taken

Life goes on....it really does!

Truer words have not been spoken.

Thank you.


dixi

 

[Quint]

Quint - No one's missing that one they want to be with is insignificant....remember that always. I agree that writing does help. Post a story or two, what's the harm. You might actually find you like it. I started with just one, and when I got some feedback it really helped to boost my confidence. I only write as a hobby as I mentioned before, but having a complete stranger tell you how much they enjoyed your story.....well nothing can top that feeling.

Thanks again for all the responses.....keep em coming folks.

dixi [/B]

Oh, I have four pieces up and one on the way on Lit. They are written well, however. The stories I wrote for T had a specific purpose, and technically I could touch them up, change the POV and tense, and probably get some good points on them. I just have other ideas that have more long-term potential in writing, and I'd rather get those out of the way first.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Oh, I have four pieces up and one on the way on Lit. They are written well, however. The stories I wrote for T had a specific purpose, and technically I could touch them up, change the POV and tense, and probably get some good points on them. I just have other ideas that have more long-term potential in writing, and I'd rather get those out of the way first.

That's great....I'll have to go check your stories out. I don't get over in that section very much lately....lol

Keep it up....and do what makes ya happy.

Dang I'm starting to sound like a Hallmark card or something.....yuk....lol

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Ok Chapter 2 of being alone.....

Uncle Sam delayed Master's coming home by two days. Thankfully he's scheduled to be home sometime tomorrow. We have new toys that need <ahem> broken in.

So anyone else feel this way sometimes?


dixi

 

[Persephone36]

Aw Dixi -- I'm sorry to hear that for you.

I ain't gonna be any help none.

I'm sort of more in MissT's position -- generally alone rather than not.

Sometimes I feel *tremendously* sorry for myself. Personally, I think a good cry always helps that way. It's cathartic and men aren't generally as lucky as women to be allowed that kind of release (see there's a good side to everything, lol, and I'm the last person to be a Pollyanna)

But I think just focusing on anything other than the person who I'm not with -- helps.

If I *must* obsess -- I think a journal's a good idea, I try to use mine anyway on a nightly basis (okay, hmm, I think I opened it last in April -- but it's the thought that counts!)

I find a good book works, masturbation does not (let's off steam, but sometimes increases the longing) dragging the cat into bed with me sometimes works (when he doesn't steal the covers), and prescribed sleeping pills *really* come in handy.

When ALL else fails...there's always making a list of all the things he's done to piss me off, that puts things in balance.

(btw, so there's nothing misconstrued here by any current guy in my life -- the "him" in my remarks -- that's every past boyfriend rolled up into one.)

And just think, Dixi, only two days...you made it through so much time already just fine.

P.

 

[SXCRgirl]

I think everyone deals with *alone* time a bit differently.

For me, when I feel lonesome, I usually go to the gym or curl up and read a good book. I don't masturbate because it DOES increase my longing - if that even makes sense.

But I will agree with Persephone, not focusing on the object of your longing helps and makes the time go faster too.

Tackle some kind of unpleasant task like ... balancing the checkbook. LOL... it will give you a sense of accomplishment OR bore you half to death and will put you to sleep. Either way, you've gotten closer to the time that your honey comes home.

 

[Persephone36]

I think everyone deals with *alone* time a bit differently.

For me, when I feel lonesome, I usually go to the gym or curl up and read a good book. I don't masturbate because it DOES increase my longing - if that even makes sense.

But I will agree with Persephone, not focusing on the object of your longing helps and makes the time go faster too.

Tackle some kind of unpleasant task like ... balancing the checkbook. LOL... it will give you a sense of accomplishment OR bore you half to death and will put you to sleep. Either way, you've gotten closer to the time that your honey comes home.

God, it's good to see you visiting on this board girl!

LOL, it's funny how when you're friends with someone -- you discover how you often see things the same way...and we just happen to!

That's funny -- because I almost sggested the checkbook thing myself here. Spoooky.

P.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I don't have a partner

so I call a friends, get online, or take my teenager to dinner and the movies.

I need a playmate. Not a serious relationship, but a partner-in-crime to hang out with. The older you get, the harder it is to find one. All of the people I would really like to socialize with are not in the same state as I am. AND, there are some who are not even in the same country as I.

Eb