haven't have orgasms

[Curiousmissy]

i have been with guys and never had an orgasm. i can't even get all the way there by myself. what is wrong with me. i also have the problem that some time when i am with a guy i pretend i am with a girl. i have never been with a girl before, but i think i would like to try. maybe that is what i need to get the orgasm i need

 

[Luvinlif]

not so strange

Wish I could help on this topic more, but as i guy I can only say but so much...

First of all, I hear some 50% or so of women have some form of sexual dysfunction, I guess like male get erectile dysfuntion, but for you there's no magic pill yet.

Point is don't feel so bad. My gf for example has no real sexual desire. Still I love her and we manage. The key is to relax though. Since I do not know your background I really cannot offer any more specific advice other than keep trying but in different ways. Perhaps a woman is what you need, but maybe it just hs not been the right man yet.

In any event, good luck, and keep us informed. I think many girls are wondering the same thing out there...

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

I hear some 50% or so of women have some form of sexual dysfunction

Yeah. It's called a boyfriend.

 

[Jake2001]

Yes Dixon, but then some women drag them into husbandry.

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

They drag them into gardening? No wonder no one's cumming. He's working on the wrong hoe.

 

[delish24]

Have faith

I suffered from the same problem and it is NOT a dysfunction. More like poor circulation, try excercising before you go on a hot date with a potential candidate be sure to move during the date keep your heart rate up. I hope it works for you it did for me. Good luck

 

[Pyper]

Honey, it's called a vibrator. Worked wonders for me. Don't feel bad if a guy can't get you off, it's not sexual dysfunction. Up to 80% of women can't orgasm by penetration alone.

However, if you are thinking about women during sex, it may be that men just aren't your thing. I myself cannot tell you your sexual preference, but you might want to take the fact that you are not aroused by men as a clue.

 

[AusTess]

Disfunction my arse.

Only a man who couldn't get his woman to orgasm would call it a disfunction.

 

[anaid57]

can't orgasm

I used to have the same problem. I was about 36 years old before I had my first orgasm and had been sexually active since 17. I think for me it was taking control of my own pleasure. I learned what made me feel good and how to get myself off. And the closer I got to 40 the better it got. I dont know how old you are, but I know sex after 40, for me anyway, is soooooo much better than it was in my 20's or my 30's. I've also been told that me being a natural redhead is why I'm so hot all the time now...LOL. Now hubby can't keep up with me. So don't give up, keep trying, and after you learn what makes your motor run, give that man of yours the keys.

 

[cymbidia]

You're fine, missy .. or you will be .. or you can be as soon as you learn how your body works.

Try this:

1. Go here .. http://www.stockroom.com/a491.htm .. and buy that (or something like it). No, babes, all vibrators are *not* the same. This one is really good. Small, compact, lightweight, it's nonetheless incredibly powerful.

2. While you're waiting for your vibrator to come in the mail (5-7 working days after you pay for it unless you pay for it to get to you faster) please go and cruise porn sites. Look at girls fucking girls. Look at guys fucking guys. Look at guys fucking girls and girls fucking guys. Look at groups fucking groups. Try to get a lead on where your head lies with regard to sex. What does it for you?
What makes you wet? Which of those pics stay in your mind and linger, just as you're trying to get to sleep? Which ones are still there when you wake up?

Sexuality is partly innate and instinctive and partly a societal and learned response. You need to figure out WHAT gets you hot .. then focus in there.

There's --> NO <-- (zip, zero, none) shame in any of it as long as everyone involved is an adult and no one is being forced to do anything they object to.

3. Settle down with your new vibrator, something to drink (like water or a beer, hmm?), and a headful of erotic images.

4. Touch yourself gently, learning how your body is put together, as if it's the first time you've touched yourself. Stroke yourself easily, feeling for the places that feel good, the places that could feel good if you pressed just a little harder .. and the places you can't stop touching.

Don't stress. Just touch. Stop whenever you want to. Start up again whenever you want to. Walk away and go do the dishes .. then come back to it tomorrow, if you like.

5. Find your clit. sounds funny but us girls don't have them hanging right out front .. sometimes it takes a little searching. Find it. You'll know when you do cuz you'll get wild shivery feelings all through your body, or maybe they'll be more like firey hot streaks up and down your legs. Find your clit. Massage it. Think about the pics you sa that made you wet. Think about doing those things, feeling those things, tasting licking sucking taking swallowing smelling touching those things.

6. Use your vibrator now. Touch it gently to the area near your clit, still thinking those wild hot wet thoughts. Touch it the way it feels best to you .. we're all different. Some like it soft and circular, some like it digging in deeply, some like it just around the cilt not actually on it ..


If you don't have an orgasm, so what! You had some fun. You'll get there. Besides, it's the journey, not the destination, that's such a trip.

Have fun.
cym

 

[Curiousmissy]

thanks

thanks for all the advice. I haven't got there yet, but I planon having some trying. still haven't decided which i like more, guys or girls.I guess i would have to try being with a girl to know for sure. but thank you all!!!