Have you had...

[Guest]

close friendships or family relationships end or suffer some serious problems because you 'came out' to them?

 

[Queersetti]

I think that it is natural that many of your close relationships will suffer when you come out, even if the other person tries to be supportive. After all, they may feel that you have been lying to them, or not being suitably trusting in them.

Those sort of things can be healed, but it can be hard.

Those relationships that are irreparably broken, frankly, you are probably better off without.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

close friendships or family relationships end or suffer some serious problems because you 'came out' to them?

Good question...and one that i am happy to say i can answer with a very straight forward *NO*. The only person i worried about offending was my mother and she has always been EXTREMELY supportive of any and every thing i have ever done. Quite frankly, concerning my personal life, i got more guff from admitting that i practiced a *pagan* religion. Maybe i was just lucky to be raised by people who never notice a skin color or sexual preference.
The few people who had a problem with my sexual preferences, well needless to say...i no longer associate with them and haven't from the age that i came out (almost 15 years ago). In my opinion, anyone worth loving or knowing...will (after the initial shock) continue to know and love you..regardless.
PET

 

[glamorilla]

it's been awhile for me.

my mom and dad...well they threw me out of the house when i was 17. I went to live with my sister for a few months but that proved to be difficult. When my boyfriend at the time,my one and only told me he was moving to new york city to go to cllege I packed up and went with him and it wasn't untill about six,seven years lated I talked to anyone in my family again.

 

[april-wine]

I worry about how my family and friends will react, I think they just always believed I was asexual lol....It took me a long time to accept and love myself, I can give them a little time....But in the end it's about my happiness....If they choose not accept or support me, they will no longer be in my life....

 

[MzChrista]

My father spent the rest of his life in a permanent state of freak out over it.
Everybody else was OK.

 

[Pookie]

I never "came out" to my friends. A few of my close friends drifted from me when they either figured out or suspected I was either bisexual or a lesbian. They never seemed to want to hang out with me much anymore, especially if it was just the two of us. I made new and better friends though.