Have you felt responsible for

[HeavyStick]

someone dying?

Whether it be in combat, auto accident, or some fucked up advice that went wrong.... How did you deal with it?


I've been responsible for somethings and deal with it my own way.

NO PM's about this will be answered.

 

[Bob_Bytchin]

You bastard, you killed Kenny!

 

[Richard49]

someone dying?

Whether it be in combat, auto accident, or some fucked up advice that went wrong.... How did you deal with it?


I've been responsible for somethings and deal with it my own way.

NO PM's about this will be answered.

Yes I have/do

I have not found a way to deal with it

 

[Guest]

 

[freakygirl]

I feel guilty that I couldn't help my brother with his problems before he was murdered.

Maybe if he didn't have the problems he had.. he wouldn't have been where he was that day.

Deal with it? I haven't. I've ignored it. Maybe someday the guilt will go away on it's own.

 

[SpiceCake]

No, not personally. My brother has. He was in an auto accident when he was 18 and a young girl of 10 lost her life. She ran out into the street right in front of him. The family tried to sue with no success - he was not speeding or drunk or anything. It devastated him and he still has nightmares about it over 20 years later.

 

[HeavyStick]

Death of a loved one is very sad.

My question is more for the people who feel like the blood is on their hands.

 

[MissTaken]

Yes, I have felt that way.

For me, I can only hope that I did all a person could do to prevent the death. We, as humans, are fallible and maybe, just maybe, there are moments and events that are written in some vast plan that no human may tamper with?

I dunno.

It ain't easy.

 

[Lost Cause]

Not directly....maybe..

A guy that was kind of a nerd in school seemed not to fit in anywhere. I talked to him every day, and he seemed to have a cynical outlook on life. The day before graduation, he was going on and on about the cliques, jocks, and assholes in school. we stopped at his house and I told him I'd see him at graduation, he said he wasn't going to go.
I told him it'd be fun, and I'd see him there.
He shot himself in ther head that night.
For a long time, I thought of all the "If onlys," but even his parent's didn't catch any clues.
His goodbye was as normal as all the other days we walked home from school.
It put a cloud over the graduation, like he meant for it to do.

My Lesson:
Some people are meant to make it, some are too fragile.

 

[Guest]

Yes, but feeling that way is illogical since the blood is not on my hands. I do not yet know how to deal with it, as it is very fresh.

 

[HeavyStick]

IMO, it's not a matter of natural selection or the strong will survive.

Many people say suicide is a matter of feeling worthless/useless.

I've seen a couple of suicides. I may have been able to stop them.

Being in the service opens my eyes to a lot of people with many problems of every magnitude.

One suicide in particular was a Marine who grabbed his 9mm and said, "Watch this" POW red mist and what looked like pink cottage cheese rushed from the back of his head. The investigation couldn't reveal any financial or emotional distress.

A couple of guys escaped reality because of women.

 

[Richard49]

IMO, it's not a matter of natural selection or the strong will survive.

Many people say suicide is a matter of feeling worthless/useless.

I've seen a couple of suicides. I may have been able to stop them.

Being in the service opens my eyes to a lot of people with many problems of every magnitude.

One suicide in particular was a Marine who grabbed his 9mm and said, "Watch this" POW red mist and what looked like pink cottage cheese rushed from the back of his head. The investigation couldn't reveal any financial or emotional distress.

A couple of guys escaped reality because of women.

Women can be hard on us guys

 

[Lost Cause]

Service related suicides are a different variety..

Especially being an NCO with young troops under your supervision that you are responsible for.
You listen to their problems and offer them advice and references, but if you're off a little, you can regret it.
There's a handful of examples I could give, where hints went unnoticed, and people died.

 

[bknight2602]

Supervised an accident where one man died, and 7 injured badly.

It was difficult to deal with since it so easy to stop, but a chain reaction of stupidity and carelessness led to a catastrophe.

I guess the feeling that if one thing had gone right the situation would not have caused death gave me the ability to move on.

 

[#1tankcomander]

In suicide, all you can do is try you're up most best to help and get them help. However in war, it's frustrating to think that I might have prevented some deaths, but then throw in the unexpected and chances are that it would have happened any way.

When you're number is up, that's it. You may prolong the enevitable, but it will still be up!

If you (Heavy) need a friend or just talk, you know how to get me!

 

[HeavyStick]

TY all for the concern shown towards me.

I'm fine. TY though.

 

[Guest]

I'm not used to you being serious.......

 

[sufisaint]

Just watching friends kill themselves each day with addictions until finally it did kill them....If i only knew then what i know now...

 

[HeavyStick]

I'm not used to you being serious.......

It can happen.

 

[Xander]

Yes, and no, I have not found a way to deal with it. Been eating away on me for over 10 years now. But it was my fault, so.....

 

[nasty1]

Nope. I don't want to be, either.

 

[Guest]

It can happen.

I'm not PMing so I hope you're OK.

 

[Ishmael]

Yes, only one bothers me.

Ishmael

 

[Silverlily]

I don't think you ever get over it. Most most oddball thing can suddenly trigger a memory and you're right back in the middle of it all. Even after all the should of, could of, if I had only, and why didn't I's, it doesn't ever really go away.

The worst was doing something I knew would take lives while I was pregnant with my own child. The conflict between nurture and necessity was almost too much.

 

[littlekateyes]

someone dying?

Whether it be in combat, auto accident, or some fucked up advice that went wrong.... How did you deal with it?


I've been responsible for somethings and deal with it my own way.

NO PM's about this will be answered.

I have felt responsible for someone dieing. I felt I should have done more, and I didn’t. I have dealt with it in many ways, not all of them were good choices. I believe we deal with things at our own pace, and healing comes when you are ready for it, or accept it.