Have you ever faked an orgasm?

[*bratcat*]

 

[lavender]

 

[*bratcat*]

well...

 

[estevie]

me too

a very long time ago...before I knew better!

 

[miles]

Goddammit, bratcat

Why don't you just go ahead and tell everyone about it, huh?

 

[*bratcat*]

Re: Goddammit, bratcat

 

[cymbidia]

Oh hell yes.
We all have and you know it.
Ummm... mine was just a couple times and WAY WAY WAY long ago, too.

 

[celiaKitten]

Until my 'oral awakening' awhile ago, every orgasm I'd ever 'had' in a RL encounter was faked. It was very sad. I've learned my lesson though ..

 

[Shannon]

Yes many times the need has a risen where faking it was the best thing to do, and I still do fake it when I need too.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Given that most women probably have faked it at one time or another, I would be interested in the positive answers fro mthe men of Lit - I never have, can't think of a reason why I should, but maybe someone else has.

 

[Chuckus]

this one time at bandcamp..................

 

[Paradox]

celiaKitten said:

Until my 'oral awakening' awhile ago, every orgasm I'd ever 'had' in a RL encounter was faked. It was very sad. I've learned my lesson though ..

Hmmmm, want to tell us more?

 

[sexy-girl]

i never have faked ... um why do people fake an orgasm ?

i mean i've been sexual with lisa and i've not wanted an orgasm i've just wanted to snuggle and feel slightly aroused as i've slowly fallen asleep with her touching me not every sexual situation has to end in an orgasm

 

[celiaKitten]

Hmmmm, want to tell us more?

No .. I'd better not - suffice to say I feel like a new woman.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

just wondering here... is it possible for a man to fake an orgasm?


and to answer the question, on one occasion, but that was more to feed his ego more than anything. the poor guy was so afraid he'd hurt me that he was afraid to do what i told him to

 

[cymbidia]

i never have faked ... um why do people fake an orgasm ?

i mean i've been sexual with lisa and i've not wanted an orgasm i've just wanted to snuggle and feel slightly aroused as i've slowly fallen asleep with her touching me not every sexual situation has to end in an orgasm

You know what, sexy-girl? You're incredibly lucky to have had the experiences your sexuality has given you.

For those of us who are bi or het, we've encountered something very different as far as sexuality goes. For us, with men, for most of our lives, and in most sexual situations, everything has always revolved around his cock.

When he got his rocks off, he was done. The whole entirety of the sexual adventure might have involved some ancillary pleasure for our parts, but the main course, the reason we were both there, was for the fucking. His dick in our pussies. Thrusting. Cumming. Going to sleep.

I realize this is a harsh view of what has been far more equitable pleasure for most of us, at least (hopefully) in recent times and as we (both men and women) became more aware of the many and varied ways to make love with our partner.

For most of us, though, and definitely way back there when were beginning to have sex, he stuck it in, pumped, got himself off, and we were done. If we got off, too, he felt good. We *wanted* him to feel good so we either learned to cum really fast and with little stimulation or learned to fake it really well.

Lesbians don't have that "cock is central" component to their lovemaking. With another woman, it's so much more about the varying levels of sensation and mutual touching the two of you can share. Sex with a man and sex with a woman are *WAY* different experiences, for the most part.

Women learned to fake orgasms to please their men, s-g. The men wanted to know they pleased us but many simply were (a) so ignorant of female anatomy that they had no real clue where to touch to provide us with good stimulation, and/or (b) were unwilling to take our prompts in the matter for reasons of pride or paranoia or something like that.

You're very fortunate that you never had to learn to fake an orgasm, s-g. I envy you that.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Ooooooooo Aaaaaaaaaa

Yes I did fake it ... once... and the only reason I faked it with him ... was because I was STARVING and I really wanted to go and have some buttermilk pancakes.

That would be my only time .. hunger won me over that morning.

 

[SweetCherry]

Well,. considering I've been sexually active for 12 years, married for the past 5 and only had maybe a dozen total orgasms with someone else in the same room, I've unfortunately faked it a lot. I've reached a point tho in my life where I refuse to fake it anymore. I agree with Cym. MF sex is esentially way too much about guys getting off and feeling like men. I think a lot of the problem comes from the age-old myth that "good girls don't talk about sex." Well, damn it, I'm tired of being a good girl. I'm tired of pretending that everything he does feels wonderful. I've spent the past year talking about my sexual likes, dislikes and fantasies with Draco, so I'm confidant that there's not going to be any more faked orgasms.

 

[sexy-girl]

thanks cym that does explain a lot ... lesbian stuff can be very awkard though too although with lisa i was lucky in that it was very easy and although was nervous we helped eachother through it

i feel lucky not that i am a lesbian or anything but lucky i found lisa while i am still so young and in my first serious relationship

 

[Gilly Bean]

I have never faked it, in way other then comical.

I have always been comfortable enough with my partners to let them know that I do not orgasm during actual intercourse. Never have, and probably never will. For the ones who knew how to get me off, I always squealled when needed, but it was real.

 

[Bob Peale]

Oh, all the time.

It used to be a lot more difficult, but now that I have that Jedi mind trick thing down...

 

[Ice Princess]

I faked a few times, a long time ago. I had a boyfriend with a very small penis (and before someone asks, I don't mean slightly smaller than average but "is it in yet?" kind of small) and we were sort of working out what we needed to do to make it pleasurable for us both. After a while, he was starting to get despondent, and I thought a little encouragement and a little hope would help ...

My intentions were good, but even in this case, I'd say it was the wrong choice. I don't think pretending I felt things I didn't actually helped us at all and I always felt a little guilty for having done it after we had tried to be so honest with each other about the problem at the beginning.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

For most of us, though, and definitely way back there when were beginning to have sex, he stuck it in, pumped, got himself off, and we were done. If we got off, too, he felt good. We *wanted* him to feel good so we either learned to cum really fast and with little stimulation or learned to fake it really well.

This may be true of many or even most men, but some of us have learned how to come, stay hard and keep at it until either we came again or our partners got off. I have been able to cum 3 times without going soft, although I have to pause for a few seconds after orgasm before I can continue (sensitivity).

I can't always do this, but either way I usally want my partner to come first (usually with oral sex), then I will cum.

While I agree with the your post, I just thought I would throw that in; it is possible for me to not just go thru the same old routine every time, although quickies have their place sometimes too.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

Aphrodisiac I can understand your hunger made you do it

but honestly I'd rather a girl Not fake it cause... if i'm doing something wrong, and i think it was the right thing to do.... I'm gonna do it again lol .

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Aphrodisiac I can understand your hunger made you do it

but honestly I'd rather a girl Not fake it cause... if i'm doing something wrong, and i think it was the right thing to do.... I'm gonna do it again lol .

Agreed - kind of like a self-fullfilling prophecy isn't it?