Have you ever deliberately lied online?

[KillerMuffin]

Have you ever pretended to be someone you're not? Or lied about some important fact about yourself that might later (or already has) come back to haunt you? Are you doing it now?

Do you think that it's easy to stop lying? What do you think of people who have lied in the past, but profess to have quit? Have you ever been affected by someone who misrepresented themselves online?

I did, a long time ago. Lied, that is. I was in an IRC chat and in the Navy at the time. I was terrified that someone would find me, so I lied and said I was single and living in the barracks. Married people don't live in the barracks, or so I thought. No, the StudMuffin was driving a big rig at the time, so I didn't have the comfort of my own personal bodyguard. I didn't like the lies very much because it was hard to rebuff people who couldn't understand why I didn't want a relationship. Eventually I manufactured a "fiancee," the StudMuffin, who lived in the barracks as well. Shortly after that I got out of the Navy and moved. There was a big brouhaha with my chat friends and someone hacked someone else's computer and formatted the C: drive or something and I left. I came here and found a home. I am ever so glad that I decided to not continue the fiction, even though it was my first instinct and the StudMuffin was still truck driving at the time.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

When I first started in chat on LIT I actually had four different "personalities". I was into cybering for the "kick" and novelty of the experience, so depending on which character I was, I had different variations of a reality story.

Fortunately, I soon tired of that nonsense as it became too repetitive and I wasn't really being myself. I hung onto one name, and decided to let "Jenny" be ME. No more lies; no more senseless cybering; just chatting and meeting so many tubsters who helped me relieve some of the load that I was carrying at the time.

As soon as I became ME, I met Oman and I know it never would have happened if I hadn't decided to just be honest with my words and actions.

I do NOT lie anymore; it's too much effort and you get nothing substantial in return.

 

[Tim1]

Yup

I've lied in the chat rooms before. But here I haven't lied. Kinda like this is my bed and I don't want to shit where I sleep.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[plasticman33]

I lied once and got trapped in it. It seemed like it was inconsequential at the time, but it blew into something far more important to a relationship that I so much wanted.

It ended up causing a lot of pain for both of us, and caused the end of a truly loving relationship.

I've learned much from it.

 

[Black_Bird]

No... I've left out things out, but never lied.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

I don't lie i exadrate at times but don't lie

i have at times in chat rooms amde a second persona and fucked aournd saying i'm somthing else, but everyone knows it's actualy me so it's not really lieing.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Yes, I have lied ... I lied because I simply wanted this guy to leave me alone. I said I was married so he would get the hint and leave me alone.
It finally worked & he got the clue.

Another lie would be about my age especially on AIM... when I get IMed by some kid I will say I am 60 yrs old or older and visa versa when an older man Aim's me.

 

[Calamity Jane]

I've let out bits of information, lies of omission I suppose. Nothing that's come back to haunt me, just things I think others don't need to know about me. Some of you know far more about me than others, as it is in my offline life. No one has the entire picture, and no one needs it.

Is that dishonest? Perhaps, but it's what keeps me safe, keeps the 'me' that I am all to myself.

I don't think I've ever told an all out lie online. I'm not good at deception and it's too hard to sustain anyway.

 

[Dhalgren]

I dropped the name Dhalgren after a few months and began a new one called Saturn Return.

I did research and found Lit to write an article about how the dynamics of humans in cyberspace never really change….just the players involved.

(actually in my research I found someone I knew in RL on another board, Rubyfruit and shared Lit’s addy with her)

Truth is I got terribly addicted to this place and forgot that I was intending on keeping journalistic integrity…and totally became a user.

My husband saw this and thought it was a really bad idea for me to be hanging out all the time on a board.

I began a new character to hide my postings from him…

Someone called me out on it..and I came clean immediately.
This place is a bit beyond the typical board.
It has a unique life of it’s own..

I actually feel it’s good for me..(I do keep my posts down to around 4 a day)

I’m opening up in ways I never thought I would.

Alright, granted..to a bunch of strangers…as we all entertain each other in this virtual World.

But it’s therapeutic to talk..to listen and to help another only using your words.

 

[perks]

in chat, when I'm in a name that isn't my usual, I inform people that I'm in disguise and they know me, if it comes up.

I'm horrible at lying, and have a shitty memory. I don't have time to lie.

 

[VanB]

I don't lie. I am who I am and believe in honesty - of course apart from hiding behind the anonymity of lit and my AV. However I don't pretend to be something I'm not and I don't leave anything out when I'm asked a question.

Maybe that's naive - dunno

 

[riff]

I can't say I ever intentionally lied on-line. I have omitted things that were simply too personal for me to reveal, but we do that all the time in RL too.

I am trying to search my memory for a time when I intentionally deceived someone on-line with the intent of having them mistake my deception for the truth.

I've got plenty of other sins to atone for. hehehe

 

[Andreina]

i SWEAR it was not me who gave the guys wanting to have phone sex at sexchat.com the phone number of "Nightline"
(oops - lied again )

I lie when I take the piss out of people at random chats, I love pissing the guys at sexchat.com off, because they are just so naive & horny. It is fun. Apart from that - no. I see no need to. I come to chat/post because I find it relaxing. I dont find lying relax - too many things you have to remember.

Halo

 

[MissTaken]

ON other sites, I lie about my name and location for the sake of maintaining my privacy.

I also have had to lie to get rid of troublesome lurkers and parasitical chat types.

I have never told a lie that came back to haunt me.

 

[fallon2]

No

No, I don't think so. I have not given out my real name except to two people and I do trust them. I am what I am but who I tell who I am is my business.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Ditto ...what Perky said. I am a terrible liar. I can't remember what I said...my stories get crossed. It's a waste of my time. Its much easier to just be me, I figure I am not all that bad as I am.

I have gone into chat under other names then my norm...but I always tell people who I am when I saw them there.


Morgy

 

[sabbathstorm]

Most often I've lied to get rid of the people who can't take a hint. I stopped going to Yahoo for the longest time because I got so sick of the "gotta pic?" bullshit all the time and "what are your measurements?" line. This was when I didn't even have a pic on my profile, just that little orange cartoon cat

 

[BigDawg69]

I've been known to go into chat under alternative names with alternative personalities. That was months ago though. Here on the Boards I don't recall telling any lies.

 

[SexyChele]

Only in the chatroom here at Lit, and then only about 2 things:

1. My age. I originally stated my actual age, and no one would talk to me. I left my "profile" in tact, but subtracted 10 years from my life - I got more attention than I wanted! However, now I do have my real age posted, more to try to get away from immature posters, only to discover there are a LOT of young guys in chatrooms who have a "thing" for older women. Can't win either way!

2. I've developed an alternate personality for the chatroom only to use when certain, hard to get of types are in there. However, my friends in the room know that name is me as well.

I don't think either one has come back to "haunt" me, though one guy in the chatroom got very upset when he discovered I was 10 years older than he thought. *sigh* Oh well, that's the breaks.....

 

[freakygirl]

Yes.. I've "lied" on this board.

Some of you (alot really) know the truth.. my "husband" is not my husband. We are not married. But he is real. And he is my boyfriend. (see it is just a small white lie). I said this when I first came here because I wasn't sure about things.. and I wasn't looking for anything except porn.


I found so much more here.. and though this isn't a big lie (and something that is going to come back and haunt me) I thought I'd out myself here..

Other than that... No i've never lied in chat. I have taken on other personalities when I needed to. I was having problems with a few people in a chat room that I went to. I registered a masculine name and was using it to fuck with them (that chat room was simple to hack into, and I could mess with people very easily).
all of my friends in chat knew it was me.. so i don't feel i was lying to anyone.

 

[kiwiwolf]

Bullshit on the boards is a complete waste of time and energy. Why lie... here we are, a collection of individuals, scattered all over the globe and safe in the annonymity that distance gives us. We have the luxury of the ignore button, so if we do manage to piss someone off enough in here, we wouldn't have to deal with them anyway.

I don't feel the need to impress anyone here. If I do... great, but it will be by my actual thoughts or deeds, not by some bullshit fantasy. If I don't... cool, I can quite happily be part of the Lit background chatter. i don't feel the need to be a big wheel.

I don't lie... online or in real life. I was taught in the Army that a man is only as good as his word.

Just my take on things




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[estevie]

Yes, I have lied. Once a long time ago, when I first came online. Then one other time, later. Will they come back to haunt me? Most definately, all lies do.

 

[Starfish]

Uh, nope. I've withheld a lot of things, though.

If you ask, I'll tell you.... or I'll tell you to mind your piss and wiskers.

 

[kotori]

what she said

When I first started in chat on LIT I actually had four different "personalities". I was into cybering for the "kick" and novelty of the experience, so depending on which character I was, I had different variations of a reality story.
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I do NOT lie anymore; it's too much effort and you get nothing substantial in return.