Have you ever been so in love with somone

[Irish_Rover]

I love her thats all i can say, she occupies all my waking moments, I feel incomplete without her, the trouble is Im not sure she feels the same way. Ive known her for a long time, ive helped her through all her doomed relationships, she is attracted to dangerous guys, thats just not me. Id never do anything to hurt her, but she likes dangerous guys, were good friends, but I want so much more, what am i to do??

 

[Guest]

 

[Irish_Rover]

not big into therapy, dont really like complaining, lets just say we got a history, I admire her more than anyone I know, shes strong, independant, opinionated and intelligent, we stay up talking til 5 in the morning, weve shared a kiss but no more. she has had bad luck with relationships and i dont want to be a part of the problem, its a horrible situation i know and my alcahol consumption hsnt helped it, but she is a wonderful friend and while i wish for something more substantial, i dont want to ruin what we have

 

[knightstalker]

Tell her how you feel about her then see what she has to say if she isn't interested move on...You do sound a bit obsessed though and that ain't never good for someone..

 

[Irish_Rover]

ok let me rephrase, Im probably too drunk and too emotional to properly explain my emotions properly, but Ive recently been given a shock which has got me thinking about life. Last week I noticed a lump on the side of my leg, which my doctor told me could be cancer. Since thain ive had to think a lot about my future and my close friends. Ive got lots of female friends, but ive never felt as close to one as this person in particular, im just a bit panicky at the moment and i can honestly say that this girl is the first that ive been truely in love with

 

[sweetmamaangel]

Love.....

I am now married to a guy that was my friend for ten years, and my best friend for about five years. In that time he saw me get jerked around by one asshole after another.....some were addicted to drugs, some were cheaters and liars, and some just disrespected me constantly. He finally kissed me one time at a small party....I didn't think I liked him in that way. He wasn't my "type". But he was sweet and persistant and asked me to at least give him a chance, so i did. When we finally made love, it was the first time in my life i didn't want to cry afterwards....he has made some mistakes, don't get me wrong, and some were doozies, but he doesn't hit me, cheat on me, lie to me(anymore), steal from me, or sacrifice me for drugs. Now, I am so in love with him that I can't imagine ever being without him, and as I surrender to that feeling, there is vulnerability....what some girls are feeling when they go for the jerks is totally unconscious, but I realize now that for me, at least I knew what to expect.....i didn't admit that then, and I always hoped for better, but there is little risk of disappointment when you're dating an asshole. But when you date a nice guy, you expect them to treat you better, and sometimes they hurt you too, and it's worse because there was no warning. That is why it was so hard for me to let go and feel with my husband. Now, we've been together for two years and married for one, and we're raising his son, my son, and our new baby daughter......and none of it would be happening if he had given up on me
Good Luck

 

[sweetmamaangel]

Obsessed?

I don't think you sound obsessed....you aren't stalking her or being sneakiy to arrange things to you liking are you? I think you sound lovesick.......

 

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[Irish_Rover]

sorry

Im sorry for being so emotionsl in this post, Ive just been under a lot of stress. Im in the middle of exams, and with this lump just suddenly appearing on my leg, I got a bit emotional. Deciding to fox the problem with alcahol didnt really help. As far as the girl concerned goes, I think I would be unwise to ruin the friendship that we have, and love can be expressed without being in a physical or platonic relationship. As far as myself goes, Im officially not a psycho, im not going to stalk her and ive given up booze until i get several aspects of my life under control. Thank you all once again and sorry once ageain for even bothering to post this thread.

 

[sortacurious]

First off, don't apologize for starting this thread. Your not the first to need imput and surely won't be the last. I've tossed my own ideas around as to how to ask everyone here some questions. I could think of no better place to get feedback on these sorts of things!

Secondly, don't ruin a good friendship with love, if for any reason you think it won't be reciprocated. True friendship in this world is hard to come by, it's something to be treasured and nurtured. Love causes all sorts of things. It influences your interactions. I know you can't stop how you feel, but if you keep it to yourself, until you have reason to believe it would be wanted, then you get to keep the friendship without the awkwardness. If ever you think that time comes, then the love that develops between you will just be that much sweeter. IMHO. Rejection is a bitter pill to swallow, and opening yourself up for it is sure to bring to life.

As for your health, don't delay! I've lost too many people in my life to the dreaded C word. Seek 2nd, & 3rd opinions if you are not getting all the answers and care from you current doctor. I'm not saying that the lump is something dangerous, nor should you stress until you know. Just take care of yourself, because nobody else will do it for you. Good luck.