HAve you ever been bored in a scene?

[shy slave]

Well

Admit it..
Have you????

 

[serijules]

I'm not sure "bored" is the proper term to describe how I felt, but I am often in scenes where I am annoyed or a bit anxious for it to move in another direction. Usually I feel this way because my partner is going far too easy on me, or is constantly asking for my approval or my input on how the scene is going.

I recall one time I was playing with a new partner, and she kept asking me questions. What do you want next, how did that feel, do you want more or less, etc etc. After a few minutes of this I couldn't wait for the scene to be over as while I was not submissive to her, I was bottoming to her and having that much control was against my nature. I understood that she wanted the scene to be good for me and it was our first time and all, but come on...there is plenty of time to talk about such things before, rather than forcing someone to top from the bottom.

There was another time when I was playing sexually with someone, a man...and I was just not as turned on as he seemed to think I was. He kept switching up the scene, trying dozens of positions and toys and tricks to the point where I felt like I was running a marathon, not to mention his assuming I would be sooo turned on was aggravating to me. I'm not into multiple orgasms, and he was determined to give them to me...I ended up faking it just so he would knock it the fuck off. That was about when I started to realize that I really didn't like men much lol. It was ok, but I was admittedly glad when it was over and time to go home.

However, there was also one time when I was *not* bored at all, but my partner was upset thinking I was. Certain implements tend to take me into a deep subspace, and when I'm in subspace, I get extremely quiet and non-responsive (aka, rather boring for the top!!!). She was flogging me and I was floating, and afterwards she looked a little upset. I asked what was wrong, and she said she's never bored someone THAT much with her techniques. I had to reassure her I was FAR from bored, and apologize for in fact likely boring her. Since then, I try to be more responsive even when I'm really deeply in subspace.

 

[TaintedB]

Sorry, but no. And no thanks to me either. The credit is all theirs.

 

[shy slave]

serijules there is so much in your post that makes me think.

will have to formulate some coherant thoughts and come back to you.
Especially about the 'topping from the bottom' aspect.

thank you

 

[shy slave]

Sorry, but no. And no thanks to me either. The credit is all theirs.

Ahh so if a pyl gets bored, the PYL's get the credit then as well......

Great now i feel so much better

 

[dolf]

*looking smug*

i told you so!

 

[serijules]

I recall one time I was playing with a new partner, and she kept asking me questions. What do you want next, how did that feel, do you want more or less, etc etc. After a few minutes of this I couldn't wait for the scene to be over as while I was not submissive to her, I was bottoming to her and having that much control was against my nature. I understood that she wanted the scene to be good for me and it was our first time and all, but come on...there is plenty of time to talk about such things before, rather than forcing someone to top from the bottom.

I should add that this person was someone who knew me well (we had just never played till then), is an extremely experienced Domme, and we had discussed my limits and whatnot in depth before the scene...before anyone jumps my ass about communication being a necessity and all that Her style just didn't work for me.

 

[TaintedB]

Ahh so if a pyl gets bored, the PYL's get the credit then as well......

Great now i feel so much better

Absolutely. At least the ones I've been lucky enough to know would have gladly taken that credit as well. They wanted responsibility (power) over everything.

 

[shy slave]

*looking smug*

i told you so!

Yup you do 'smug' so well lol

 

[catalina_francisco]

Can't say I have ever been involved in a scene where I was bored in the real sense of the word, but have been in a couple where it was not as interesting as it could have been simply because the chemistry did not exist between the one I was playing with and myself. From an experience point of view it was interesting, but certainly lacked what I enjoy when the sparks fly from both directions. Haven't had any complaints of them being bored. Serijules story about subspace and the possible boredom for the PYL is why a certain man does not have an attraction to it happening when he is delivering his touch and I count myself fortunate I am not predisposed to going there.

Catalina

 

[serijules]

Serijules story about subspace and the possible boredom for the PYL is why a certain man does not have an attraction to it happening when he is delivering his touch and I count myself fortunate I am not predisposed to going there.

Catalina

When I first was collared to D and we played, I noticed that I did not get into that subspace nearly as easy as I do with casual play partners. This bothered me for the longest time, me thinking it meant I didn't enjoy playing with her as much as I did with others, or something like that. I finally realized that my reluctance to go to subspace was largely based on the fact that I did not ever want to be in a situation where my pleasure came before hers, which can happen easily in subspace. So now I'm thankful too, as you put it, that im not as predisposed to going there. I still enjoy it with casual play partners where my submission isn't required nor appropriate though.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I don't usually get bored during "scenes" because I'm doing whatever I feel like doing and if it was boring, I wouldn't be doing it. I don't give a fuck if the object is bored or not.

 

[Kajira Callista]

I don't usually get bored during "scenes" because I'm doing whatever I feel like doing and if it was boring, I wouldn't be doing it. I don't give a fuck if the object is bored or not.

niicccccccccccccccccccccccccce!

 

[TaintedB]

I don't usually get bored during "scenes" because I'm doing whatever I feel like doing and if it was boring, I wouldn't be doing it. I don't give a fuck if the object is bored or not.

"the object" Sheesh!

Q: Why does the attached picture remind me of Rosco?

 

[TaintedB]

A: Because he's reading a book, of course.

 

[Miss Diva]

Well

Admit it..
Have you????

Not bored but so cold my teeth started to chatter. And basically because the room was cold.

 

[Mermaid]

I've been in the position where I was just not getting turned on like I thought I would, by my partner. And in the position where they INSISTED I was really more hot than I actually was.

I don't fake it. But I do feel bad, if I feel like the partner is doing a lot of work and not getting the desired results out of me.

 

[shy slave]

I don't usually get bored during "scenes" because I'm doing whatever I feel like doing and if it was boring, I wouldn't be doing it. I don't give a fuck if the object is bored or not.

I doubt somehow that the object gets bored, or if they did they would have sense enough not to tell you!