Has this happened to anyone else?

[DaRkDeSiRe13]

I like daddy play and I often look for chat partners here on Lit; but I have guy in my life that's trying to play in real life...with out my consent.
So here's the low-down:There is a guy I work with and I had a huge school girl crush on him (I found out later on he had known about for it in the first 2-3 months out of the 8 it lasted)and finally he told my friend I was going to have to be the one to bring it up.The next day I finally worked up the courage and told him.To which he replied he knew and had let me exist as a wreck so I could learn to go for things I wanted in life.A nice lesson, but one that I don't feel was his responsibility to teach me.That doesn't sound so bad but when you take into consideration the way the whole thing effected my mental state ( I was obsessed but I only pursued because I felt like I was receiving signals that he might have some feelings for me too).I had asked him on multiple occasions if I was bothering him (no one wants a constant fan-girl) and he said I wasn't. I could go on and on.I know I could have said something earlier on but I've never said that to anyone and I felt that if he did or didn't like me he should be the one to make it clear.Anyways the reason I say hes acting like he's my daddy is because that's how hes been treating me recently; like I'm such a little girl its his job to guide me and be patient and understanding but he's only 5 years my senior. Maybe I'm just blowing this out of proportion.Hope I didn't waste anyone's time.What do you guys think? Any suggestions?

 

[girlyboi85]

Have a proper chat with him about how you view the relationship; remember, if someone tries to get you to do something that you are not comfortable with, you have to stress the word no to them. Make sure it's clear to him that you aren't playing a game, or being hard to get, etc.

 

[Tefenet]

I think you are taking his actions too personally. If he gave you time to make up your mind it was because he needed you to be sure. If you feel he is being condescending towards you I don't think that will ever change regardless of how well you discuss the issue with him. If he feels he is on another level than just let him be. I experienced a similar situation with a girl once. I had much more experience than her, and I wanted her to gain experience before considering me. We never worked out because of that. It's a shame when both parties are interested in one another, but the experience is too far apart. I think that's what attracts each other in this situation.