Has anyone tried utilizing a matchmaker?

[tigerjen]

Just curious........I wonder what the result(s) could be
from that other than just posting up a personal ad, etc.

any experiences in dealing w/ a matchmaker would be
helpful.......thanks!


tigerjen

 

[thrity]

my wife did it for her friends

my wife arranged a blind date for a guy and a girl, who are both her friends 3 months, now, they already cohabited.
but the guy even didn't invite us over for dinner as appreciation.

 

[cricketbug]

Sorry...couldn't resist

You know this was coming.


**singing**

Matchmaker, matchmaker make me a match.
Find me a find.
Catch me a catch.

*hee hee* gotta love Fiddler on the Roof!

 

[tigerjen]

a lot of views but only 2 responses....very disappointing.

bumping it up!

 

[TirelessTongue]

I used to belong to American singles, but I canceled my membership there because that website sucks so badly. Most of the responses were from women thousands and thousands of miles away which is useless to me. Most of the women there are stuck up anyways.

I tend to go to Cupid.com. They seem more reasonable and I have actually had dates from Cupid before. They aren't nearly as proprietary as American singles....and I don't have to filter out trash from women from the Phillipines or Nigeria. Some women would do anything to become an American citizen.

I've also just signed up and posted a profile on Casualkiss.com. So far, that website hasen't impressed me.

 

[homunculus]

I met my wife through Nerve, and dated a few other women before her whom I also met there. Also, I used a traditional matchmaker for a while--a woman who, for a fee, arranged for me to meet women. It was a good way to begin dating after a difficult divorce.

 

[ridddder]

Online Dating Services

I can tell you only what I have found out, and that of friends experiences, your mileage may vary. First thing, I have learned is how all the largest services keep getting new members in your area, is they pay people to make fake ones. I know for a fact on yahoo this goes on alot, I have spoken to two individuals who admited to me that they get rewards from yahoo for making up new names each week. After I learned that I unsubscribed from yahoo personals. Secondly, although you may get lucky in finding a nice genuine person like yourself online, for the most part you will find 4 types looking. Oddballs, circuit players, cheaters, &
real singles. The amount of real singles I call suspect, since my ratio of replies to emails sent is about 2%, women genuinely get more replies however you have to sort out the oddballs, the cheaters, and the players out of that group, and in doing so may miss out on the real people. The oddballs, are people which are strange, ie stalkers, unemployed, often tell you one thing, then the next day tell you they never said that, and things of that nature. I have met my share of them, and it is best to try to sort out what type of person with you are dealing, than just meet them on a whim some sunday evening at a local bar. The cheaters are just as it sounds, married people unhappy in their present relationships, looking for something better. Or people currently in any type of relationship looking for something better. I just can't trust anyone who will leave you just for the promise of something better, cause who knows when they will do that to you, if you don't meet their expectations. Lastly, we have the players, and there are alot of them. On the women's side there are the ones looking for rich guys to take care of them, on the men's side they are looking for anything that will go home with them in one date. I call them players, since locally they all know each other at the local bar/club scene, and or local single dances/events. My women friends on services such as match.com, and udate, and lavalife know all about them, so I guess I am just getting a refresher course in what to expect. Do I think you can find someone at such an online service, I think yes, is it as easy as it sounds, no. Do I think they cost too much? Yes, definitely, but then in the game of love is ever anything cheap? One place to steer clear of is adult friend finder, and a few of the video cam dating sites. I have tried them just to see, and they are a waste of your time, and are filled with porn bots, and fakes. Just look up my profile at match.com(screen name ridddder) to see that just being genuine is not enough, you have to be patient, and be savy too.

 

[GeorgeWBush]

Hi TJ how are you doing. Yes i tried a couple and talked with a few girls but never met them they decided that they did not want to but it was nothing to get excited over.

I talk with more here then anywhere else except for my IM's that is all that i have on my IM's are nothing but girls.

One girl she wanted to cyber and we had gotten into it or at least she did and then she typed shit my moms home bye.

And shut down. I laughed about it.

 

[homunculus]

Ridder's post is full of good advice, but I would add a couple of things. Some online services are better than others, and some are more specific than others. Nerve is legit, and because of the nature of the publication it draws people who tend to be sexually aware, yes single, and fairly literate. There are also services that cater to certain groups--people who are Jewish, or from certain age groups, or college backgrounds, or professions. I think the most reliable, and the most pleasant, way to go is to deal with a traditional in person matchmaker--I don't like that word, but it will do. But even there, you have to be careful, and do some research on them. Caution is always advisable...

 

[ABN_Ranger]

I tried one once. Ended miserably, we didn't click at all. The date was a total waste of time. Coulda been worse though, we coulda gone on a second date.

J

 

[zhukov1943]

A friend of mine tried one of the big services - I don't think she was terribly happy with the results. They wanted a LOT of money up-front...