Has anyone else ever had this problem?

[sweetaspeaches]

Are there any guys out there that are turned off by a woman who is sexually aggressive? If so, why? The reason for this question is that I just started dating a new guy and the sex thus far has been great when I can get it. The problem is we were riding down the road in his truck with me wearing a short mini and a low cut blouse. I kept catching him looking at me with wanting eyes, so I looked over at him and said "Why don't you pull over and take me right here and now?" With that is was told that I had turned him off. He said that he had kept looking at me thinking to himself what he wanted to me and that he was totally turned on by his thoughts. But when I told him that I wanted him to fuck me, it turned him off. He had no reason or explaination why this happened. Do any of you have a glue? If so, would you please shed some light on this situation.

 

[sweetaspeaches]

I know that some of you might think that it was my voice that turned him off, but it wasn't. I use to be a phonesex operator and I have spent many hours talking dirty or reading erotic stories to my new man and have him cum everytime. So what could it be? Someone out there has got to have an idea. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

 

[EROTICFUN]

A Turn-On

Some guys are turned off by an aggressive woman. I do not feel that way.

You mentioned sex has been good so I imagine you have been with him before and he knows you like sex.
Personally I would have stopped the truck right there or at least began running my hands up your legs, fingering and talking to you till we got to a more descreet location.

To each his own, but an aggressive playful woman can be a lot or fun.

 

[fish4fun]

I have a friend who says her husband is the same way. She can wear damn near nothing and not get his attention and she is quite sexy looking i should add. He only wants to play when he wants too. I have no idea what to tell her as i would jump on her in a heart beat.LOL. My wife and i can't go on a road trip without playing with one another. Had my hand all over her as we ride down the road.She sure gets hot this way too. And often we just stop and hit a field or a wooded area.Always keep a spare blanket in your vehicle is my moto.LOL Good luck with your problem there. I know i wasn't much help to ya.*L*

 

[sweetaspeaches]

Thank you EROTICFUN for your reply and the great image that came to mind of you running your hands up my legs and fingering my box. I have to admit that the thought turned me on.

 

[sweetaspeaches]

Fish4fun

The truck we were in was a big rig so there was a bed in the back and as far as a discreet place we couldn't have had a better place. Thanks for your reply.

 

[Georgia Girl]

Alot of it has to do with control as well as a desire on the part of the male to feel that he is the more experienced one.

Add also the element that some like to be teased. They want to look, smell, touch lightly and maybe even taste the fruit but being told that they can't actually "have" it keeps them rock hard.

Just some possibilities for you, maybe next time rather than saying anything just open the blouse, flip up the skirt and begin to play, its one heck of a rush and something I dearly love to do. Who knows maybe he'll catch on, pull over and you can play together.

Dawn

 

[fish4fun]

Geeeeeeee Thanks. NOw every time i see a big rig i will be looking inside to see if it is you now. *L*

 

[sweetaspeaches]

Georgia Girl you made a very good point that I hadn't that about
control on his part being very important. I think that you have got something there. Thanx

 

[sweetaspeaches]

Fish4fun

Here's a funny one about big rigs for you. A couple of weeks ago while on the road we were in the middle of rush hour traffic somewhere (sorry, I can't remember exactly which state). I was just staring out the window when this small truck came up beside us and the male driver was jacking his very hard cock. I just couldn't help but watch. All of the sudden he looked up and caught me watching and this totally turned him on. He started stroking himself faster and motioned for me to show him my tits. I told my new lover what was going on and he said that I should show him my tits (only if I was comfortable that is) and help this guy to get off. Well, as you probably guessed I did show my tits and even played with them while I watch him cum all over him. It was great. I tell ya you can see all kinds of shit sittin up there in a big rig , there is one hell of a view.

 

[mbig406]

Geezzz... I loved it when my girlfriend was aggressive...all we had to do to one another was to say "hey, wanna fuck?" that's all it took for either one of us...and we loved to play with each other when we were driving down the road, have had some of the greatest blow jobs ever...never cared if anyone saw us....just laughed and blew my load!!!!

 

[MissTaken]

All men are different.

For some, sex is something that they want when they want and if we put demands on them, it appears more of an inconvenience. (My experience from my ex husband.)

Most of the men I have dated prefer to control the sex adn the situation. Hence, a bit of subtle manipulation can go a long way.

Forgetting to put on your panties with a short skirt and then bending over always works!

 

[mbig406]

AMEN, darlin' about the short skirt and forgetful panties!!!!!!!!!!!!
always got my attention...

 

[double16in]

I would imagine that some men are turned off by a voiced invitation to fuck a woman as it puts them on the spot to create a hardon....another approach would be to hike your skirt and start fingering yourself or to unzip his pants and give him a bj while he's driving...my girl does both to me and OMG...I get the hardest woody when she does that!

 

[mike_mike02128]

Wouldn't have been a problem for me.....Car would have been stopped real quick. I wish more woman would be as open and forthcoming. Maybe he's just a control freak and can't stand somebody else being the initiator in a sexual situation.

 

[Beco]

gay possiblity?

well, if you're that hot, and you sound like you are, um, he must be gay!! Why do you think they call it "getting lucky" because it takes luck to get laid sometimes. If he didnt take you, not to worry, im sure he is gay...just my opionion

Beco

 

[mjp351]

I have met many women that are not aggressive and I will agree with many of the replies in the thread that I would love a woman that is aggressive. My soon to be ex wife is and not aggressive but I also think that it has to do with how they view or were taught how sex should be. Meaning if they were raised to believe that sex was normal and acceptable or if they were raise to think that sex was just for making babies and it was not to be fun.

 

[gallahad]

to me a woman being aggresive is a compliment

and a turn on that she is so excited

 

[gallahad]

Georgia Girl you made a very good point that I hadn't that about
control on his part being very important. I think that you have got something there. Thanx

might also be a little fear that he cant respond as she wants

 

[IBLNG2LAW]

If you ever get the opportunity to discuss this with him you might find that in this one certain situation he might have been looking at you and having his own private fantasy building in his head that didn't include you being aggressive... So when you came on strong it might have blown a thought he had growing in his mind...

You said that you have been intimate before so this might have been just a one time thing... Has he always been the aggressor before this?

 

[Gulfdiver]

for some guys, control is as much a turn on as sex, and when a woman is confidant and agressive, knowing what she wants and going for it, she turns off the jerks who want to be in control. a true relationship should be a partnership, with both parties being everything... agressors, receptors, explorers together

 

[fish4fun]

hi again sweataspeaches. Now if that didn't make him just want to tear your clothing off i'm not sure what would. Was this in the day light hours this happened? I never get flashed damn it.LOL But then again i don't make it a habit to drive around and beat my meat.. Anyhow thanks for the story gal. I can imagine you have a few too.

 

[sweetaspeaches]

Yes Fish4fun, it was in board daylight that this happened. I just couldn't believe what I was seeing, but it was a turn on to watch such a sight. I am truly sorry to hear you say that you never get flashed. You my friend are being denied the joy of daily what I believe is a great daily therapy. So, here is a *flash * to start your day off right.

 

[mbb308]

Thanks for the flash, Dear.

 

[Nicky9]

no problem you are all woman!

There is no problem with you being sexualy agressive.It just means you are all woman and open and honest about your sexuality. The women that live with me are very agressive. I am 49 and retired from IBM, and well off and we enjoy haveing the freedom to do what we want where we want.Some times if were driving down the road she get the urge she says find a country road or a reststop,I want to fuck you is such a erotic turn on. The other woman that lives with us is her daughter. Who is 31 and very agressive. She joins us on alot of activities and trips. We all sleep in one kingsize bed and to me life does not get any better and for sure competition between them is always there. The best to you Nicky9